*mentally willing cookies and goodness to Wonderflonium and any other takers, and waving a Skinny Cow frozen dessert over the screen 'cause that's all I actually have at hand, but gosh darn it, something must get through*
I can't say enough the following, which we all know, but sometimes need to remember: being part of a couple is good *if*:
1. Both parties are happy together and share an understanding of what the relationship is, what it is worth, and how to keep the relationship worthwhile (wobbles may happen, but the general understanding is key); or
2. I can't think of another reason
I send support, cookies, and the hope that any relationship you choose to pursue is because the person shows possibility of being a partner you *want*. While I understand the temporary appeal of being pursued, aim for what *you* want, which is probably not so much to no longer be a "spinster" but to be appreciated for who and what you are.