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Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Reply #675 on: November 21, 2013, 01:33:11 PM »
Hill showed up this morning and was quickly defeated. 
DH has some local friends (let's call them Frank and Patty)  that found out that we were "not doing anything" for Thanksgiving Day*.  So Frank asked my DH if we wanted to come down to their house for T-Day.  DH is pretty sure that Patty told Frank to ask. 
Here is the deal, Frank and Patty are generally nice people. However (and you KNOW there was a however), they have two young adult daughters. 
The elder girl is really nice and just got married after finishing her bachelor's degree this summer.  She and her hubby will probably be there.  Not a big deal. 
The younger daughter is one year out of high school and is ... horrid.  Always has been.  No, there is no underlining issue (medical or otherwise).  She is just not a nice person and I have rarely ever had a civil conversation with her.  (When she was 12, she greated me by calling me Loser in front of her parents.  Her mom thought it was funny that daughter was teasing me.  :o wrong.  Other conversations have been just as bad.)   She generally acts at least 5 years younger than she really is.  Or at least an ill-behaved 10 year old.(and she is 19, I think)

Anyway, DH asked if I wanted to go.  "If you really want to, but not really."  He doesn't.  So I told him to basically tell his friend that I have plans for the day.  Thanks for the invite, but we will pass.  Wish our plans included the Doctor Who Marathon.   :-\




*Going to MIL's house on Saturday afternoon which is aplenty.

Thanks to Netflix, you can organize one of your own. :-)
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Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Reply #676 on: November 21, 2013, 01:35:00 PM »
I'm hoping my DS doesn't end up on his hill.  He's 20, got a decent job and a nice apartment (nothing fancy, but a step up from beer posters and milk crates - he likes things to look nice).  His dad told him last week that since he has this great apartment, he can host Thanksgiving - for his dad, his psycho stepmother, her 4 adult kids (1 drug addict with 2 kids and his current pregnant girlfriend, one burnout who might or might not be conscious, 1 single mom with 2 spoiled young teen daughters, and one somewhat normal girl with her boyfriend).  12 people in an apartment.  Psycho stepmom is prone to freaking out and throwing huge, violent, screaming fits which involve throwing food and much profanity.  DS has sworn he'll throw them out if she starts up - I hope he can manage it.

I'm thinking DS' hill should have peaked a little sooner. Say when he was voluntold to host.
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Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Reply #677 on: November 21, 2013, 01:36:06 PM »
To update my situation: phone calls were made last night. DH and I are exhausted but our families of origin understand that we are NOT going to visit for Thanksgiving.

We are still working on fortifying our spines as neither side is recognizing that we are not visiting for Christmas. Mom is already packed and ready for her current guilt trip. MIL is about to join her. No, no, non, jamais, nein, etc. I am not going home this year.
Time to retrain your brain.  "Home", my dear, is where you and your DH live.  Your parents/PILs house is just that, their house.

I know you are right about my mindset. But it looks like I'll be headed west for Thanksgiving anyway. It's not what you think! DH surprised me last night with a trip to Vegas! No cooking, no cleaning, and no guilt trips'

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Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Reply #678 on: November 21, 2013, 01:38:09 PM »
To update my situation: phone calls were made last night. DH and I are exhausted but our families of origin understand that we are NOT going to visit for Thanksgiving.

We are still working on fortifying our spines as neither side is recognizing that we are not visiting for Christmas. Mom is already packed and ready for her current guilt trip. MIL is about to join her. No, no, non, jamais, nein, etc. I am not going home this year.
Time to retrain your brain.  "Home", my dear, is where you and your DH live.  Your parents/PILs house is just that, their house.

I know you are right about my mindset. But it looks like I'll be headed west for Thanksgiving anyway. It's not what you think! DH surprised me last night with a trip to Vegas! No cooking, no cleaning, and no guilt trips'

Buffets, gambling and booze! Sounds good to me!

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Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Reply #679 on: November 21, 2013, 01:39:36 PM »
I'm hoping my DS doesn't end up on his hill.  He's 20, got a decent job and a nice apartment (nothing fancy, but a step up from beer posters and milk crates - he likes things to look nice).  His dad told him last week that since he has this great apartment, he can host Thanksgiving - for his dad, his psycho stepmother, her 4 adult kids (1 drug addict with 2 kids and his current pregnant girlfriend, one burnout who might or might not be conscious, 1 single mom with 2 spoiled young teen daughters, and one somewhat normal girl with her boyfriend).  12 people in an apartment.  Psycho stepmom is prone to freaking out and throwing huge, violent, screaming fits which involve throwing food and much profanity.  DS has sworn he'll throw them out if she starts up - I hope he can manage it.

I'm thinking DS' hill should have peaked a little sooner. Say when he was voluntold to host.

I would also recommend that DS get anything valuable out of his apartment and store it with Hilia for safe keeping, if you live close.  Any electronics smaller than a DVR; any sentimental trinkets; any money; anything small that could be pocketed and sold for cash or thrown.  And when he throws everyone out, if normal girl and her boyfriend are OK, let them stay.
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Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Reply #680 on: November 21, 2013, 01:41:42 PM »
I'm hoping my DS doesn't end up on his hill.  He's 20, got a decent job and a nice apartment (nothing fancy, but a step up from beer posters and milk crates - he likes things to look nice).  His dad told him last week that since he has this great apartment, he can host Thanksgiving - for his dad, his psycho stepmother, her 4 adult kids (1 drug addict with 2 kids and his current pregnant girlfriend, one burnout who might or might not be conscious, 1 single mom with 2 spoiled young teen daughters, and one somewhat normal girl with her boyfriend).  12 people in an apartment.  Psycho stepmom is prone to freaking out and throwing huge, violent, screaming fits which involve throwing food and much profanity.  DS has sworn he'll throw them out if she starts up - I hope he can manage it.

I'm thinking DS' hill should have peaked a little sooner. Say when he was voluntold to host.

I would also recommend that DS get anything valuable out of his apartment and store it with Hilia for safe keeping, if you live close.  Any electronics smaller than a DVR; any sentimental trinkets; any money; anything small that could be pocketed and sold for cash or thrown.  And when he throws everyone out, if normal girl and her boyfriend are OK, let them stay.

And if Hillia's not handy, perhaps a good friend, or even the trunk of his car?
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Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Reply #681 on: November 21, 2013, 01:48:21 PM »
My friend and I should have done Bingo last year but our nightmare guests weren't over the same dates. Mine left as hers arrived.

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Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Reply #682 on: November 21, 2013, 02:02:48 PM »
Mine has to do with Black Friday and work.  I work PT/2nd job in retail. And when not going to my mom's for Thanksgiving, I work that week, and generally BF too. Well, this year, I  wasn;t scheduled. Don't know why, but didnt question it.

Don't you know, last night, a week after the schedule came out, i get a message saying well, they need extra people and can you work that night? Let me think. NO. Sorry. if the schedule had just come out, I probably would have, but it either was an error on their part leaving me off, or they need more staff, but either way, a week later, I HAVE PLANS. Never mind they are to simply spend all day doing things at home, they're MY plans.

I work tonight; should be interesting, eps since the online schedule has me working then!  Short of being told if you don't work, you're out, which I don't htink will happen, I'm not giving in.

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Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Reply #683 on: November 21, 2013, 02:05:17 PM »
Not caving to my husbandís desire to change our current plans because my SILís marital status has changed.

BG/  For the past 6 years, DH and I have not gone to his sisterís house for Christmas because it was important to her to have the morning/afternoon just for her immediate family (hubby and 2 sons).  The first year we were together, we werenít welcome until the evening.  DH (then BF) and I kind of puttered around my apartment until it was time to go to her house.  Well, Iíve decided that Iím not going to sit around my house on Christmas waiting until Iím allowed to show up somewhere sooo, during the past few years,  DH and I have either gone to Vegas or gone to my sisterís house. 

DH and my little sis get along GREAT and he even likes my nieces more than his nephews. So, thereís no issue of his not feeling comfortable with my family.

Christmas plans have been in effect since last year:  presents in the morning, then weíre going to sisterís boyfriendís parentsí house for afternoon games and dinner.  Everyone is looking forward to it. /BG

This year, my SIL has finally decided to file for divorce and suddenly is upset that weíre not going to her house for Christmas because since her hubby wonít be around, her family dynamic has changed and DH and I are suddenly wanted at her house in the morning for presents and sheís upset because we alwaaaaays go to my sisterís house.  DH has now informed me that he feels bad for her because of the divorce and wants to go there for Christmas.  I just smiled sweetly and told him that I honestly donít care where he prefers to be on Christmas dayÖ.Iím going to my sisterís and he is welcome to join us or not.  But Iím not changing my plans. 

Especially since her boys are horrible children and I have no desire to be around them for more than a couple of hours, if at all.   SIL is an awesome woman but an incredibly ineffective parent.


**edited to add that my sister lives too far away to be able to go  to both homes on the same day
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Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Reply #684 on: November 21, 2013, 02:10:44 PM »
My in-laws usually go to a timeshare for Thanksgiving week and spring break. DS usually goes with them for a few days.

We found out yesterday that they have invited other relative as well. DS is 15 and other relative is an adult. The PIL have only booked a one bedroom condo, and there is a pull out sofa in the living room area. There are four people for three nights with two beds.

I think I am going to pull the plug entirely.

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Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Reply #685 on: November 21, 2013, 02:15:21 PM »
Don't you know, last night, a week after the schedule came out, i get a message saying well, they need extra people and can you work that night? Let me think. NO. Sorry. if the schedule had just come out, I probably would have, but it either was an error on their part leaving me off, or they need more staff, but either way, a week later, I HAVE PLANS. Never mind they are to simply spend all day doing things at home, they're MY plans.

This bolded bit, right here, I just gotta say, plans are plans! I hate when I'm planning on doing nothing much people say "Well, since you don't have any plans", no I do have plans! I have plans to lay around my house, eat, and play with my dogs. Those are plans!!! Maybe not exciting plans, but plans none the less.

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Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Reply #686 on: November 21, 2013, 02:28:31 PM »
My friend and I should have done Bingo last year but our nightmare guests weren't over the same dates. Mine left as hers arrived.

I suggest the use of timing devices. Declare & document a start time (something like "when first guest rings the doorbell" or, if the guests are prone to starting drama before arrival, "24 hours before anticipated arrival time"). Then keep track of when you check off each BINGO box. Then you can compare notes later, and whoever got bingo fastest, wins!
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Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Reply #687 on: November 21, 2013, 02:39:54 PM »

My family's big thing was the coleslaw.  Mom ALWAYS made coleslaw for the holiday dinner, but forgot to get it out.  Invariably, right about the time we're all stuffed and looking at each other, someone will say, 'Oh no! We forgot the coleslaw!'
So, the coleslaw always got eaten with the leftovers.  Never for the big dinner itself.

My grandmother had the same recipe as your mom, only she made it with string beans. She'd prepare the beans, put them in the refrigerator, and then forget to serve them. Sometime before the end of the evening, she'd say, "Oh, s***! I forgot the string beans!"
It's a really easy recipe and you can use it with any vegetable.  >:D

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Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Reply #688 on: November 21, 2013, 02:44:52 PM »

My family's big thing was the coleslaw.  Mom ALWAYS made coleslaw for the holiday dinner, but forgot to get it out.  Invariably, right about the time we're all stuffed and looking at each other, someone will say, 'Oh no! We forgot the coleslaw!'
So, the coleslaw always got eaten with the leftovers.  Never for the big dinner itself.

My grandmother had the same recipe as your mom, only she made it with string beans. She'd prepare the beans, put them in the refrigerator, and then forget to serve them. Sometime before the end of the evening, she'd say, "Oh, s***! I forgot the string beans!"
It's a really easy recipe and you can use it with any vegetable.  >:D

And I do.  :D  There's always some side dish that gets forgotten.  Then I remember it when I'm looking at my plate, contemplating the mass of carbs, and wondering why there isn't anything green on the plate. 

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Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Reply #689 on: November 21, 2013, 02:45:04 PM »
Don't you know, last night, a week after the schedule came out, i get a message saying well, they need extra people and can you work that night? Let me think. NO. Sorry. if the schedule had just come out, I probably would have, but it either was an error on their part leaving me off, or they need more staff, but either way, a week later, I HAVE PLANS. Never mind they are to simply spend all day doing things at home, they're MY plans.

This bolded bit, right here, I just gotta say, plans are plans! I hate when I'm planning on doing nothing much people say "Well, since you don't have any plans", no I do have plans! I have plans to lay around my house, eat, and play with my dogs. Those are plans!!! Maybe not exciting plans, but plans none the less.

Exactly! and I will be stressing all day, if I know I have to stop, get ready, eat dinner, etc. and go to work, not to pick up again until Sunday, as I'm working all day sat. this way I can get my stuff done, and then have some relaxing time wiht football on sunday.