Spinsters' Club Support Thread

[Outdoor Girl]

Absolutely.   

[Venus193]

Tomorrow I will be making broccoli soup and if I'm feeling ambitious, Grasshopper Pie.  Anyone up for that?

[Petticoats]

A friend of mine who got married in October just posted pictures from her wedding. They are gorgeous, she is happy and glowing, and it is all wonderful. I'm really, really happy for her. I'm also dead jealous. *sigh* She got married in my dream venue. I'm tired of planning other people's weddings; I want to plan mine!

(((Wonderflonium))) I know how you feel. I'm sorry.

I may have mentioned before that I live around the corner from a bridal gown boutique. I pass it very nearly every time I leave my house. The window display is like a constant taunt: "You'll never wear one of these! Mwahahaha!"

But that's on a bad day. Today (she says bravely, straightening her shoulders and fixing her jaw) will not be one of those days. Today, if I feel bad about something, it will be being stalled on my novel, which is a conundrum for the NaNoWriMo thread and not this one.

I wish us all good mojo today and this weekend. May we be reminded of the good things about being spinsters.

[Miss Misery]

I've come to realize that I will never be married and will always be alone, and I'm okay with it. It's better to be alone and be comfortable than live to with someone just for the sake of having someone and be miserable.

[Wonderflonium]

I've come to realize that I will never be married and will always be alone, and I'm okay with it. It's better to be alone and be comfortable than live to with someone just for the sake of having someone and be miserable.

Preach on, sister! I want to get married, but I'd rather be single than settle.

I am sad, however, that I'll never get a wedding. *sigh* If I'm not married by 40, I'm throwing myself a killer birthday party.

[Outdoor Girl]

I've come to realize that I will never be married and will always be alone, and I'm okay with it. It's better to be alone and be comfortable than live to with someone just for the sake of having someone and be miserable.

Preach on, sister! I want to get married, but I'd rather be single than settle.

I am sad, however, that I'll never get a wedding. *sigh* If I'm not married by 40, I'm throwing myself a killer birthday party.

I'm there with you.  I didn't throw myself a killer party but I did have an 'All about me' day.  I had a 1.5 hour long massage, I got my hair cut, I got a mani/pedi, and I went out for dinner!  One of my best friends turned 40 two weeks after I did.  Her BF, now DH, organized a trip for her and invited other people along, including me.  So I flew across the country for a long weekend!   

[Larrabee]

I've come to realize that I will never be married and will always be alone, and I'm okay with it. It's better to be alone and be comfortable than live to with someone just for the sake of having someone and be miserable.

Preach on, sister! I want to get married, but I'd rather be single than settle.

I am sad, however, that I'll never get a wedding. *sigh* If I'm not married by 40, I'm throwing myself a killer birthday party.

Just don't post about it on here when you do, the idea that single adults deserve to be celebrated once in their life is not a popular one and seems to attract very mean spirited comments. 

[siamesecat2965]

I've come to realize that I will never be married and will always be alone, and I'm okay with it. It's better to be alone and be comfortable than live to with someone just for the sake of having someone and be miserable.

Preach on, sister! I want to get married, but I'd rather be single than settle.

I am sad, however, that I'll never get a wedding. *sigh* If I'm not married by 40, I'm throwing myself a killer birthday party.

I'm there with you.  I didn't throw myself a killer party but I did have an 'All about me' day.  I had a 1.5 hour long massage, I got my hair cut, I got a mani/pedi, and I went out for dinner!  One of my best friends turned 40 two weeks after I did.  Her BF, now DH, organized a trip for her and invited other people along, including me.  So I flew across the country for a long weekend!   

Me Three!  I always take off on my birthday, at least halfa day, and as its right before Christmas, I go to the mall, and wander and look at all the pretty things, and then buy myself something.  last year's mall had a cheesecake factory so I got a slice of chocolate raspberry truffle, made a dinner of yummy appetizers, and had my cake.  it was nice!

[whiterose]

I have never really thrown a party myself- just have had outings to restaurants or other places.

The idea of a BWW intimidates me with all the planning and details- keeping track of all the details and stuff. I did not want a Quinceanera or debutante ball. I want to keep things rather simple. I am more countess than princess...yet would love to be princess for a day.

[WhiteTigerCub]

I have never really thrown a party myself- just have had outings to restaurants or other places.

The idea of a BWW intimidates me with all the planning and details- keeping track of all the details and stuff. I did not want a Quinceanera or debutante ball. I want to keep things rather simple. I am more countess than princess...yet would love to be princess for a day.

I know it sounds weird but I just want an excuse to wear a ball gown while wearing roller skates. I can do that at my birthday party right?

[Giraffe, Esq]

I've come to realize that I will never be married and will always be alone, and I'm okay with it. It's better to be alone and be comfortable than live to with someone just for the sake of having someone and be miserable.

Preach on, sister! I want to get married, but I'd rather be single than settle.

I am sad, however, that I'll never get a wedding. *sigh* If I'm not married by 40, I'm throwing myself a killer birthday party.

I totally agree that I'd rather be single than settle.

But it's not the wedding I mourn as time keeps passing.  It's mommyhood.  I've wanted to be a mom since I was, oh, 6.  Maybe 5.  Perhaps even 4.  In other words, as far back as I can remember, I have always wanted to be a mother.

But I also do NOT want to try to adopt and bring a child, intentionally, into a single parent household.  (Religious beliefs, personal philosophy, etc.) 

While I'd love to wear the poofy ball gown, and dance in an elegant waltz, the rest of the wedding process is pretty much take it or leave it for me.

[Petticoats]

I'm so, so lucky that at least I don't have a strong desire for children. (I did back in the dark ages of my brief engagement, but it died along with my love for Mr. Flaky.) I'm also very lucky that my mom works with babies and doesn't pressure me to give her grandchildren. She adores babies and is wonderful with them, and would have made a wonderful grandmother. 

And I absolutely know that settling for a not-right mate is not for me.

But grilled cheesus, I get tired of years passing without love. The holidays are really ghastly since they seem like check-in points on life, and I'm dissatisfied with my career, too, so all around it's just kind of sucky right now.

Will y'all give me a gentle kick and a reminder that, at 42, I have not totally missed my window for romantic (and, for that matter, career) happiness?

[TurtleDove]

But grilled cheesus

Love this!  I tend to say "Cheese and Rice!"

[Sirius]

I've come to realize that I will never be married and will always be alone, and I'm okay with it. It's better to be alone and be comfortable than live to with someone just for the sake of having someone and be miserable.

Preach on, sister! I want to get married, but I'd rather be single than settle.

I am sad, however, that I'll never get a wedding. *sigh* If I'm not married by 40, I'm throwing myself a killer birthday party.

Just don't post about it on here when you do, the idea that single adults deserve to be celebrated once in their life is not a popular one and seems to attract very mean spirited comments. 

I think that's terrible!  If you want to celebrate your life, go for it, and tell the naysayers to stick a sock in it. 

[Petticoats]

But grilled cheesus

Love this!  I tend to say "Cheese and Rice!"

Glee introduced me to this phrase... not sure if it's the origin.

In other news, getting out for a little sunshine at lunch improved my outlook. My apologies for my attack of maudlinity.