Definitely not abusive and not bullying. Not sure why my posts are being percieved as dismissive ... but thats ok... perceptions are very individual.
he was banned from the tree for being passive aggressive. Said he would help, but then when asked to pick up a few items to complete got on a pitch that it was fine. ( it was seriously half decorated ). When tried to reason with him - he would reiterate it was fine.
When I did get some more items - he was putting them on badly .. ON PURPOSE.. why do I make this intersting assumption ? Because he is very exacting with our own tree ... and what he was doing was silly.
Communication issue is the big thing. I have np problem with conflict .. if you do not like something I do ... tell me why, I'll analyze it.. I'll ask questions I will try to find out why we disagree.
He will just state his position over and over and over.
I was angry for being scolded in my own home for being perceived as too loud. He is loud on many occasions with his friends, the kids can be loud, the TV is loud. my house can be like a frat house
. There is a way to nicely point out that I am talking loud - but instead I was scolded like an errant child. When I pushed back he basically called me a loudmouth. Whne I really protested ... he copped out by saying he was just joking.
it's a repetitive pattern..... and I get tired of it
I don't mind if he tells me something bothers him.