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Venus193

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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #765 on: October 28, 2013, 12:08:07 PM »
Agreed.  After all this time I wouldn't have time for a relationship and would need a huge living space to be able to live with anyone.





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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #766 on: October 28, 2013, 01:05:27 PM »
Agreed.  After all this time I wouldn't have time for a relationship and would need a huge living space to be able to live with anyone.

Even my own mother and I, who I get along with well, know we can't live together. Next door, yes, but in the same abode, so not happening!

My cousin, who is several years older, and just ended a 4 year relationship, keeps nagging me to go online dating. Which, when I'm good and ready, I may try. But at the moment, i have two jobs, and work 6 days a week. I have a coupld of free evenings, and Sunday. And have enough to do in that little free time I do have, without trying to squeeze in time for/with someone else.

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« Reply #767 on: October 28, 2013, 01:13:54 PM »
I have joked for many years that if I ever get married, hubby is going to have to buy the house next door.  Except, I'm not sure I'm really joking!  I've lived on my own for so long now that I'm not sure I could handle living with someone else.  We'd definitely need to get a different house - mine is too open concept for us to have our own spaces, which we'd need so I wouldn't kill him.

My Dad lived with me for a month or so when he had some surgery.  We survived but when he started talking about moving in with me, I cringed.  It may still happen but if it does, we'll be doing some renovations so he has his own little apartment with his own bathroom, bedroom and kitchenette.  We'd have dinner together but we'd need to have completely separate spaces.
After cleaning out my Dad's house, I have this advice:  If you haven't used it in a year, throw it out!!!!.
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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #768 on: October 28, 2013, 01:42:21 PM »
I'm the same way. I don't know if I could share my space now; I love having a place to myself. But conjugal visits would be a must. ;)

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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #769 on: October 28, 2013, 02:45:50 PM »
I loved this idea the first time I read about it:

"Parker and his wife Joan separated at one point but then came to an unusual arrangement: she lived on one floor of a large townhouse, he on another, and they shared the others. This living arrangement is mirrored in Spenser's private life: his girlfriend, Susan, had an aversion to marriage and living together full-time. Living separately suited them both, although they were fully committed to each other."

Robert B. Parker (deceased) and his wife.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Robert_B._Parker#Personal_life

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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #770 on: October 28, 2013, 02:51:27 PM »
Tim Burton and Helena Bonham Carter have an arrangement like that.
When angels go bad, they go worse than anyone. Remember, Lucifer was an angel. ~The Marquis De Carabas

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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #771 on: October 28, 2013, 03:05:40 PM »
For what it's worth, I thought I would have a difficult time adapting to sharing a small house with my husband. I had lived there, alone, for years, and I had my own way of doing things.  Surprisingly, we've had virtually no problems getting used to each other, bar a difference of opinion or two about when the TV should be on or off.

Not that this ease of adaptation is universal by any stretch, but it does happen occasionally.

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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #772 on: November 12, 2013, 03:01:39 AM »
I think, that barring future revelation of major character flaws, that I might have finally met Mr. Right instead of Mr. Right Now.  He's my perfect guy physically, and I find his personality (interests, demeanor, intellect) as attractive as the outer packaging.  He's also interested in me.  And single.  He just moved into the area for work, so that isn't as big a surprise as it should be.

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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #773 on: November 12, 2013, 08:29:44 AM »
Still no prospects here. I'm looking to change jobs, and I have to admit, it's occurred to me that it might be smart to look for work somewhere that I'll meet possible romantic prospects. Publishing is dominated by women, so maybe it's time to leave publishing. Any suggestions?  :D

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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #774 on: November 12, 2013, 08:47:27 AM »
Find work in Alaska, the Yukon, the North West Territories or Nunavut?  The proportion of men to women in especially the smaller towns is definitely in our favour.   ;D

greencat, here's hoping it works out.  You can still drop by for the cookies and booze.    ;)
After cleaning out my Dad's house, I have this advice:  If you haven't used it in a year, throw it out!!!!.
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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #775 on: November 12, 2013, 09:55:48 AM »
Find work in Alaska, the Yukon, the North West Territories or Nunavut?  The proportion of men to women in especially the smaller towns is definitely in our favour.   ;D

greencat, here's hoping it works out.  You can still drop by for the cookies and booze.    ;)

I've read that it's actually incredibly uncomfortable to be a woman in Alaska and other places where the ratio is so skewed--there's an expectation that you *owe* it to the men there to go out with them and party with them, and it sounds like they can be pretty boorish. Besides, I'm from Georgia. I'd die in that cold. :)

Has anyone created a dating service for inhibited intellectuals? That's more my speed.

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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #776 on: November 12, 2013, 10:18:56 AM »
LOL.  Yeah, me too.
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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #777 on: November 12, 2013, 10:22:08 AM »
As an Alaskan woman, I can say that I never experienced that. The guys I knew were perfectly polite and took turn-downs philosophically.
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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #778 on: November 12, 2013, 10:47:04 AM »
As an Alaskan woman, I can say that I never experienced that. The guys I knew were perfectly polite and took turn-downs philosophically.

That's good to hear. I'm still going to try to avoid moving anyplace that's so cold, though.  :)

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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #779 on: November 12, 2013, 11:43:03 AM »
Yesterday in Target I was looking at this: