Another poster reminded me, I forgot to report back on my cousin's wedding, which took place on November 26th. I wasn't in attendance because of the halo issues. My mom noted that apart from the usual organizational issues associated with events hosted by this branch in the family (read: lack of organizational skills), the wedding went off very well, the bride was radiant, the groom was ecstatic, and a good time was had by all, which I was happy to hear for my sweet cousin.
A few days later, I was at the hospital visiting my grandma, and my uncle (bride's dad) and aunt (bride's stepmom) were there. I asked my aunt about the wedding and how it went. My cousin's natural mom's family was there also, and these are the type of people who take the "fun" out of "dysfunctional." So I asked if there were any major disputes between our family and my cousin's mom's side of the family (it was not an amicable split, and these people still try to worm their way into all our family functions - 25 years later!).
Anyway, my aunt replied, "No, the G family has too much class for that," then added, in a tone that was somewhat less than neutral, "except your cousin June." Note that June is the bride's older sister, and my aunt's stepdaughter.
June was a member of the wedding party, as a BM (I think she expected, as the bride's sister, to have been made MOH, although the sisters are not particularly close). The whole process to get her to go to dress fittings and do all the other BM-type stuff, I am told, was like pulling teeth, and she got obnoxiously drunk at the wedding, as she does at all family functions (if there's no alcohol provided, she will bring her own for herself and her husband). She acted jealous and petty, according to several people, which I found weird, as she is already married.
But knowing my cousin June, she doesn't like not being the center of attention, so maybe that detracted from my aunt's enjoyment of the wedding. Everyone in my family's getting tired of June's antics, and although June and her stepmom generally get along pretty well, I think she's tiring of the attention-grabbing, too.
I'm pretty sure I detected a note of bitterness in my aunt's comment. I don't know the circumstances behind this apparent falling out or loss of favor, but my aunt's not usually the type to make such a negative comment, so that she would openly say something so negative, especially in front of my uncle, strikes me as strange.
I don't want to be overly nosy here, but I detect something rotten in the state of Denmark. My aunt is not happy with my cousin for some reason. Did I do right in "staying out of it" - insofar as not questioning her directly about it - and keeping my speculations/suspicions (mostly) to myself? I mean, I haven't added to the family gossip mill by discussing it with anyone else, but something about my aunt's demeanor denoted to me that she has more or less reached her breaking point with my cousin.
I don't want to pry too much, because I don't want to start a family war or anything. But lately it seems like I'm not the only one who's disgusted with my cousin June - she's a selfish, greedy, attention-grabbing gimme pig. I wonder what took the rest of the family so long to catch on?