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BatCity:
...The kicker is, it's my idea.

My neighbor is a wonderful young woman who is the mother of two little boys.  She is now pregnant with a girl.

The boys were born before they moved to this state, while their family was in transition (she was living with her mom, hubby was out here starting a new job) and I'm fairly certain she never had any showers.

I know it's a little silly, but they are so excited to have a girl, I thought it would be nice to throw her a shower anyway.  I might even figure out a way to just have a party in her honor with no gifts  (as in...you can give her a gift if you want, but some other time, don't bring it to the party).  Just not sure how I'm gonna handle it yet. 

So whaddaya think...am I headed to eHell?  I just had this idea tonight, I haven't mentioned it to anyone yet.

Lara

hobish:
It's unorthodox, but i think the extenuating circumstances make it a wonderful idea. That's very thoughtful of you, IMO.

MadMadge43:
I think it's nice. Second, third and fourth babyshowers are usually looked down on because people have already outfitted you for one child, but since she's new to the area no one has done anything for her yet, so the usual reason is not really there.

It's also nice because when you're new some place you don't have many friends and she's probably pretty lonely. I think this is an instance where the "rules" are over looked to do something special.

sammycat:
In my area it is not frowned upon at all to have 2nd, 3rd, 4th or even 5th baby showers, but I understand it is considered rude in some places. 

When my older son was a  few weeks old we formed a playgroup with some other mums who also had new babies'. Whenever someone in the group went onto to have subsequent children we always threw a baby shower for them.  Mostly it was just the playgroup mums in attendance but occasionally we'd invite other people if we knew other friends or family of the mum-to-be.  One mum had 4 more children of the same sex in pretty quick succession and I think for the last one (she always found out the gender), we all went out for dinner rather than have a traditional baby shower.  Finally she had an opposite sex child and we were all so excited we couldn't wait to throw a baby shower for her (again). Once the babies' are born we also give a welcome gift to/for the baby.

I think it's very nice that you want to throw a shower for your neighbour.

dietcokeofevil:
It's a great idea.  One of my co-workers had her 4th child, and we had a dinner/surprise shower for her that she really loved.  Everyone just brought outfits or other things appropriate for additional children.  Most people are going to buy a gift anyway, after the baby is born.

I would check first with her, to make sure that she's comfortable with it.   

For most people, multiple are not a problem, as long as they are to celebrate and new child and not just to get more stuff.

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