My first post! I feel like I should mark it in red ink on the calendar or something!
Not my hill, but my mother's. Background: every year for the past five years, my mom and I have hosted her extended family for Christmas (I currently live at home). Mom has nine living siblings, seven of whom live in the same town as us. For as long as I can remember, the family has gotten together for a weekend to celebrate Christmas, usually a couple weeks before the actual holiday, or sometimes a couple weeks after, depending on schedules. Hosting duties traditionally shifted from family to family each year, and the next year's host would be decided during the current year's festivities (ex. the host of 2010's celebration would be decided before everyone went home after 2009's celebration). End background.
So, as I said, my mom has hosted for the last five years. She's happy to do it; she loves having her family around, even those relatives who drive her nuts a lot of the time. And she wants to keep the family celebration tradition going. However, one thing that has bugged her is that each year, it seems like everyone just assumes that she will host the family, and no one else steps forward to offer to host. Of course, there are valid reasons for some family members not hosting; several have houses that are too small, or too far away. But others have plenty of room and either a) don't want to be bothered with it, or b) have ridiculous issues with other family members and refuse to grow up and get over it, so they don't host. It's already December, and no one has made any mention of hosting.
Well, this year, Mom decided that she wasn't going to worry about it. There have already been relatives who have asked her 'when's the family Christmas going to be?' and Mom's answer has been, simply, 'I don't know.' She's not going to offer to host, or even mention it at all. She hates to see the tradition die, but she has decided that she's done. Maybe a year of not having the big family Christmas at all will encourage other members of the family to step up. We'll see what happens!