b/g I only got back into contact with my Dad when i was 14 and thus he did not bring me up, and similarly we only started exchanging presents around that time.
I love Christmas and everything around it, i tend to go overboard with Christmas Present shopping, even when i was in university i spent a small fortune on Christmas, the rest of my family are the same. I give huge gift bags full of presents (big stuff, little presents, stocking stuffers, etc) and the rest of my family gives around the same level (obviously depending on what they can afford)
My Dad's family however doesn't. When we exchange gift a few days before Christmas (presents aren't opened till Xmas day) It takes me 2 or 3 trips to carry everything to the car for their presents but when i return their presents to me (from dad, stepmum & half-brother) all fit in a small carrier bag. This has been going on for over a decade and it's getting depressing/awkward
They have stated previously, quite happily, that they don't really care about Christmas shopping and that my Dad goes out one afternoon and does all his Christmas shopping together in a couple of shops, usually buying myself and half-briother the same items. They are certainly not poor, have far more disposable income than me and could afford the presents if they decided to buy them.
I am not money grabbing, it's not the expense or even the amount of gifts, it's mainly the lack of thought/care i get back from them.
This year i am seriously considering reducing the number of presents/the amount i spend on them to be more in line with what i receive. Would this be considered Rude?