Spinsters' Club Support Thread

[Reader]

My thoughts exactly.  Especially since he sent another e-mail, probably becasue I didn't reply to his last one.  Here it is: "Sucked to realize I wasn't worth 5 more minutes of your time when it was clear I wasn't standing you up, since I stated I was on my way.   Also tried to call you right away to explain but you didn't answer the call.


So anyway, it's probably best we found out this way that we are not compatible.  I've lost interest.  Wish you the best."

Wow huh?  And if he called that's news to me, I never had a call, and my phone registers no incoming calls in a week (all my friends text).

[Petticoats]

Yikes, Reader. He does sound like a bullet dodged. And Outdoor Girl, I'm so sorry that happened. (((hugs)))

I've had some nasty spells of romantic loneliness lately and have been trying to think of ways to meet dateable men. I'll be changing jobs soon, so I guess I could look for one where I encounter a wider array of people... but that in itself puts me out of my comfort zone. I guess I need to leave the comfort zone behind, but... eek. I guess I could try online dating some more. I just don't feel very confident right now, not in the best frame of mind to compose a profile that's attractive and interesting.

[Reader]

(((hugs for all)))

Crawling out onto the ledge again.  Got up the courage to ask a friend out that I had a crush on for over a month.  We went out last Sunday. I thought it went well.  When I went to inquire about a 2nd date, he let me know he doesn't have the same feelings for me. 

[Outdoor Girl]

Well, crap!  I'll join you tonight when I get home and come bearing a pitcher of mojitos.  To hell with the glasses; we'll just pass the pitcher back and forth.

[Reader]

Sounds good to me

[Petticoats]

Reader, I'm so sorry, that's rotten. (((hugs)))

I could use the support of my sistren too. No particular incident, just still painfully dateless. I'm going to an awards banquet on Saturday and won't have anyone to sit with since the friends I'd counted on seeing won't be there. I have a fabulous new dress and lovely new shoes for the occasion, and no one to wolf-whistle at me... unless I return to my local CVS, where the possibly drunken panhandler may have more compliments for me. How bad is this: the last time he commented appreciatively on me, I didn't even get offended. I just giggled foolishly. That is how starved I am for male validation, apparently.

It ain't pretty.

[Venus193]

Went to a meetup last week and got home to find a message on my profile from a male attendee who didn't even speak to me at that event.  He had joined less than two weeks previously and is probably new to the city, but this creeped me out.

[Teenyweeny]

Went to a meetup last week and got home to find a message on my profile from a male attendee who didn't even speak to me at that event.  He had joined less than two weeks previously and is probably new to the city, but this creeped me out.

I get that from time to time. The last one was some dude telling me that I 'look exactly like Scarlett Johansson'. Well, we're both white female in our late 20s. Otherwise, no. Jog on mate, jog on.

[Twik]

Went to a meetup last week and got home to find a message on my profile from a male attendee who didn't even speak to me at that event.  He had joined less than two weeks previously and is probably new to the city, but this creeped me out.

I wouldn't necessarily find it creepy. He could be shy enough that he prefers writing to speaking to new people. However, if you're getting "that vibe" from the whole situation, listen to it.

[diesel_darlin]

Well, I got my divorce papers in the mail yesterday! Spinsterhood here I come!

[Petticoats]

Well, I got my divorce papers in the mail yesterday! Spinsterhood here I come!

<in eerie voice> Join ussss!

Still dateless over here. I'm doing NaNo this year, and one guy on the boards said he met his wife through NaNo, so there's even more temptation for me to noodle around on the boards instead of actually outlining my novel or doing my other chores, like job hunting. I guess my best chance at this point is finding a new job that throws me into the company of a dateable pool of acquaintance.

[Reader]

And the kick in the guts this week.  Guy I asked out weeks ago, that had no feelings for me texted me 2 nights ago.  Started off innocently asking what was going on this weekend, as in "You always seem to be in the know" (I read 3 local free papers that can be picked up at lots of locations, use facebook to following venues, etc.).  Since we are staying friends, I originally took it as a compliment, until instinct made me ask if he had nothing to do (was planning on inviting him to a few events that my friends and I are going to) or if was for date ideas.  It was for date ideas .  My recourse was then to say then I charge $20 an hour for research.  His reply, he'll do his own research. 

This was after a potential date (I thought) had messaged me through the dating site.  When I got his response he was only seeking a NSA/FWB type thing.  Which I am not seeking at all.  Bleh

[Petticoats]

And the kick in the guts this week.  Guy I asked out weeks ago, that had no feelings for me texted me 2 nights ago.  Started off innocently asking what was going on this weekend, as in "You always seem to be in the know" (I read 3 local free papers that can be picked up at lots of locations, use facebook to following venues, etc.).  Since we are staying friends, I originally took it as a compliment, until instinct made me ask if he had nothing to do (was planning on inviting him to a few events that my friends and I are going to) or if was for date ideas.  It was for date ideas .  My recourse was then to say then I charge $20 an hour for research.  His reply, he'll do his own research. 

This was after a potential date (I thought) had messaged me through the dating site.  When I got his response he was only seeking a NSA/FWB type thing.  Which I am not seeking at all.  Bleh

Oh, man. Talk about a one-two punch. I'm so sorry, Reader.

[Winterlight]

Well, I got my divorce papers in the mail yesterday! Spinsterhood here I come!

We have cookies! And good booze.

And ouch, Reader. What a jerk.

[diesel_darlin]

Reader, he stinks. 

Pass the booze please