Listen, in my opinion, it doesn't matter whether or not you think it is right or wrong....the point is that the leader has no business trying to regulate it whatsoever! And the fact that the senses is punishing members is so far out of line....it is beyond bonkers.
You know, I'm so glad I don't belong to any groups like that.
One of the things I love about EHell is the interest group and location-specific areas. I really like that I can discuss common interests with people from all over the world whom I already know are sort of pre-vetted to be nice. Last summer vTenebrae had a baby. She and I have become particular friends through EHell, and I made her a blanket based on a pattern that T'Mar of Vulcan had shared with me.
I know Scritzy on Facebook, and while I don't think we are humongous, humongous friends, we are friendly, more than acquaintances. I've seen her post a lot about her crafting. She quilts, and it's been something I'd like to try for a long time, but I've hesitated to get involved with it because it's such a commitment, and what if I started and got stuck and couldn't finish it? Lately I've been thinking that if I did run in to problems I could seek her out for help, and it's made me feel a bit more confident about trying something small.
I missed the Chicago-area meetup last spring, but based on the people who expressed an interest in getting together I was able to include some of them in some get-togethers later in the summer. I've made four really good friends that way.
I'd hate if it were a policy here that members with interests outside of etiquette couldn't meet outside of Ehell to share those interests. I would be missing so much.