Well, DS is already showing signs of a nice shiny spine! He's been voluntold to host his dad, stepmom, and step-sibs and their families for Thanksgiving. That's already 12 volatile people. One sister called and asked if her friend could come also, and the other sister wanted her teenage daughters to each bring a friend. He called me in a panic, and I gave him some nice eHell lines and a pep talk. So he sent a group text stating that he could only host immediate family; the one sister said fine, the other started whining:
Sis: But I already invited the girls' friends!
DS: I'm sorry, you should have asked me first. I can't host them
Sis: But it's only 2 additional people!
DS: I'm sorry, I can't host them
Sis: Fine! We just won't come!
DS: I'm sorry to hear that, we'll miss you
She finally backed down, and he scored his first moral victory. I'm very proud of him!