It was a huge relief after Dad died to be done, completely done with extended family holidays. We really enjoyed Thanksgiving and Christmas just being the four of us and will repeat that this year.
The only reason we did the holidays with my sister and her family was to make Dad happy. Now that he is gone, I can finally never have to deal with my sister ever again. All of the kids and their cousins are adults and have figured out how to have relationships
with each other without my sister and I needing to facilitate.
I thought I would feel sad last year, but instead it felt like a huge, huge weight was lifted from my shoulders, as it was an incredible amount of work to deal with my sister.