I just wanted to say that I have been around the internet a long time, and every single community I have been a part of, every last one, has had something like this happen at one time or another. Splinter groups happen. Sometimes they start innocently, as I believe this one did, where people find they have something in common and want to be more open with each other and form deeper friendships in a more private venue than such a large board with thousands of members provides. In the past I've been part of a splinter group like that (not e-hell related). Sometimes they're set up from the beginning as a place for angry or disillusioned posters to gather and vent their dissatisfaction. Sometimes they start as one and become the other, or have elements of both. I'm aware of a splinter group (again, not e-hell related) that started as a very angry group of people who had been banned from or were unhappy with a certain website, and over time their board became a more general discussion board and there is now very little posting about the original board that they set up their group to complain about, and they even have lots of members who have never even heard of, let alone been banned from, the original board.
It's part of being on the internet. I'm certainly sorry it happened, I'm sorry people were hurt, I will definitely miss some of the posters who have been banned, but I'm not surprised. It's the way of the internet. And Etiquette Hell will go on, and continue to change, and new posters will fill in the holes that the banned (and those who have left by choice) posters have left.
Expressing concern or giving feedback in a thoughtful, polite, balanced way is acceptable, I think. Most people who do so, do it because they love the board and want to help maintain the community they feel attached to or invested in. I don't for a minute believe that the Facebook group was started to in any way harm the board, or even really be about the board at all. I can totally see how it happened -- as I said, I was once a member of a very similar group for another board, where a group of us realized we had a lot in common and wanted a place where we could share more openly with each other. We set up a private, by invitation only, separate board and moved our day-to-day discussions about our lives there. We very rarely ever talked about the board where we had all met. But we came from a huge board, none of us had posted there for very long, and we didn't feel invested in that community in the same way that I think a lot of the members of the Facebook group felt about this one, so I can see how more and more discussion in the Facebook group might have come to be about this board and the concerns people had about it. I'm sorry it had to come to this.