About 4 years ago, we sat down with DH's family and asked if it would be okay if we didn't exchange any gifts going forward. There are no kids on either side of our families anyway.
We thought there might be some resistance, but everyone went for it!
We all figured we were all spending so much on stuff that none of us really needed (or wanted) and the stress of it all was making me seriously sick.
So now we get together at ILs for a small dinner, tons of stories and much laughter and no more stress!
DH and I get each other something small, but after that - it's a bottle of vodka in the freezer and LOTR marathon for the 25th and 26th!
The only glitch this year will be my Mom. My DSF passed away last year and she's not getting along all that well with the SD, so she may not go there for Christmas. However, she knows my feelings about Christmas in my family and hasn't *itched too much yet. I'll see her the weekend before if I can have my Dad drop me off at her place after I see him. Even that is making me queasy...