What do I do when I'm mad at my DH about something, and someone asks me about that topic?
DH and I have just joined a roleplaying game with some of our friends - they've all played together before, but we haven't. Part of the game is to make a character and make up a history for them - tabletop roleplaying is pretty much group storytelling with guidelines, so it lets the GM (the one running the story) know where to go with it. For example, if everyone decides their character doesn't know anything about guns, he won't design a scene that involves us having to shoot at things. However, if people say their characters are CIA agents or marines or something, we may have some gunplay involved.
Well, our friend who is the GM asked us two weeks ago to send him a one-page description of our character so he can plan the story. I sent mine right away, but DH hasn't done it yet. DH never checks his email, so GM friend has been emailing me asking if DH has written this yet.
Our second meeting is tonight, and DH was supposed to do this a week ago. It's a real inconvenience for our GM friend and everyone else in the group that DH hasn't done his "homework." However, I'm really stuck trying to figure out how to respond when people ask me about it.
Part of me wants to say "it's his own darn fault and he hasn't done it because he's lazy like that" (true), but I don't want to make everyone else uncomfortable, and that response would make it clear DH and I are frustrated with each other right now. I don't want people to feel like they're stepping into a spat. On the other hand, I'm sick of making noncommittal responses about why DH hasn't done things like this that he is expected to do.
More dramatic version of this frustration will be coming tomorrow - we're in the middle of moving to a new house (previously renting from FIL), and DH had the bright idea that he didn't want to start packing until the absolute last minute. I've been running myself ragged, but the movers were yesterday morning and I am DONE packing. I just want to unpack the stuff here and get on with it. However, there is still a lot of junk at the old house - everything that I didn't get to and that DH didn't have to actually pack for the movers, is still there. (Dishes, clothes in the closets, random junk that DH just stuffed in corners out of the way instead of actually packing). I have no intention of doing more about this - I haven't had more than 5 hours of sleep a night in the past week becuase I've been the one doing all the prep work. I told DH that since he wanted to do it all at the last minute, he's welcome to it. However, I know taht come tomorrow (when we're supposed to be out of the house), MIL and FIL will be asking *me* why we're not out yet. (I really don't expect DH to do any packing today, despite it being really the last last minute.) What do I say?