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Re: Christmas Cards -- how to deal with them in these changing times...
« Reply #15 on: November 25, 2015, 09:13:59 PM »
I love receiving photo cards.  Sure, you posted 27 pictures of your kid in the pumpkin patch, but I'd still like to have your one best picture of the year.

Plus, I use my phone to take a picture of each photo, and attach it to their contact in my phone, so I see it everytime we text or call all year.


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« Reply #16 on: November 26, 2015, 02:57:03 AM »
I used to send up to 80 cards with a  letter updating  accomplishments of the kids, grandkids, and us. I limited the letter to one page with a couple of photos from our vacations. Many years he cards were desdigned and printed by me.

Then I started dropping people who did not respond in kind. The two most disappointing were my maid of honor and a cousin i had felt rather close to. They were ordinary cards signed with "Love, name." And then we had a couple of years from hell including lots of health problems and deaths of dear people and I just couldn't bring myself to write depressing letters. I just do not care anymore. I found that people we care most about and who care most about us know anyway, and the wonderful years just seem like bragging.

This is another year filled with pain and I just can't do it. All but two of the elderly people that I sent to whom I we knew still enjoyed the letters have died, and now our circle has narrowed to mostly family and a few Facebook friends.

Even as a kid I sent a few cards, missing only 1963, my freshman year in college. The Kennedy assassination  really shook my world.


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« Reply #17 on: November 26, 2015, 01:33:12 PM »
I've made and sent about 20 cards in recent years but I think that I won't do it this year. I don't have any idea for the design (it tends to be something not traditionally Christmassy, last year I did a linocut of a landmark in my town) and they tend to take a lot of time and effort and I don't seem to have the energy this year. I feel slightly guilty and a bit relieved.

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« Reply #18 on: November 26, 2015, 06:22:33 PM »
I like to send cards. Until about five years ago, I still had a few pen and paper penpals from my childhood.

I do triage the cards I send, though. I start with my oldest relatives at the beginning of December and try to be quite chatty with the notes inside. The n I work my way theough far distant friends, you ger family, and closer friends. Some years the closer friends get just a "happy holidays" with no other notes. Seriously, I see them once or twice a week in some cases and I have nothing new to say other than good wishes.

I get fewer each year, depressingly as more of my older friends and family pass on. It is bittersweet to open my card box and see the ones from my grandma, or her cousin who I was very close to. It is hard to update the address list as well. But it is not a tit for tat situation to me (though I usually add people who send one to me first); this is my way of expressing good will, and I know it,s not for everyone.


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« Reply #19 on: November 26, 2015, 06:34:31 PM »
I send about 20 -25 cards.  Maybe 10 or 15 are received, including the ones from businesses.  People to whom I don't talk to the rest of the year (mostly relatives) get a copy of the holiday letter, the rest get just my fabulous signature because they already know what is going on.  It's fun to get mail that isn't a bill or advertisement. 

Last year I added three people.  I had been sending a card and letter to my aunt.  Her daughters enjoyed my letters so much that when Aunt passed away, they asked to be added to my list.

After Christmas, the cards will be used for next year's package decorations.


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Re: Christmas Cards -- how to deal with them in these changing times...
« Reply #20 on: November 26, 2015, 06:57:37 PM »
I send about 70 cards a year and we get about 60 back. The 10 who don't send cards are family who don't send cards to anyone but I include them anyway. My kids are little and so we usually send a family photo of DH, me and the kids. I have never written a newsletter though.

I'm really into photography, so in the past years, we've set up a photo session in my amateur studio and have used a self timer on the camera. Then, I use my Photoshop skills to make it into a 5x7 with some holiday backgrounds or clip art. This way, I can just order a ton of 5x7 photos from Winkflash or Walmart at the regular 5x7 price. A few years back, I ordered a huge supply of green 5x7 envelopes (well, whatever measurement is slighlty larger). And those envelopes have lasted several seasons. I use them for the kids' birthday party invitations too (which I also make with Photoshop). Then I do an MS Word mail merge and print address labels because my handwriting is nearly illegible unless I write at a snail's pace.

This year, I got a new job and have been working many hours. So I skipped the studio photo and just slapped in a casual photo of our family in ballcaps at a pumpkin patch. I wonder what my European friends will think of us. Maybe that we look like typical Americans with our ballcaps. Who knows.

I like receiving all the cards we get because we generally get photo cards of our friends. I have a huge corkboard that I put up in the kitchen every December specifically for pinning all the cards. I love seeing all our friends' smiling faces and seeing how their kids have grown. It makes me happy that they take the time to send us the photo cards. It's better, to me, than Facebook because I feel like my friends care about us and truly wish us good holidays, personally. And I feel happy to see all my friends, from all over the northern hemisphere (I need to make some friends south of the equator) all in one place.

At the end of the season, I keep the photo cards of the friends and family we're closest to, for keepsakes.
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« Reply #21 on: November 26, 2015, 11:09:14 PM »
I send a few cards each year to friends who are far away--include a letter--and to the few older relatives that we have left as they love to get mail.  Also, have a few friends in our city that we exchange with.


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« Reply #22 on: November 27, 2015, 08:02:00 AM »
I still send out traditional cards (no photos). I generally buy more than one box, one religious and one not. I buy them right after Christmas for the following year, when they're cheapest. If I don't get one in return for a couple of years in a row, I omit that household. I include a short newsletter on holiday stationery.


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I send over 100 cards each year and receive about the same number.  It's still a "thing" among my family and friends.  I adore photo cards and I save them in a basket by the hearth - it is so much fun to look back through the years and see how people have changed :).


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I'm an oddity, I guess. I still send out a ton of cards. I ordered 80 this year. About half are for me, and half are for my dog. He blogs for our rescue group, and there's a kind of community of animal bloggers that all do a Christmas card exchange. The dogs get more cards than I do -- by a LOT! They got nearly 40 last year, and I usually get maybe half that. Our cards are picture cards with a picture of just the dogs or the dogs and me on the front. For my cards, I send out a Christmas letter with them. I know it's an old-fashioned custom, but I still like it and will keep doing it. I display all the cards I receive each season -- mine in a little holder I have, and the dogs' taped to a door.


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Writing out Christmas cards is my least favorite holiday task.  In the last few years my list came down to about a dozen people and last year I didn't send cards at all; couldn't work up enough will to do it.  The thought that most people just look, read, and toss makes me think this is a waste of paper, effort, and postage.

My mother used to keep the prettiest cards and recycle them by cutting out the best front images and using them as package tags, but that was only if nothing was written on the inside front of the card.


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I still send them out. Though I admit, I have cut back the last several years.  I send them out to my relatives and close friends.  I still have some close family friends (older) that are not on social media.  I know, I still like to receive them, so I guess that is why I mail them out  :D


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I send over 100 cards.  I use mailing labels to make things easier.


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Over the years, I've cut my card list way down.  I used to send cards to my parents' siblings (7 and 12), but they've died out and I don't communicate with my cousins, with the exception of two back East.  Ditto my sibs, nephews and nieces, with the exception of a few here and there.  My rule is, hey, if they haven't sent me a card in two years, then they're off the list.

Sidebar:  When the USPS first came out with "Forever" stamps, I bought out my local post office and have been using those ever since.  The rate has gone up by a few pennies since then, so I'm not going to waste my stamps if I can help it, especially on someone who can't be bothered to reciprocate.


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I do things a bit differently in that I don't send christmas card but new year cards, this started in 2011 because I was in Tokyo for Christmas/New Year and there they're really serious about their NY cards (nengajo - you have to send them to almost everyone you said Hi to during the year , familly, colleagues, friends...) and they sell gorgeous cards.
No cards the two years after and then cards those past two years, so it's a pretty recent tradition.

I send them to my familly, some friends of the familly and at least one friend who also does NY cards, so about 10/12 or so households, a bit more this year because I'll send one to my 3 cousins and their partners. And one to friends who have a january baby boy so I'll combo with a birthday card.

I've had one card (from an aunt/uncle) sent in return, one note to thank me, and the one card I can count on from my friend.
It's not much "return on investment"  ;) but I still plan on trying to keep doing it every year, and trying to always tie it with the zodiac sign like they do in Japan.