I will not travel eight hours to see you to have you a) glued to the tv and b) wander off in the middle of our visit leaving me sitting alone in your house.
It's crazy that you would have to tell a "loved one" this, but I've seen it before. My friend, Rachel, had stopped visiting her sister over it. Rachel is single and childless, while her sister, Sarah, is married with two kids. Sarah insisted that Rachel had to come see her to visit, because it was easier for one person to travel the six hour drive than for her to take her husband and kids to the large city where Rachel lives. Rachel would make the drive and show up, only to find that Sarah had planned to go to a party, go to lunch with friends, or had appointments/plans almost every day while Rachel was there. She would insist that Rachel should just wait at the house because it would be rude for Sarah to invite Rachel to someone else's party, include her in lunch plans with other people or take her to appointments with her. If Rachel said, "Maybe you could schedule these plans when I'm not in town?"
then her sister would get highly indignant about how it wasn't her fault that she had so many friends and Rachel wasn't the only one with a busy life.
So Rachel, sick of sitting around the house, just stopped accepting the invitations/summons. Rachel loved the kids, but she was also tired of serving as an unpaid and largely unappreciated babysitter for her niece and nephew. Sarah got really ugly about it, but Rachel hasn't been to see her since. Based on some statements Sarah made during her accusations of Rachel being "unloving" and "selfish," Rachel thinks Sarah has some deep-insecurities about living in a small suburban town, raising children, while Rachel is a young professional living in a large city. Rachel thinks Sarah feels the need to show how busy and important she is by having a constant cycle of events while Rachel is in town. I was pretty proud of Rachel for dropping the rope and walking away.