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Comments About Weight from Passerby
CrochetFanatic:
It's happened to me a couple times, and I had two very different responses to each one.
The first one was a woman behind me in the pharmacy line who tapped me on the shoulder and asked me, "When are you due?" And she was completely serious, as far as I could tell. I simply told her I wasn't pregnant, and faced the pharmacy counter once more. She apologized, I said "That's all right." even though it wasn't, and that was the end of it.
The second one was a rather mean-spirited comment by an employee, though. They got rid of the Borders in our mall back when that chain still existed, and replaced it with a clothing store. I could tell before I went in that it was for people of a slimmer physique than I possessed, but I was Christmas shopping, and I thought I might find some gift ideas in there. The girl at the sales desk completely ignored me (which I didn't really notice at first), but greeted the next two customers, who were quite slender. I noticed that, but didn't really think anything of it until she finally began to look annoyed. Finally, the girl said to me, "Excuse me, but I really don't think we have anything here that would fit you." I realized I wasn't imagining an attitude where one didn't exist, and pasted on a fake smile, saying, "Actually, I'm doing my Christmas shopping. I think I'll look elsewhere, though, thanks." It worked out fine, because I found something similar to an item I'd had my eye on, for a better price, in another store.
I'd gotten comments like that all through middle and high school, so by that time I had a pretty thick skin. It makes me angry, though. Sometimes a person might not be able to regulate their weight for health reasons. I have an under-active thyroid, and can't lose weight no matter what I try!
Fleur:
--- Quote from: CrochetFanatic on July 08, 2012, 11:08:47 PM ---It's happened to me a couple times, and I had two very different responses to each one.
The first one was a woman behind me in the pharmacy line who tapped me on the shoulder and asked me, "When are you due?" And she was completely serious, as far as I could tell. I simply told her I wasn't pregnant, and faced the pharmacy counter once more. She apologized, I said "That's all right." even though it wasn't, and that was the end of it.
The second one was a rather mean-spirited comment by an employee, though. They got rid of the Borders in our mall back when that chain still existed, and replaced it with a clothing store. I could tell before I went in that it was for people of a slimmer physique than I possessed, but I was Christmas shopping, and I thought I might find some gift ideas in there. The girl at the sales desk completely ignored me (which I didn't really notice at first), but greeted the next two customers, who were quite slender. I noticed that, but didn't really think anything of it until she finally began to look annoyed. Finally, the girl said to me, "Excuse me, but I really don't think we have anything here that would fit you." I realized I wasn't imagining an attitude where one didn't exist, and pasted on a fake smile, saying, "Actually, I'm doing my Christmas shopping. I think I'll look elsewhere, though, thanks." It worked out fine, because I found something similar to an item I'd had my eye on, for a better price, in another store.
I'd gotten comments like that all through middle and high school, so by that time I had a pretty thick skin. It makes me angry, though. Sometimes a person might not be able to regulate their weight for health reasons. I have an under-active thyroid, and can't lose weight no matter what I try!
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If that is the store I'm thinking of, you should complain, though I suppose it's a bit late now. There clothes are so expensive that most teens (their core market) cannot afford them. I think that management would like to know that people were driving away the wallets ;) Seriously, there are several of these stores in my town, and I see lots of people in there that are not the target age or size. They are buying clothes for their daughters/sons or nephews/neices.
TurtleDove:
--- Quote from: CrochetFanatic on July 08, 2012, 11:08:47 PM --- I have an under-active thyroid, and can't lose weight no matter what I try!
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I don't want to get into medical advice, but see an endocrinologist. I have an underactive thyroid and mine is pretty easily regulated.
CrochetFanatic:
Oh, I do. :) I take something for it, but that only prevents new weight from being added on. Losing five pounds is still a struggle. As long as the other systems that are affected by it aren't out of whack, I'm not worried about the extra pounds too much.
As for the store, I don't remember what it was called, but it didn't last long. It closed after a couple years, and between the prices and the girl's attitude, I'm not a bit surprised.
JacklynHyde:
My mother was once told at a Victoria's Secret, "We only have normal sizes." At that point, my rail-thin aunt dropped the $200+ worth of merchandise she was about to purchase, grabbed my mother by the elbow, and marched her out of there.
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