Hi everyone, this is my first post, but this subject just called me to share.
My holiday hill to die on:
(BG) I live a state away from most of my family and I am always traveling down to them for holidays and such. I am 2 years out of college (making me 24) and every time I travel home it is more stressful and I start to dread holidays.
1). This year I will not put up with comments about my weight. It was always "You have thunder thighs." "Should you really eat that?" "You look like you have gained some weight". Well, I have recently lost 40 lbs and when I went back for Thanksgiving my great-grandma said in a loud "whisper" "Mandible is getting too skinny (ha, I am 174 pounds and 5'9", I think not) she should really put on some weight. No more weight comments! EVER! If someone says anything, I will beandip, but if they continue I will just get up and walk out.
2). My mom commandeering all of my time and making me feel guilty when I want to stop and see some friends, or spend time with my aging grandparents, who she hates.
There is a lot of history with this, but basically it boils down to not being talked over, made to feel less than or just generally feel unappreciated by people who never take time out to visit me.
Thanks for letting me ramble.