"In response to the insistence that the FB pages were created to bash ehell - NO facebook group currently in existence was created to bash ehell – not the “official” group and not the “secret” group that people are being banned for being a part of. Furthermore, ehell isn't even the main topic of conversation. That's where we all know each other from, but it's really not what we talk about here at least. The FB pages were created because many of us had become closer friends via PM or even in the threads themselves. In order to facilitate these friendships and also have non-ehell approved conversations (ranging from sex to personal medical issues) we created a FB page. Those of us on that page have become closer, trusted friends.
And that’s important. The people on the page are our friends. Your insistence that if we had nothing to worry about, we’d let the mods and dame onto our page is ridiculous. Of course we have something to worry about – we don’t want people we don’t know, trust or (in many cases) even like looking in to our most personal conversations. That’s not their business. It’s not their FB page. They’ve got their own, they can stop trying to moderate ours.
As to the PM between one of our members and Scuba_Dog that is the main focus of evidence of the nature of our FB page - We honestly have NO IDEA why that email was sent to Scuba_Dog. Answering those questions is not a prerequisite of the group. No one else was asked those questions. All you need is a referral from a member. What one person did on their own, even if they did it under the guise of representing us, does not reflect the mindset of the intention of the group. I consider those incredibly stupid questions to ask because there is really no consensus in the group about who is a 'good' poster and who is a 'bad' poster - we don't even really talk about it much. So, to take those emails and paint the rest of us with the brush of one person we ALL disagree with in this case if wrong. It’s also important to note that Scuba_Dog sought the private facebook group out and the group decided to extend her an invitation – why the email went down is not known to the group. Again, that was the (bad) decision of one member that does not reflect the group attitude – and I agree with you, it makes the secret group sound like a bunch of mean girls. I’ve found more love and support there and negativity, including things like getting donations together for a non- secret facebook member ehellion when she experienced a tragedy.
Several people were ousted from the group for taking comments to the extreme that we couldn’t accept. Some were just not good fits and were asked to leave for one reason or another. A couple others went off on their own – this didn’t matter to us. But what it sounds like to us is that someone that was ousted went to the Dame and started pointing fingers.
Yes, sometimes we discuss ehell. Sometimes we link to threads. But, that is not the focus or intent of the page. Sometimes we link frustrating posters or posters we find inconsistency with and wonder if they’re trolls (and discuss that amongst ourselves – what some posters may or may not do on their own in ehell really doesn’t come from the group itself). Sometimes it's links to especially interesting threads or threads with posters who we have a lot of sympathy for or even threads where we're like 'why is this worth posting' because it's so inane. But, yeah, 90% non e-hell related topics - which, again, is why it’s not the mods or Dame’s business.
Lastly, the questioning moding threads. There is a lot of insistence that people did not report the threads or contact the mods as is encouraged by ehell. Well, I know that that is what we encourage FIRST because we are not out to “get” ehell or anything. But after weeks of silence, we were getting frustrated seeing things over and over again. Nothing was being addressed. It’s interesting to note that many of the posts agreeing that there were issues in ehell were not from members of the secret facebook group.
I guess that’s all I have to say. I hope this clears things up for some people. I know there are those who will continue to think that the secret facebook group was staging some kind of revolution to dethrone the Dame and exile the mods – but that’s just silly. Why would we want to do that? Most of our members had been here for YEARS and loved it here. But, as time went on and issues started arising, most did decide to quietly step back and simply lurk, using the FB secret group to ask our questions and get hugs when we needed it. I’m truly sorry for those posters that were caught up in the drama and banned simply for being a part of the group.
- PeasNCues (banned)"