Spinsters' Club Support Thread

[Winterlight]

Tonight I'm serving spiked apple cider- rum or calvados?

[mbbored]

Tonight I'm serving spiked apple cider- rum or calvados?

Ooh, normally I'd say rum but I've never tried calvados.

[Outdoor Girl]

I have decorated gingerbread cookies.  They are left over from a potluck last night.  There are maple leaves, oak leaves, pumpkins, moose and the gingerbread men, decorated in hunter orange.

Reader, maybe it would help if you bit the head off one of the hunters?   

I've already had my rum special for the evening but would anyone else like one?

[greencat]

While, on some level, I want to start dating again, because I do enjoy having a special someone, I've come to the conclusion that I have enjoyed being mostly-single for the past three years a great deal more than I enjoyed being mostly-in-relationships for the six before that.  I'm not sure I want to give up the freedoms of singlehood for the promise of stability a relationship offers, and I definitely don't feel like dealing with the turbulence of trying to find a suitable partner right now.

[Venus193]

I sometimes feel like an oddball for being a spinster, but since men don't like me "that way" I stopped fighting it.  My dignity doesn't like being injured.

Since then I have become accustomed to being permanently single and it would be too much work to be in a relationship.

[Petticoats]

I worry that, at my age, after 22 years of no romantic attachment, even if I miraculously find someone I may be too set in my ways to get married. At the same time, sometimes I feel like I'm starving. I hate that I've basically--except for a short time half my life ago--been excluded from this huge, important part of the human experience. I don't feel like I'm living a full life without love in it.

[Venus193]

I had a major lightbulb moment about ten years ago:  You have no control over whether anyone loves you.  You can't choose your parents and you can't make anyone love you no matter what you do.

That realization has saved me from displaying much undignified behavior.

[Winterlight]

Tonight I'm serving spiked apple cider- rum or calvados?

Ooh, normally I'd say rum but I've never tried calvados.

It's an apple brandy, so you get twice the apple yumminess and a big old hit of booze. *g*

[mbbored]

Tonight I'm serving spiked apple cider- rum or calvados?

Ooh, normally I'd say rum but I've never tried calvados.

It's an apple brandy, so you get twice the apple yumminess and a big old hit of booze. *g*

Well, I know what I'm buying the next time I'm at the grocery store.

[Reader]

Cookies and any booze is good.

But I did get a nice compliment the other day at the grocery store.  Went after work, hair in a bun, what was left of my makeup after 11 hours, in my work uniform from my cleaning job.  Nice man in front of me started up small talk and then asked for my number.  Made me feel 10 feet tall walking out the door. 

[Petticoats]

Cookies and any booze is good.

But I did get a nice compliment the other day at the grocery store.  Went after work, hair in a bun, what was left of my makeup after 11 hours, in my work uniform from my cleaning job.  Nice man in front of me started up small talk and then asked for my number.  Made me feel 10 feet tall walking out the door.

That's really nice. Certainly nicer than my most recent unsolicited compliment--from a possibly inebriated panhandler. His remarks weren't actually offensive, though, and I'm starved enough for male validation that I giggled foolishly instead of stalking by while pretending not to have heard. Eesh.

[Outdoor Girl]

I was at our year end baseball banquet Friday night.  I ended up having a great time and stayed way later than I'd intended.  I ended up on the dance floor with people I didn't know when the song I requested came on.  And one of the guys I was dancing with ended up at the same time as me and he bought me a drink!  He made a sexual innuendo without being really crude.  He was too drunk for me to even consider pursuing anything more but it did stroke my ego that someone found me attractive, even if he was wearing beer goggles at the time.

[DollyPond]

Tonight I'm serving spiked apple cider- rum or calvados?

Ooh, normally I'd say rum but I've never tried calvados.

It's an apple brandy, so you get twice the apple yumminess and a big old hit of booze. *g*

Well, I know what I'm buying the next time I'm at the grocery store.

Another good "additive" for hot apple cider is the Italian liquor Tuaca.  It is cinnamon, vanilla and citrus flavored.  Put whipped cream on top and the drink is called "Hot Apple Pie"

[greencat]

Tonight I'm serving spiked apple cider- rum or calvados?

Ooh, normally I'd say rum but I've never tried calvados.

It's an apple brandy, so you get twice the apple yumminess and a big old hit of booze. *g*

Well, I know what I'm buying the next time I'm at the grocery store.

Another good "additive" for hot apple cider is the Italian liquor Tuaca.  It is cinnamon, vanilla and citrus flavored.  Put whipped cream on top and the drink is called "Hot Apple Pie"

My favorite liquor to add to apple cider (or apple juice) is Fireball Whiskey.  It's whiskey that has a sweet cinnamon flavor - it generally tastes like RedHots candies.  However, I tend to refer to it as the "alcohol of bad decisions," as it's 66 proof but doesn't taste strongly of alcohol.


I'm currently in a holding pattern with my personal life.  I want to start dating again, but I'm rather hesitant since I am hoping for an improved job (better pay and benefits) that comes with a rather different working schedule.

[siamesecat2965]

I sometimes feel like an oddball for being a spinster, but since men don't like me "that way" I stopped fighting it.  My dignity doesn't like being injured.

Since then I have become accustomed to being permanently single and it would be too much work to be in a relationship.

I do too, but for me its because of how society views us mature ladies who are still single, never been married, and not d@ting anyone. I always say if I could have anything I wanted, just one thing, it wouldn't be a "man". I would be to be financially secure for the rest of my life. 

While I would enjoy being involved with someone, I am also very very very set in my ways, and stubborn. I find it very hard to imagine myself living wiht someone else, and sharing ALL my time with them, or most of it. 

I cracked up some classmates at my 25th college reunion when I said I'd love to get married as long as I didn't have to live with my husband!  They all thought I was joking, but I wasn't. Then again, most of them got married within a couple years of graduation, and still are. So their path in life has been very different than mine!  I guess they can't imagine NOT being with someone, when that's all I've really ever known, and am quite happy with my "me" time.