I get dates, but not relationships
Regarding my speaking Spanish, it is actually two separate issues:
- when they find out that I speak several languages (which is a MAJOR plus at my job, and which my friend think is cool), many men I am interested in are intimidated by my intelligence and knowledge, and they feel insecure and flee.
- when they find out that Spanish is my first language (which again, is an asset at my current job, which most of my friends have no issue with, and accent-bashing comments are just general xenophobic ones instead of specific ethnic-bashing ones), some men I am interested in assume that "Latina = hot temper", cannot see ANYTHING else about me, and flee.
It is like every.single.trait I have that is an asset (or at worst, neutral) everywhere else, is a drawback when it comes to dating