I have been a member for a short while, not even knowing that it was a secret group. I didn't read the facebook threads, but sometimes participated in the chat. I supposed this is how I missed the fact that it was a secret group, which was not to be mentioned here. The chat was mostly friendly and fun, but I sometimes noticed that when some threads were discussed, the wording could be quite harsh, and some people were quite judgemental. I did try defending posters a few times, and played a bit of devil's advocate. I did this in cases when I truly did not see a bad pattern of a poster, or could not understand why a post was bad.
So some time ago, there was a thread in ehell where people wondered why there was more vitrol lately. I shared my experiences of the chat. I had facebook open at the time, and soon after the chat exploded. That is when I discovered that the group was supposed to be secret. I deleted my post. The chat had gotten so nasty by then, that I was afraid to say 'I didn't mean to, sorry, I deleted it', so I stayed silent. I get it, people were angry, but the way I was dissected, and how some people would rephrase the discussions we had before, and rephrased their opinion on certain other postsers i had defended (word to indicate female 'parts' were used) did leave a bad taste.
I sent a pm later on facebook to one of the members, explaining the situation. The apology was accepted, but I was banned from the facebook group by then. I must say, that having witnessed these things in the chat, I didn't feel at ease. I knew people were being judged and rolled through the wringer behind their backs. 90% of the chatter was innocent and fun. But there was stuff amongst it that was just not cool.
I don't think that everyone in the group was bad - but it did create clique like behavior amongst some of its members.