The holidays this year are tinged with sadness..in February, my older DD's dad (my ex husband) died and in August my dad passed, but because of these things and the need to still try to make it through without anyone under the tree sobbing, the hills I have been complaining about are now firmly taken care of. I will invite who I want to my house (I have been doing both Thanksgiving and Christmas due to it being hard for my step mom these last few years) and if you don't want to come because you don't care for someone I invited (not a toxic thing, just something in their own mind that no one else can understand), stay home. I will invite you, but I will not beg you..hemhaw around and I will consider you as a no. If you want to wait for a better invitation, fine, but don't expect me to sweeten the deal to make mine look better. I will NOT lock up my cats. They, for the most part, hide when company is here, the house is clean and as fur free as possible, but this is their house and I no longer will put them in the basement all day because you don't like them..I think they would prefer you not come over to dis them. My kids are allowed to play, laugh, and enjoy themselves. They will NOT be told to settle down when they are laughing over a new DVD, or playing a game together. If the sound of their laughter is offensive to you, please leave..the cats are already mad, don't make the kids mad too. My meal is at 5 pm..no I will not change a humongous made from scratch meal to noon because you made the choice to drive down for 8 hours for a holiday weekend but have to work the day after Christmas. And whining will get you no where..makes the cats angry and the kids giggle. I make enough food for the infantry, but is there a reason to make a pig of yourself and eat three huge platefuls of food, in some instances, finishing off sides for seconds before everyone has finished their first normal serving? Then complaining that I didn't make enough (4heads of cauliflower, 4 large bunches of broccoli for 7 people and they ate 3/4 of it between 2 of them). If you can't wait to start eating until your gracious hostess has gotten her plate and sat down, after getting all your last minute requests of this that or another, you are just a rude pig. Would it have killed you to wait 5 more minutes??? Do not lecture my kids at the dinner table as to what they should or should not be doing. I got it under control and they are trying to enjoy their holiday, not hear about why they need to be doing XY or Z is the only right thing to do. You give them indigestion (and the cats get mad). Do not feed my dog from the table..yes, I know she has her head on your lap and her sweet eyes are making you feel bad, but if you haven't noticed, she is overweight as is and table foods make her gassy...you leave, she sleeps next to me! Do not lecture me about my job , my love life , how I spend my money , my house or anything else that is actually none of your business. I love my job, and yes, it is a big step down from my last position but I am not getting ulcers and hives, I don't want to date TYVM and no please don't set me up with your lawn guy, unless you pay my bills my spending is no one's business, my house isn't a castle but we love our home..and it is the home that was opened up to you for a lovely meal so you didn't spend the holidays alone!
Whew....that felt sooooo good to finally say instead of gritting my teeth and suffering through, which I will no longer do!
*As usual, all you's are general unless you know they mean my step family