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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #840 on: May 19, 2014, 02:57:56 PM »
My current job has rendered my schedule incompatible with 90% of people's schedules, and I don't have time to properly meet someone.  I'm considering online dating again, but...

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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #841 on: May 20, 2014, 10:56:58 AM »
Having lost some weight, and feeling good about how I look, I've toyed with the idea of dipping my toes into the online dating pool. Then I think wait, you get ONE day a week off, and find it hard to make time for your friends…how would making time for a perfect stranger be any different/easier? So I’m living vicariously through a relative’s online dating escapades. Which I have to say are quite entertaining, but also make me want to shake her as she’s used a couple of them to get something she wants. She’s also the queen of TMI. She’s been “seeing” someone for a month or so. Who she apparently hit it off quite well with.  And while I don’t care how she conducts her private life, simply telling me that she spent the night at his place on their second date is more than enough info. But she also felt the need to tell me that he had small hands, which, when I told her isn’t always true, was, and that his scrabble technique was not up to her liking, I wanted to put my fingers in my ears and sing “lalalalalalalalala”

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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #842 on: May 20, 2014, 01:15:59 PM »
Actually, online dating may be the easiest way to meet prospective romantic partners if you have a full time job plus an active social life, but are not meeting prospects otherwise.

It worked for me. I work full time, have many friends, several social activities, take group fitness classes at the gym often, belong to professional organizations, and travel for leisure and business relatively often. But no luck in romance. Until I joined eHarmony. Two very happy years and counting.

An online dating site will lead you to screen out for compatibility and commonality (and possibly even chemistry) before having to go on a date IRL. It can be very efficient. It is a system that many people enjoy using.

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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #843 on: May 21, 2014, 03:43:35 PM »
Actually, online dating may be the easiest way to meet prospective romantic partners if you have a full time job plus an active social life, but are not meeting prospects otherwise.

It worked for me. I work full time, have many friends, several social activities, take group fitness classes at the gym often, belong to professional organizations, and travel for leisure and business relatively often. But no luck in romance. Until I joined eHarmony. Two very happy years and counting.

An online dating site will lead you to screen out for compatibility and commonality (and possibly even chemistry) before having to go on a date IRL. It can be very efficient. It is a system that many people enjoy using.

I agree. My problem is I don't have/aren't ready to make enough free time to do it properly. I don't know anyone who knows anyone in my age group that's single and available, so online really is my only option.

And I've never really dated a lot in my life, and certainly not recentlyl, so I'm a bit gun shy. Not to mention just plain shy, and uncomfortable in dating situations. But when I'm ready, I'm all in. Just don't know when that will be :)

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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #844 on: June 17, 2014, 11:45:28 AM »
I've been tempted to post in the 'hook-ups' section of a dating website, to deal with my issues.  But I'm so shy in dating situations, as well as having an allergy to latex, that I'm not sure I'll ever go through with it.  (Did you know that a box of non-latex c0ndoms costs 25% more than latex, for half as many?  I didn't buy them.)

Today, I did something really silly.  I made a list of the people I would invite to my non-existent wedding.  I saved it, titled, 'The list that will never be used'.   :P

I think I'm having a mid-life crisis...
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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #845 on: June 17, 2014, 11:56:26 AM »
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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #846 on: June 17, 2014, 07:31:55 PM »
I've been tempted to post in the 'hook-ups' section of a dating website, to deal with my issues.  But I'm so shy in dating situations, as well as having an allergy to latex, that I'm not sure I'll ever go through with it.  (Did you know that a box of non-latex c0ndoms costs 25% more than latex, for half as many?  I didn't buy them.)

Today, I did something really silly.  I made a list of the people I would invite to my non-existent wedding.  I saved it, titled, 'The list that will never be used'.   :P

I think I'm having a mid-life crisis...

Maybe you are.

And maybe you should post in the hook up section because this is not the forum to bemoan your lack of a sex life. This is the second time I've had to mention it to you, so please be more circumspect in your posts.
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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #847 on: June 17, 2014, 10:14:23 PM »
I'm facing a job change and a move to a different city.  That means selling my house.  Last time I did that I had a spouse.  This time, by myself, will be a whole lot harder. 

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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #848 on: June 17, 2014, 10:49:13 PM »
I've established that my work schedule is more or less incompatible with developing a relationship at this point in my life - it would have been great when I was in college and most potential partners were working retail or food service, but it's terrible now that most of my potential partners are young professionals with 9-5 jobs.  I do have two days off a week, but unfortunately they're not the right two days for the singles scene, and I have enough friends that my time tends to end up pretty well occupied.

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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #849 on: June 17, 2014, 11:04:19 PM »
I've just given up. After going through a divorce, I simply don't have the desire to go back through all the rigamorole of dating

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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #850 on: July 16, 2014, 11:25:51 PM »
My ex, (we have a mostly good post relationship thing) I think is dating someone. I don't really want to know, and I hope he's doing well with it, but that means my plus one is gone. I don't even know if I want a relationship, but I'd like, you know, someone. Vacation buddy, plus one, whatever. Something. 

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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #851 on: January 07, 2015, 11:43:33 AM »
Reviving an old thread...

I have a date this weekend.  We're still trying to nail down when and where.  dating site ran a free communication weekend thing from Friday through to today.  And we progressed very quickly through the process and are emailing back and forth now, with pictures sent and some good conversation on both sides.  Good spelling and grammar, too.   ;D

So we both agreed to cut to the chase and meet up ASAP to see if there is anything worth pursuing, relationship wise.

If it doesn't work out, I'm going to pay to sign up for the full service for a couple of months and see if I can make any progress.
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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #852 on: January 07, 2015, 12:20:23 PM »
Reviving an old thread...

I have a date this weekend.  We're still trying to nail down when and where.  dating site ran a free communication weekend thing from Friday through to today.  And we progressed very quickly through the process and are emailing back and forth now, with pictures sent and some good conversation on both sides.  Good spelling and grammar, too.   ;D

So we both agreed to cut to the chase and meet up ASAP to see if there is anything worth pursuing, relationship wise.

If it doesn't work out, I'm going to pay to sign up for the full service for a couple of months and see if I can make any progress.

Oh good luck! I've decided, my game plan is to pay off a bunch of stuff this spring (with a combo of my bonus and presumed tax refund, including a loan with a pretty significatn monthly payment), which will allow me to quit my second job, and am going to dip my toes in the online dating waters. I'll probalby wait for one of those free weekends too, and see how it goes.

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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #853 on: January 07, 2015, 12:34:13 PM »
Good luck ladies! Im just gonna be over here perfecting my "you kids get off my lawn" voice.  ;D

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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #854 on: January 07, 2015, 01:57:47 PM »
And the meeting just got bumped to tonight.  I knew he was free and my plans fell through so I texted him to see if he wanted to bump it up.  Which means I only have the rest of today to freak out instead of several days.  And I won't have time to spend hours on hair and makeup - I'll only have about an hour to get home, change, and put on a little makeup.  Which is good.  I'm a low maintenance kind of girl; better to start off as you mean to go on, right?
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