How attention grabbing are these rings?
It doesn't really change the etiquette of the situation I'm just curious.
Are they plain bands, with writing on the inside? Are they huge and bright colored and fit together like old school "best friends" necklaces?
Some times things are attention grabbing on purpose, and some times people go out of their way to find things to pick on.
The rings are just plain gold, nothing flashy. The only reason I even knew they existed was because Friend made a point of telling me. The top of the rings basically form the letter T, then a heart, then a J (and then the reverse for the other ring), all in gold, flat on the natural curve of the ring
The picture was a close-up of Friend's palm with the ring sitting on top, nothing else in the apartment could be seen so I don't think there is any security risk here. Friend had been telling all these friends from out of town about Todd & Jenny and the ring was one of the things that she would mention to them. I believe she sent the picture to show a physical representation of the ring that she had already been describing to them.
I don't know how valid a case there is for jealousy here. Friend does have something of a relationship
going, though it is long distance. I am more concerned that Jenny doesn't realize that when she confides in Friend or just speaks around her, the information is not staying with Friend - it goes to multiple states in the US and to some of Jenny's local friends. As of yet the information hasn't been anything that I think she wouldn't want me or her other friends to know, but I don't think she realizes the negative spin that Friend puts on it.
As for boundaries for pet-sitting, well...this isn't actually an isolated incident, though the last one was a bit different. Friend was asked to feed my best friend's (BFF) cat while she was visiting family (I wasn't back from my vacation to do it for her the first 2 days). Friend and I were hanging out in town and she casually mentions that she has been using BFF's apartment to study every day while she has been gone. Friend was not just sitting in the main area where BFF entertains friends and the cat stuff was kept for this week, she was going into the study/guest room and using BFF's desk. She even invited me over to BFF's apartment to play with the cat and study together - I declined. I asked BFF when she came back if this was the arrangement they had made, because it just seemed odd to me, especially since it seemed inappropriate to invite someone over to someone else's apartment when they weren't there.
As it turns out, BFF had no idea that Friend had been using her apartment at all let alone inviting someone over to hang out and was both surprised and upset. Friend had no hesitation in talking about it to me, was very casual in mentioning it, so I think that as far as she is concerned, she didn't do anything out of the ordinary.