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StarDrifter

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Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Reply #930 on: December 09, 2013, 03:52:18 AM »
This will be our first Christmas with Baby Drifter (born in April) and I am flatly refusing to be anywhere but in my own home for Christmas morning.
I've had pressure from both my mum and Husband's mum to stay at either of their houses for Christmas eve night, but we're staying put at our own place.

Baby Drifter has plenty of presents to unwrap (okay, she's going to be 8 months old on Christmas day so she's just going to chew on the paper) at both houses, but she's going to be here with us in the morning for her stocking, then we're having lunch with my folks and dinner with Husband's parents, so she can open the presents from them when we see them.

Next year, however, we will be at our *new!!* house and will be able to host everyone for Christmas lunch. I am hoping this will settle any disagreements about where Baby Drifter is for her stocking unwrapping.
... it might frighten them.
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Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Reply #931 on: December 09, 2013, 06:20:01 AM »
I've had one Christmas morning in my own house since i moved out of home 15 years ago. I'm always at either my or DH's parents' house. It's not my hill yet, but I can see it coming eventually.

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Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Reply #932 on: December 09, 2013, 07:58:56 AM »
I have been feeling the need to have DH pick one major holiday over Christmas break for us to meet with his parents and only one.

Any meal with DH' parents results in DH and I cooking 90% of the meal, dragging it to their house, then having to set up while one or both PIL start eating before everyone is at the table. Neither is complimentary to the meal or the cooks, and that drives me up the wall. Also, MIL is extremely picky and doesn't like half of the ingredients we enjoy cooking with. For example, if I make a chocolate dessert that would be enjoyed by everyone but MIL, I also need to make another dessert that does not contain cherries, blueberries, raisins or chocolate that MIL would enjoy.

Not this year. We are going to have our fancier and more gourmet meal on Christmas Eve, just the three of us and make a simpler roast, sides, dessert to take to their house for Christmas Day lunch. We will not be seeing them over New Years either. My stress levels have dropped.
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Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Reply #933 on: December 09, 2013, 08:00:52 AM »
I understand that most hills involve negotiating boundaries and varying toxicity levels in families, but I believe mine is much, much more grave.

I will not tolerate the song "The Christmas Shoes."

My mom and a cousin love it insanely, and cry, and talk about how beautiful it is. Besides the fact that I hate glurge, I also think the song has a hugely problematic message. Plus I think it's a terrible song music-wise. But those who just love it and think it "embodies the true meaning of Christmas" seem to think that the more they play it, I'll eventually come around. And it won't happen.

Now, do I ask my mom to not play the stupid song when we have Christmas music on, or do I just quietly sneak into her mp3 files and hide the dang thing?

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Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Reply #934 on: December 09, 2013, 08:24:19 AM »
I understand that most hills involve negotiating boundaries and varying toxicity levels in families, but I believe mine is much, much more grave.

I will not tolerate the song "The Christmas Shoes."

My mom and a cousin love it insanely, and cry, and talk about how beautiful it is. Besides the fact that I hate glurge, I also think the song has a hugely problematic message. Plus I think it's a terrible song music-wise. But those who just love it and think it "embodies the true meaning of Christmas" seem to think that the more they play it, I'll eventually come around. And it won't happen.

Now, do I ask my mom to not play the stupid song when we have Christmas music on, or do I just quietly sneak into her mp3 files and hide the dang thing?

When will I learn? When? When somebody on EHell says 'see this? this is a bad bad thing', why do I always hit google? Why do I not think 'poundcake writes like an intelligent individual who wouldn't lie to me'? Why? Why do I go to Youtube?

Poundcake, corrupt the mp3 file. Do it now. I'll give you an alibi. And if anybody thinks that we in the UK need this as one of our Christmas traditions, I'm volunteering for the barricades. Generally, I don't think that we need to protect our borders with heavy artillery, but in this case I'm prepared to make an exception.

ladyknight1

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Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Reply #935 on: December 09, 2013, 08:25:24 AM »
I listened to that song once. That was enough for a hundred lifetimes.
ďAll that is gold does not glitter, Not all those who wander are lost; The old that is strong does not wither, Deep roots are not reached by the frost."
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Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Reply #936 on: December 09, 2013, 08:40:42 AM »
I have a list of Christmas songs that I hate, and The Christmas Shoes is at the top of that list.  If it comes on the radio, I shout at it, and tell it how terrible it is.  I refuse to have it played in my house, and I've been known to quietly get up and leave if someone starts talking about how much they LOOOOVVVEEEE it. 

Talk to your family about not playing it over and over if you think it'll do any good.  I would personally just delete any copy of the song that exists where I could find it, and express surprise when no one can find it.  Have another song or CD ready to suggest as a distraction.  Kind of like "Oh, no one can find the Christmas Shoes?  How weird!  Here's John Denver's Christmas CD!  Let's try that!"

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Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Reply #937 on: December 09, 2013, 09:15:23 AM »
I don't know which song that is, and now I'm scared to google it  :-\

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Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Reply #938 on: December 09, 2013, 09:18:08 AM »
NyaChan, don't do it! You're better off not knowing.
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Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Reply #939 on: December 09, 2013, 09:31:23 AM »
There is a video on Youtube.  I stopped at the 20% mark.





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Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Reply #940 on: December 09, 2013, 09:33:38 AM »
I made it to 50%, dont do it!

NyaChan

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Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Reply #941 on: December 09, 2013, 09:35:03 AM »
Ok I caved - I know that story!  I don't know why anyone would want to sing about it though...

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Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Reply #942 on: December 09, 2013, 09:42:35 AM »
I like it. Though I haven't listened to it in years and it's not one of my favorite Christmas songs.

I do always wonder...what exactly are Christmas shoes? Does one wear special shoes on Christmas?

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Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Reply #943 on: December 09, 2013, 09:47:07 AM »
I have been feeling the need to have DH pick one major holiday over Christmas break for us to meet with his parents and only one.

Any meal with DH' parents results in DH and I cooking 90% of the meal, dragging it to their house, then having to set up while one or both PIL start eating before everyone is at the table. Neither is complimentary to the meal or the cooks, and that drives me up the wall. Also, MIL is extremely picky and doesn't like half of the ingredients we enjoy cooking with. For example, if I make a chocolate dessert that would be enjoyed by everyone but MIL, I also need to make another dessert that does not contain cherries, blueberries, raisins or chocolate that MIL would enjoy.

Not this year. We are going to have our fancier and more gourmet meal on Christmas Eve, just the three of us and make a simpler roast, sides, dessert to take to their house for Christmas Day lunch. We will not be seeing them over New Years either. My stress levels have dropped.


LK, use that logic hammer and put your foot down.  If your ILs want you to cook them Christmas lunch/dinner, then it happens at YOUR house, on YOUR timetable.  No more hauling everything over there, etc. etc. It isn't logical!  And if it's your DH wanting to do that, tell him you want a million dollars and a pony, too, but you aren't getting it.  Then if necessary, introduce him to the Frying Pan of Gentle Persuasion.

Re the Christmas Shoes song -- there are HUGE plot holes in it.  This kid is so young that he doesn't know how to count money, or realize that "Mommy meeting Jesus" means that she's going to die.  And yet he's at the mall/Walmart/Target all alone on Christmas Eve?  And no one asks him where his adult guardian is?  They just pay for the shoes and let him walk away without making sure that someone is taking care of him?  I'm not  over that song -- I'm  
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Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Reply #944 on: December 09, 2013, 09:53:17 AM »
I have a list of Christmas songs I hate, and most everything that plays on the radio is on it. Traditionally the Christmas music in the background at my family is Manheim Steamroller, Vienna Boys Choir (or similar boys choir), or Trans Siberian Orchestra. There may be a few pieces from The Nutcracker making their way into my holiday playlist, but mostly because my dad is gone and can't argue against it any longer. And whenever possible, the choir songs are in the original languages.

I'm a music nerd. So is my sister. Neither of us can stand the incessant Christmas pop music that starts the day after Thanksgiving. If I'm at someone else's party and it's playing in the background I'll try to ignore it or translate the lyrics to Latin (because why not?), but if I'm in charge of the music, it will not be played.

ETA: Went to look up the lyrics for Christmas Shoes. That's just weird. I didn't even listen to it, but the story is enough to make me want to curl up into a ball and avoid the glurge of the rest of the season.