A previous guy insisted on paying even if I invited him. He may have been intimidated by my picking up the check once- among other things
I am giving him the benefit of the doubt, since gender roles are likely tighter in his mother's family's native country than in the US of A.
I was hit on by a gold digger once. He had no job, no degree, no career goals, no car, and no license. He wanted me to pick him up for the first date. I honestly think it is a good idea to meet at a public place for the first date. Another guy absolutely insisted on picking me up- maybe because he knew I lived at home and he wanted to ingratiate himself with my family so that if I rejected him, the family could still root for him. He ended up declaring his feelings for me on the second outing (can't even call it a date- he invited me to hang out with some of his friends).
Sadly, it seems that the guys who like me, I am usually out of their league- and the greater the discrepancy, the more obsessed they are to the point that one was abusive and stalked me
While the guys I have liked have not necessarily been out of my league, they tend to not like me back. I can count at least two- possibly three- that ended up with women from a particular group that tends to be stereotyped as being submissive, while mine is stereotyped as being feisty
Maybe I just lack something crucial to romance (but not friendships/a stable job/living alone/contributing to society/being successful otherwise), and I should just stick to service