I asked him out for a second date via email. He said he only felt a "friendly" connection- and that it was very rare of him to be interested in someone, and that I was a nice and good person and he wished me the best.
Honestly, the more I thought about him, the more I was concerned. He gave a very stingy first impression overall. He said he did not go to movies at the theatre due to prices, did not have cable tv due to price, had a used car that he did not plan on replacing till it died, never bothered getting braces (could have used them), did not offer to pay for my pastry and tea, and so on. None of those things are problematic when isolated- but together they did make me raise an eyebrow. Plus he admitted to not being a big reader of either books or magazines- so that could be another incompatibility. I was giving him the benefit of the doubt on both- after all, he could have school/medical debt, and he has a bachelor's degree from my state's flagship university and a stable professional job. But it still gave me a very miserly first impression of him- I did not get a gold digger vibe, though, just a cheapskate one. Not 100% sure why is his being so frugal bothering me so much- but it did make me ponder.
Rationally, I understand we were not the optimal match for each other. Emotionally, I wish he would have given me a second chance. After all, first dates are awkward since both people are nervous. And his messages during the couple of weeks we had written to each other were so kind and thoughtful, not to mention well written.
Maybe I make a better friend than consort.
Maybe the same qualities that are an asset as a friend/employee/neighbor/etc., are a major hindrance when it comes to romance.