This thread is making me all kinds of angry. It's weird because I'm usually the person left out of things, and yet here I am hotheadedly defending the people's right to meet without me.
The Sensei's actions are just so antithetical to who I am as a person that....
Look, I'm insanely curious. But I know it's none of my business who's going where and doing what if they haven't filled me in on their plans. Sometimes I'm dying to pry, but I don't, because I know it's wrong. I can't imagine having someone else's personal property and investigating it any further than required to find out whose it is. If I were the Sensei and had found out about those message, I'm not sure that I would be hurt, but if I were, I would be chagrined that I had found out through snooping and nosiness, and blame myself for my feelings.
And if I were the Sensei, in a sense I would be proud that I had created a community that was larger than just the instruction that I was giving out each week.
Look, today is the first National Day of the Deployed in the US. The entire Congress and Senate voted unanimously to honor our deployed troops with a day set aside for their recognition. A lot of people much more politically savvy than I worked very hard to make this happen. I could name names, but they're not on EHell, so I won't bore you.
But here's the thing, about two years ago I ran into a woman on Facebook who was behind the several-years-running annual Houston Salute to the Troops. I used the Facebook friend suggester tool to recommend her as a friend to two people in Soldiers' Angels because they are all three that type of "all hands to battle stations" women that get things done. And I know that their collaboration is at the heart of what led to National Day of the Deployed. So I own a small part of that. Nothing huge. Nothing major. Nothing that will get awards or commendations. But I helped make something important happen. And I feel good about that.
Like I said in the inspirational quotes thread, one of my favorites is, "If you can't win, make the one ahead of you break the record."
Synergy is supposed to be a good thing. People working together bringing their divergent disciplines together. Watson and Crick. Gilbert and Sullivan. Jobs and Wozniak. Who introduced those people and had a small hand in advancing science or theater or modern computing? What the Sensei is doing is to my mind, and in my universe, just wrong. Fundamentally, at the core wrong.