Another thing not to do: Do not post an outdated or unrepresentative photo of yourself online. Obviously, you want to make yourself look good, and if you have concerns surrounding your weight, you may not post a full body picture if that makes you uncomfortable. But you should be able to be recognizable when meeting someone for the first time.
I completely agree. I am overweight, so I made sure that I put a recent photo on my profile. If my weight is a problem for a guy, I'd rather have him see my picture upfront and know that he's not interested than to have that happen later down the road.
Ha! Yes, I had forgotton that...
It's much much better to have that be upfront, because honestly a woman's weight is right up there on the list of dealbreakers for a lot of men. I hate that that is true, but it is. And it is much better to happen right away than after you've had soulful conversations.
On the plus side, as much as I hated the fact that a lot of men were judging me on how I looked, I don't think my DH noticed that at all. Of course, he is on the heavy side himself. But back in the insecure days when we were just getting to know each other I asked him about my weight he said: "I don't know, I think you're pretty average. In fact, I think you're the skinniest girl I've ever dated." Maybe that wasn't exactly the truth, but 100,000 points for him anyway.