I agree with all the people with so many places to be.
I am an introvert. I get social anxiety. I do not like crowds. Every time I go somewhere, I have to have an "out" if I get overwhelmed. BF knows this, and so does my family. For the most part, there are no problems. But so far for this holiday season, I have:
Thanksgiving with BF's family 11/28. I've never been to their TG before, and I don't know what to expect, but I do love his extended family so it shouldn't be too bad.
Niece's birthday party 12/12
Mom's holiday open house 12/14 (I will be expected to be there to help host for several hours, which is OK by me, I can always hide in the bedroom)
Christmas Eve 12/24 at mom's house, tradition of evening gathering that's very laid back, probably with Sis and Sproglet and Mom and me, maybe Grandma
Christmas Day 12/25 - not sure what's going on, but I know BF is going to be invited to the "big" family get together we do that day, in addition to stopping by best friend from high school's house for a few hours (another tradition of mine)
Friend's Feast - date TBD - it's basically a Thanksgiving with the "family" we weren't born into with BF's extended group of friends
Holiday Party 12/28 - same people as above, and I can only handle very limited amounts of some of the people in this group. Also includes gift exchange. I said on FB I wasn't going to be participating, then this past weekend the people hosting it pressured me further saying that it didn't have to be fancy, it didn't have to be expensive, it could just be something thrown together like cookie mix or hot cocoa mix. But, you know, there's no pressure or anything, I don't have to do it if I really don't want to.
Second Holiday Party 12/28 - people I know a lot better and like a lot better, but further away, and I don't know my way up there or back, nor do I like driving in that area, so I may not be able to go
New Year's Eve Party 12/31 - same people as two parties above, a third location that I don't know where it is or my comfort level in that location
Possible second NYE party for those who work weekday jobs 12/29 - again, the same group of people and location unknown
When official invites go up on FB, I will be choosing which events I'll be attending, and sending my regrets for the rest. And if anyone says boo to me about it, I will politely explain to them that I will be unable to attend their event, I hope they have a great time. Repeatedly. I will not be pressured into going, or into participating in a gift exchange that I do not wish to participate in.