Spinsters' Club Support Thread

[Petticoats]

And that's one of the cruddy things about being lonely or sad to be alone, because you constantly get the message that you have to not feel that way to find someone.

I have no siblings, no kids. I look at my parents helping each other out with doctors' appointments, health issues, all of that, and I am increasingly unnerved at the thought of what old age will be like for me.

The loneliest time of my life was when I was technically 'with' someone.  We were living together!

Oh, I didn't mean to imply that coupled people can't experience loneliness too, and I think that must be an exquisite torture. The end of my one and only relationship was rather like that. I was the only one still in the relationship by the end.

[diesel_darlin]

And that's one of the cruddy things about being lonely or sad to be alone, because you constantly get the message that you have to not feel that way to find someone.

I have no siblings, no kids. I look at my parents helping each other out with doctors' appointments, health issues, all of that, and I am increasingly unnerved at the thought of what old age will be like for me.

The loneliest time of my life was when I was technically 'with' someone.  We were living together!

Sounds like my marriage. 

[kajunchick]

I've been reading this thread but never posted, I guess. I am a single mom with three kiddos (my younger two are adopted), and I'm coming up on the fifteenth anniversary of my divorce. This is not exactly how I pictured my life would be.

I stay pretty busy most of the time, not dating and I'm okay with that, but when it hits, it hits hard. I was caught off-guard this Christmas, looking up ideas for family portraits on pinterest, when I noticed that all the pictures had something in common. A dad. I just started sobbing, and I had to call my best friend to vent.

She's awesome, though, and I love her support. She offers me her husband for snake killing and taking my son fishing.

I am reading a really good book called My Single Mom Life by Angela Thomas, and I guess that's what got me thinking of all these things. It's from a Christian perspective, so if you're of that persuasion, I highly recommend it. Anyway, that's my holiday rant. Not on the ledge, but I creep out every now and then. May all of you have a very happy new year!

[greencat]

I'm back in the club myself, just in time for the holidays!    The guy I'd been seeing turned out to be a flaky...well, I can't call him the rest of the words I usually use for him here on ehell.  He did not pass my 6-week test.  Guys who are not actually nice guys can't usually maintain that front of being a nice guy for more than 4 or 5 weeks, thus my 6-week evaluation period.

I'm still trying to meet new people though.  Meetup groups are amazing in my area.

[Petticoats]

I'm hoping that in 2014 I'll work up the courage and follow-through to try some meet-up groups and/or online dating again. I'm losing some weight and feeling better about how I look, which should help. And if this new job comes through (pleaseohplease) I'll be in a different social circle and may possibly meet someone new that way--even though the workplace seems very estrogen-centric, like my current (soon to be past) one, you never know when someone will think you're a great match for a guy friend...

At this point, it's literally been half my life ago that I was with someone, and that's just ridiculous. I don't want my last relationship to keep on receding farther into the rear-view mirror without anything new to succeed it.

[Outdoor Girl]

I need a man, dagnabbit.

No, not for any of the usual reasons one might need a man.

Because of the extreme cold, I'm getting some dry, itchy skin on my shoulder blades.  That I can't reach on my own to apply lotion!

I have a massage appointment scheduled for Tuesday.  I may take a bottle of my moisturizer with me and ask her to give me a good coat down at the end of the appointment.  (I don't find the lotion they use for lubrication very nourishing.)

[Winterlight]

In lieu of a man (or a daily massage- I wish!) try one of these:

http://www.vermontcountrystore.com/store/jump/productDetail/Health_&_Beauty/Bath_&_Body/Personal_Care_&_Grooming/Lotion_Applicator/60626

[Outdoor Girl]

I'll have to see if I can find something like that up here.  I was wondering if there would be something like that available.

[siamesecat2965]

I can't link, but Google "Reachmate lotion applicator" I have the same issue and it's fabulous! Comes in several lengths and pads are remove able and washable. They fond bend as shown, but work like a charm

[diesel_darlin]

I am officially divorced. 

[Julian]

I am officially divorced. 

<Passes the virtual champers!>

Welcome to the club!

[Outdoor Girl]

I can offer a rum special - I'm enjoying one right now so at least then I could say I have company, even if it is virtual.   

[diesel_darlin]

Yum! Fizzy and strong too! Thanks! 

[Stormtreader]

Well im back here again, just in time for valentines day on my own again 

Turns out when he sat me down at the end of our third date and said "so, do you want to date?" what he actually meant was "do you want to be friends with benefits?". He "meant to say something last week but didnt get around to it" and this only came out when I asked if we were doing anything for valentines day. 

[Lorelei_Evil]

What a creep!  I call BS on "meant to say something last week" too.