Well, I thought I was going to get through this year with no hills...no such luck
My SIL is wanting to have the family get together at a hotel/restaurant in the town she lives in, which is about halfway between our house and FIL's house, under the comment of "no set up or tear down." I absolutely abhor the idea of making people have to work Christmas Day...I don't care if they're "planning to be open anyway" because they wouldn't be if there wasn't a demand. I don't want to go out to eat for Christmas Dinner, it just feels wrong. I think I upset SIL by asking why she wanted to tear people away from their families for Christmas though...
Add in the undercurrent, that DH thinks she's trying to schedule her in-laws to be there too, so that both families have an awkward and uncomfortable dinner together, just so she and her hubby can be with everyone...no. They had Thanksgiving with his family, I don't even know them, I don't want to spend my Christmas afternoon with people I don't know. Apparently, I'm unreasonable (DH's attitude...he didn't say it, but that's my impression of his attitude).
I'm considering offering the compromise of going out for Christmas Eve, on the condition that we spend Christmas Day at home, just DH, me, and Toddler. That was my plan for Christmas Eve, spend it just the 3 of us, at home, just relaxing and enjoying each other.