I may not attract married men (yet), but I'm pretty tired of the men that are shoved in my path.
As a 30 year old single woman who goes to church, it feels like everybody there knows somebody who would be "perfect" for me, which translates to "they're single too!"
If these are my only choices, are they really surprised I'd rather be single?
You just hit on my one very huge pet peeve about being single and people trying to "find" someone for you. Just because i am single and they are doens't mean we have anything in common!
THIS is why I'm skeptical of anyone's attempts at matchmaking. In my family, women generally marry very young--at 18 or 19. One of my cousins got married while she was still IN high school (her fiance was about to be deployed to Iraq, which IIRC is why the wedding was moved to an earlier date).
So by the time I was 20, my family was desperate for me to find someone. I got set up for an introduction by an uncle. I wasn't interested, but I hadn't grown a polite spine at the time, so I ended up meeting the guy. He seemed nice enough, but the only
thing we had in common was that we were both single.
My mother still asks if I'm going to try online d@ting again, but for the most part my relatives backed off when they found out I was (because of some medical issues that would be TMI if I went into them here) ...let's say, past childbearing age. Once I could no longer have children, they didn't see the point in my d@ting or getting married, I guess.