One of the things that truly baffles me the most is one of the ones that makes me seem intolerant. It baffles me when i see people who have the means to do so let the basic personal care of their children slide. Clean, maintained hair (as in, if the kid wants long hair and doesn't want it cut it should at least be brushed & tangle-free), clean appropriate clothes that fit, teeth brushed. End of story. And yet I see people who I know are financially able let their kids wear dirty ill-fitting clothes or have yellow teeth. Or girls with long, matted hair.
Teeth I'm completely with you on, parents owe it to children to protect their teeth, they only get two chances!
Clothes and hair though, I'm not so sure. In my limited experience with the under 10s clothes get messy almost instantly so if you wanted them to look perfectly clean all the time you'd end up spending most of their childhood dressing and undressing them or doing laundry. Not to mention shopping for clothes as you get about a 20 minute window where things fit perfectly.
I mentioned in another thread recently that I have a hair type that looks tangled and unbrushed as soon as fresh air hits it, so I let people off the hook for that one too.
This is why I didn't want mention this at first, because it can be taken wrong.
By dirty clothes: I have seen kids wearing the same t-shirt 3-4 days in a row, and it shows (and smells). I mean, filthy. With 3 boys I have waged war on mud, grass stains, blood stains...I'm good, but they are never perfect again, and I don't expect them to be.
By ill-fitting clothes: t-shirts that hang down to almost the knees or pants that are very obviously 3 inches above the ankle. Again, 3 boys, shoestring budget. They grow like weeds. The first week of school my DS10 had 3 pair of jeans that fit great. By Halloween they were noticeably too short for anything but playing football in the mud.
Raising kids, clothing them, keeping them clean, is not easy or cheap. And I am even mroe baffled by the people who allow their children to look like what i mentioned above and yet they have fresh acrylic nails every two weeks and the lastest smart phone in their pocket.