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A wealthy philanthropist and his wife donated money to a non-profit organization for an opera house in Miami, which was named in their honor.  His wife died, and he remarried.  Now, he wants to have the deceased wife's name removed from the building and the new wife's name put there instead. 

I have nothing to say but "wow".

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2067865/Wealthy-philanthropist-bid-erase-late-wifes-opera-house-favor-new-younger-blonde-wifes-name.html

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Re: Putting the new wife's name on a building named for the deceased wife
« Reply #1 on: November 30, 2011, 12:52:18 PM »
I wonder how he'd feel if the situation was reversed- or if, should his current wife survive him and remarry, she does the same thing.
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Re: Putting the new wife's name on a building named for the deceased wife
« Reply #2 on: November 30, 2011, 01:20:17 PM »
The board should agree to name it for only him to avoid the embarrassment but I imagine with the amount of money this guy has given them they don't really care what he wants it to be called.

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Re: Putting the new wife's name on a building named for the deceased wife
« Reply #3 on: November 30, 2011, 01:27:23 PM »
 :o

Wow 

I think this goes BEYOND bad etiquette.   Money can't buy class or good taste.

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Re: Putting the new wife's name on a building named for the deceased wife
« Reply #4 on: November 30, 2011, 01:29:10 PM »

That is hands down one of the tackiest things i have ever heard in my life  :o Why doesn't he name a library ... or i dunno ... a bar? after the new lady?

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Re: Putting the new wife's name on a building named for the deceased wife
« Reply #5 on: November 30, 2011, 01:51:46 PM »

That is hands down one of the tackiest things i have ever heard in my life  :o Why doesn't he name a library ... or i dunno ... a bar? after the new lady?

Agreed!

I wonder how the rest of the late wife's family feels about this... (obviously her sons aren't happy!)
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Re: Putting the new wife's name on a building named for the deceased wife
« Reply #6 on: November 30, 2011, 02:32:13 PM »
:o

Wow 

I think this goes BEYOND bad etiquette.   Money can't buy class or good taste.

Well said.
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Re: Putting the new wife's name on a building named for the deceased wife
« Reply #7 on: November 30, 2011, 03:14:49 PM »
Wow.  Completely disrespectful to the late wife and their children.  I'm guessing the new wife has even less class because she hasn't told him he was nuts!

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Re: Putting the new wife's name on a building named for the deceased wife
« Reply #8 on: November 30, 2011, 03:56:22 PM »
Wow.  Completely disrespectful to the late wife and their children.  I'm guessing the new wife has even less class because she hasn't told him he was nuts!

Well, to be fair we don't really know what she said to him or whether she was even aware of this. I would be more interested in finding out what their son said about it.


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Re: Putting the new wife's name on a building named for the deceased wife
« Reply #9 on: November 30, 2011, 07:47:59 PM »
I think they should just take his name off and leave his late wife's.

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Re: Putting the new wife's name on a building named for the deceased wife
« Reply #10 on: November 30, 2011, 07:54:10 PM »
I think they should just take his name off and leave his late wife's.

I was just going to post the same thing. 

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Re: Putting the new wife's name on a building named for the deceased wife
« Reply #11 on: November 30, 2011, 08:59:58 PM »
I think they should just take his name off and leave his late wife's.

Why? It was not her money that paid for it.


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Re: Putting the new wife's name on a building named for the deceased wife
« Reply #12 on: November 30, 2011, 09:09:20 PM »
This isn't a divorce, the last wife passed away! How could he even think such a thing!

He and his deceased wife gave the donation, not him and new wife.

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Re: Putting the new wife's name on a building named for the deceased wife
« Reply #13 on: November 30, 2011, 09:23:50 PM »
I think they should just take his name off and leave his late wife's.

That was my first thought too!!! I was reading the article and thinking if he were a classy guy he'd take his name off the building, let it be hers alone and then donate to something else in the name of him and his new wife.

Even though he presumably was the one who made the money, the article says his wife was the one who was focused on the charitable giving that they did. They had a lot, but it isn't really different from a middle or lower class husband and his SAHM, they were married and shared what they had and did.

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Re: Putting the new wife's name on a building named for the deceased wife
« Reply #14 on: November 30, 2011, 09:51:10 PM »
I think they should just take his name off and leave his late wife's.

Why? It was not her money that paid for it.

Sure it was; although, technically, it was their money, as a couple. And so, to remove either name now, hers or his, removes the memory of half the couple's contribution and work for the community. Not cool.

AlwaysQuizzical's idea is a good one. If he's that concerned, make a new donation somewhere else with the new wife's name. That would be a classy thing to do.