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Lorelei_Evil

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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #690 on: June 04, 2013, 01:13:23 PM »
Ouch!

The end of the road for me was when I realized that the only interest I was getting was from married guys looking for a mistress OR divorced guys wanting me to raise their children.

I retired.

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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #691 on: June 04, 2013, 01:14:07 PM »
Winterlight, we should get together and celebrate our birthdays.  I have all the makings for mojitos, including the fresh mint in my garden!  Anyone else want to come?   :D
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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #692 on: June 04, 2013, 02:15:57 PM »
Ouch!

The end of the road for me was when I realized that the only interest I was getting was from married guys looking for a mistress OR divorced guys wanting me to raise their children.

I retired.

I refer to myself as the 'unhappily married man magnet" I seem to ONLY attract those who are married, but not happy and perhaps looking for some scrabble or something on the side. Um no. not happening.

I'm 47, have two jobs and very little free time. Most of the time, I'm happy. I joked at my recent 25th college reunion I'd love to get married if I didn't have to LIVE with my husband. And I was half serious! I'm so used to just me and set in my ways, it would be tough, but if mr. right comes along, fabulous, if not, so be it.

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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #693 on: June 04, 2013, 06:12:39 PM »
I gave up on dating.  I might try again later this year, but for now, I'm happy being single. 

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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #694 on: June 04, 2013, 06:35:22 PM »
Checking in on all my fellow spinsters.  I'm still out on the ledge, there are a couple of interests, but I don't think they have much chance of staying power.  One is very religious, while I'm not and is about a month post break up with his out of state girlfriend, and the other I have hanged out with 4 times with him not evening make the move to kiss me.  And these were preceded by a quite a few men messging me just to play scrabble, or men that were way too old for me to date.  While my friends (who I love, I was in their wedding) just celebrated 8 years together today and the birth of their 3rd child a few months back  :'(

How about you take the lead and kiss him? Or ask if he wants to kiss?

That is, if you actually want to kiss him. Because there is a difference between "would not mind- and may even be flattered- if he kissed me" and "I want to kiss him".

Then again, I am an aggressive person.
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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #695 on: June 04, 2013, 06:50:00 PM »
Maybe the rest of you can advise me how to convince my shrink that I'm out of the game permanently and don't want to get back in?  He seems to think I should come out of retirement on this and I don't want to.





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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #696 on: June 04, 2013, 06:59:18 PM »
Winterlight, we should get together and celebrate our birthdays.  I have all the makings for mojitos, including the fresh mint in my garden!  Anyone else want to come?   :D

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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #697 on: June 04, 2013, 07:36:08 PM »
As long as you don't make me drink them.   :)  Not a fan of the coconut.
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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #698 on: June 05, 2013, 03:31:45 AM »
Hi everybody!  So cool that there's a support thread for others like me here!   8)

I'm 43 (well, 44 in a couple of weeks), and I gave up on d@ting a year or so ago.  I have had so many people suggest eHarmony or Match.com as a way to meet a potential partner--Been There, Done That, and I wasn't happy with the results at all.   ::)

And the only interest I was getting IRL was from married men looking for something on the side, or single men looking for casual Scrabble--neither of which I PERSONALLY agree with from a moral standpoint. (YMMV.)

I've been in a few serious (i.e. to the point where marriage was discussed) rel@tionships--but after my last Very Bad Mistake in that area, I'd rather be single for the rest of my life than be in another bad rel@tionship.

As long as there are drinks offered, I'd like a virgin mojito, please.  (I'm clean and sober and can't have the hard stuff!)
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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #699 on: June 05, 2013, 09:37:47 AM »
Hi!
Im another married man magnet it would seem, I always joke that im not hitting my target market somehow since married men, gay men and women seem to think im great :D

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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #700 on: June 05, 2013, 10:00:08 AM »
I turn 40 on July 25th.

No marriage, no kids, schizoid personality, and I wouldn't have it any other way.  ;D

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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #701 on: June 05, 2013, 10:17:44 AM »
Maybe the rest of you can advise me how to convince my shrink that I'm out of the game permanently and don't want to get back in?  He seems to think I should come out of retirement on this and I don't want to.
If he brings this up out of the blue I am not sure what to do aside from change the subject, but if you are bringing it up in any way at all I would just stop mentioning it.  Make it clear that since you are fine with being single, it just wouldn't be a topic to discuss.  Just like you wouldn't discuss in depth your decision to wear pants, or to drink water.  It's just not an issue!

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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #702 on: June 05, 2013, 10:25:41 AM »
As long as there are drinks offered, I'd like a virgin mojito, please.  (I'm clean and sober and can't have the hard stuff!)

I quite often make them when I want a refreshing drink.  They're really good.

I 'cheat' making mine:  I buy the Rose's Lime Cordial, cut the mint leaves fresh out of the garden and stuff them in the bottle of cordial to infuse and then leave it in the fridge.  When I want to make mojitos, I pour the cordial and rum (or not) into a glass, add club soda and ice and a sprig of fresh mint for garnish.  If I want it a bit sweeter, I'll used a little maple syrup, rather than simple syrup.

Stormtreader, that's it, exactly.  I don't have married men hitting on me but I have lots of friends who are married men who, fortunately, have very secure wives who don't worry about them doing things with me.
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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #703 on: June 05, 2013, 10:27:36 AM »
You can also fake the taste of red wine by combining 3 parts unsweetened pomegranate juice with one part apple juice.





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Re: Spinsters' Club Support Thread
« Reply #704 on: June 05, 2013, 10:45:02 AM »
Maybe the rest of you can advise me how to convince my shrink that I'm out of the game permanently and don't want to get back in?  He seems to think I should come out of retirement on this and I don't want to.

"I hadn't realized you were going into matchmaking!  Do have cards made up yet?  I have a friend or two that might be interested.  Luckily, I will not be requiring your services as I am content as is."