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Peyton Fan:
I have a question. I just found out an aquaintance who is getting married has included in her places to register - her honeymoon. There are different amounts people can pay and different things people can pay for: Prices range from $25 - $150 per item. Things like: 500 miles of airfare, breakfast for two in bed, swimming with the dolphins, etc. This is something new to me. When I got married (only 8 years ago), this wasn't something I'd ever heard of. What do y'all think of this? Is this the norm today? It strikes me as a bit odd and strange. But maybe that is just me. I'd love to hear others thoughts on this.

TIA!

ZipTheWonder:
My thoughts are "I don't want to pay for any vacations but my own."   ;D

Even if you are well-established couple with more than enough of your wants and needs already met, you really should not even be hinting at other people paying for your vacation. 

I really don't know when we turned into a bunch of idjets who need so much handholding that we can't even select a decent gift for those who consider us their close associates.

Shoo:
I'd never contribute to someone's honeymoon registry.  The very thought of it makes my blood pressure go up.

Suze:

--- Quote from: Shoo on January 01, 2007, 09:10:35 PM ---I'd never contribute to someone's honeymoon registry.  The very thought of it makes my blood pressure go up.

--- End quote ---

Ditto !

If you can't afford to go somewhere -- don't go, simple.

dawbs:
I'm not a fan.
(I'm afraid this reply may be more long winded than I'd like...but I'm not finding good ways to edit myself tonight)

I am rather turned off by anything that I feel falls into the "registering for money" category.  If a bride and groom prefer cash, I think information can be (carefully!) spread word of mouth (of course, not registering is a big hint...).

I find honeymoon registries (and the "down payment registries" which also exist) to dictate what the gift should be more than I'd like.  If someone  has a 'traditional' registry and I use it to find a gift, I have a wide variety of items from their "wish list" to purchase for them (as well as the option of ignoring the registry and giving cash or a gift card or something else entirely).  If someone only has a honeymoon registry, the implication is "give us cash, we don't want anything else.

And if a couple truly has 'everything' and only needs cash, I'd prefer to be able to give the gift of cash without exorbitant fees taken from it in transit to the couple.

(when Mr. Dawbs and I wed, we preferred cash.  Because we'd both been on our own long enough that there was precious little we "needed".  However, I find more and more I'm grateful for those folks in my family who don't give cash (it's cultural I guess...people in my family do NOT give cash as a gift, ever.  Or gift cards.) and they shook their heads and went and bought me "real" dishes so I wasn't eating off the plastic cartoon-character Disney plates I had leftover from college.)

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