Spinsters' Club Support Thread

[Wonderflonium]

I thought I'd start another spinster thread. I've pretty much decided that I'm going to be a spinster. Online dating is NOT going well. Occasionally there will be a guy who seems cute and interesting... and then we start e-mailing. Why are people so inappropriate with people they don't know? *sigh*

I'm already thinking about how much New Year's is going to suck... again. 

[Yarnspinner]

Well, I am a spinster and have several friends who are same, in their fifties, and I have fun on New Years.  The nearest friend who is a spinster usually drives to my place, we go out to eat at a favorite restaurant and then go see a movie.  After that, we go back to my place, make some exotic sort of dessert and appetizers, pop corn, pour some glasses of good wine  and then run a movie festival  until we can't stay awake.  We sleep until noon the next day, have something yummy for breakfast (I have actually been known to attempt pancakes even though I am likely to burn them) and then we meet up with some other friends who are spinsters, married or some other declared status and we all go out some place nice to eat then head out to see as many movies as we can and we wish each other a Happy New Year and sort of hope we can do it all over again soon.

It's fun and it's taught us we're good as we are and if someone special comes along...well...they may actually have to wait at home next New Years while the girls go have a party time.

You are wonderful as you are Wonderflonium....and it doesn't require a date to make a New Year's wonderful.

[dinvancouver]

I'm going to dive into ehell and ask for an invite.  I bring double chocolate cookies!
 

kidding

maybe 

[Spoder]

*waves* I'm baaaack!    Spinsterish as ever!

Welcome, dinvancouver!

[workingmum]

I'd like an invite too please! I'll bring the banana bread and triple choc praline tart...

I know what you mean about online dating though. Seems most men on the sites cant send more than one message without devolving into smut 

On the upside, i dont have to shave my legs every few days, my bed is my own and on weekends when DD isnt here, I can hang in my daggy old holey PJ's and not bother with makeup and hair etc.. I can also duck out and grab whatever I like for dinner and I can have books all over the house without anyone complaining about the mess 

[Wonderflonium]

Yarnspinner, that sounds like so much fun! Unfortunately, I have exactly 0 single friends. Seriously. And only 3 of them are even dating; the rest are married. Yeah. It used to be OK because one set of friends always had a New Year's party, but last year they quit doing that and the couples started doing couple things. *sigh* I really can't have the party at my place for quite a few reasons. I've considered just going out to a party at a bar or something somewhere, but NYE is so crazy, I'd honestly prefer not to go out alone. I'm paranoid.

Blech.

[Spoder]

^ Yep, I have exactly zero single friends, too. 

[Venus193]

I'm here and I will bring onion tart, pasta primavera, and fruit salad (tonight's vegetarian feast).

[Wonderflonium]

Mmmmmm, onion tart.....

[Petticoats]

I'm definitely on board. I'm trying to remember if there's ever been a New Year's Eve that I've had a date for. I remember being a beard for a recently-broken-up friend, but I think that's it.

Thanksgiving and Christmas are pretty awkward, for that matter, because more and more often it's just my parents and me celebrating together. I can't help thinking that they're looking at me and saying to themselves, "Another year and Petticoats is still alone. What happens when we die? She'll have no one!" It's not that they think I need a man to make my life whole; they just know I'm lonely sometimes and would like to see me happier.

[siamesecat2965]

I'm definitely on board. I'm trying to remember if there's ever been a New Year's Eve that I've had a date for. I remember being a beard for a recently-broken-up friend, but I think that's it.

Thanksgiving and Christmas are pretty awkward, for that matter, because more and more often it's just my parents and me celebrating together. I can't help thinking that they're looking at me and saying to themselves, "Another year and Petticoats is still alone. What happens when we die? She'll have no one!" It's not that they think I need a man to make my life whole; they just know I'm lonely sometimes and would like to see me happier.

Count me in too; the last NYE I actually did anything was 2000; went to a party at friend's, single and married.  For me, its not a huge deal of a holiday; then again, I work in retail and am usualy working NYD.  And becuase I work so much, I prefer to stay home and relax.  I usually do something nice for dinner; I'll get appetizers and have some nice wine, and I honestly don't ever make it to midnight; I'm usually asleep by 11 or so.

[Yarnspinner]

((((wonderflonium))))

Your second post makes a difference in what I was saying.  I spent a large portion of my younger years in that state and, I admit, am still wistful when at a wedding and married folks/established couples of whatever orientation get up to dance and I finally get escorted out on the dance floor by my eleven year old male cousin or my niece.  I do get a little sad on NYEve when the ball comes down and (if I am with a large group of friends/family) all the couples kiss.  I cry over the end of When Harry Met Sally (which I love) because of the NYE scene.   Then I take a deep breath, find things that are good about my life and go on.  I don't mean that to sound supercilious, BTW, but however I try to phrase that last line it just sounds snide, so I want you to know I mean it helpfully not snottily.

All I can offer as advice is what another friend said...she takes herself on vacation at that time of year.  A cruise if she can afford it, a mini spa thing if she can't.

 If that doesn't work, and you are in Connecticut and don't mind spending time with a couple of elderly chicks crabbing about their bosses, their even more elderly parents and arguing over whether or not James Spader is still s3x-y, but all means, you are invited to my Old Maids Party.  (And everyone else for that matter....the food sounds GOOD and the company even better!  Anyone out there like Trivial Pursuit, Book Edition?

[Yarnspinner]

Oh!  Another thought!  Is there a First Night festival in your area?  I worked on the one in my area one year and was part of the entertainment a couple of times as well, so there was no time to care about who I could and couldn't kiss when the ball came down (indeed, during Y2k, I was telling ghost stories to adults and children and having a kick-*** time so couldn't even worry if my computer would still work the next morning).

First night is great fun...it's still better if you have a friend, male or female, to wander about with, but sometimes, my friends and I split up and it's still fun to be at, say, the bluegrass concert, kicking and stomping your feet or sitting quietly to listen to chamber music or laughing at a raucous comedian. 

It's good for getting you out of yourself and as I am writing this, I think I am recommending it to my friend this year.  Good luck!

[Winterlight]

Last year what I did was a personal retreat for both Christmas and New Years, since they were both three-day weekends. It was a combination of spa treatments, naps, exercise and personal stuff. I felt very relaxed at the end of it all and ready to deal with people again.

[Venus193]

The onion tart and pasta primavera were a huge hit and so was the fruit salad.  Check "Recipe Requests" folder for my fruit salad recipe, which is specifically not for teetotalers!

I also introduced them to my signature drink, the Viking's Kiss.  This is 1 part Cherry Kjafa to 3 parts Frexinet (black bottle).