<BG> I've been working out my whole life. When I first met my wife she was not too interested in exercise regimens. She was active (rode her bike a lot, climbed mountains, walked everywhere etc) but didn't really go to the gym or follow a program. I spend at least an hour at the gym every day. A few years ago, my wife expressed an interest in joining me. I agreed, although at first I thought that it would just be a passing fancy and she would quit in a few weeks. But she didn't. I wrote a plan for her back then to improve her conditioning and strength and she followed it enthusiastically and without complaining. Mind you, when she started she could not do a single push up. Now she is more than strong enough that she does not need her own program and just does everything I do side by side. (with lower weight when weights are involved, because she does not walk to bulk up.) </BG>
She now finishes the program I have created for myself easily. For the record, I am not weak. It's a challenging program that involves hanging toe touches, pull ups, 5 minute plank etc Mostly it's bodyweight only stuff so we do the exact same exercise. I write out a new set of exercises every day to maximize muscle confusion. I have refined it it be harder and harder to try to keep her challenge level appropriate to her fitness level and her goals. Of course that means that I also had to do the same exercises. Here is my problem. I can't keep up anymore.
By the end of the workout, I am usually sweating bullets and can barely stand. She is totally fine. I have stood there and watched her technique to make sure she is not somehow making it easier than it should be, but she is not. Her technique is as good as I know how to teach it. She breathes right and has excellent form. So, I crawl off to the locker room and spend the next few minutes trying not to throw up, shower and walk out on shaking legs and repeat the process the next day. She seems to pretend not to notice how tired I get, because she knows it would embarrass me.
I don't want to slow her progress because I can't operate at her level. But if I write her a program that is more challenging than mine is it will make me feel pretty pathetic. Also the close connection from doing the same exercises will be lost. Does it make sense for me to find her a personal trainer that will be able to take her to the next level, even though it will mean we will no longer work out together?