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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7350 on: March 06, 2013, 05:48:28 PM »
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MIL is a furniture hound. There can be no wall space without a piece of furniture in front of it. However, we are such slobs   that all furniture (even particleboard) must have a sheet or some fabric draped over it to "protect" it.

Hahahahaha! I loved this. It reminded me of my mother's sister, my aunt, who always seemed so glamorous to me. Mary had been a stewardess (this was in the days of bright and glowing sexism) with American Airlines, then had married an older man and had three children. We would occasionally go and visit them. The house was nicer than ours and the living room particularly pretty. The way it stayed that way was because she covered everything plastic. Lampshades, sofas, chairs. Maybe Joan Crawford was an idol? (They did most of their socializing in the kitchen/family room, I believe.) The room was "for company." I remember asking my mom after one visit, "So what are we? Chopped liver?" Mom, if I remember correctly, kind of shrugged. She wasn't indifferent to my question, but probably uncertain how to answer it.

DH has a friend who had an "off-limits" room in the house. It was only to be used by his mother and the company she invited over. The carpet showed footprints so his mother would know. Showroom quality everything in that room.

I believe a home should be lived in, but I do have to remind DS to take care around furnishings on occasion.

My sister swears one of her friends put a velvet rope across the entrance to her living room.  No one ever went in there.   :)

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7351 on: March 06, 2013, 06:10:12 PM »
A place I worked was entirely about litigation - yet most of the lawyers had only been in a trial a few times over their entire career.  A lot of litigation is just motion practice now.  You might appear before a judge, but the who examination that you see on tv is not something everyone gets or has to do even if you are interested in litigation.

That reminds me of Tom Cruise's character in A Few Good Men.  The joke was he'd never seen the inside of a courtroom until he got that case because every previous case was settled out of court.
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7352 on: March 06, 2013, 06:12:02 PM »
My father showed me the package of a compact fluorescent light bulb which said something like "lasts up to 2 years."  :o  That kind of product warranty doesn't impress me.  >:D

It brings to mind when people say any of the following:

"For just pennies a day": The value of Buckingham Palace can be measured in pennies. You just need a lot of them.
"And it does the job in seconds!" The life span of the universe can be measured in seconds.  It's just a rather lot of them.
"Just yards away from [attraction] is [other attraction]" The distance from Earth to Betelguise can be measured in yards.  You just... well, you get the idea.

That's one of my pet peeves when commercials say "You can have this service that's less expensive than a cup of coffee a day!" Yeah well depends on what kind of coffee you get doesn't it?

Or "You can have this service for just 30 pennies a day!"
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7353 on: March 06, 2013, 06:13:27 PM »
A place I worked was entirely about litigation - yet most of the lawyers had only been in a trial a few times over their entire career.  A lot of litigation is just motion practice now.  You might appear before a judge, but the who examination that you see on tv is not something everyone gets or has to do even if you are interested in litigation.

That reminds me of Tom Cruise's character in A Few Good Men.  The joke was he'd never seen the inside of a courtroom until he got that case because every previous case was settled out of court.
One more plea bargain and he would win a set of of steak knives.

Yep, that was it. That is really the only movie I really like that has Tom Cruise in it.  Mostly cause I like the other actors so much and he is admittedly quite funny in that one.
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7354 on: March 06, 2013, 06:40:57 PM »
The "pennies a day" thing reminds me of when McDonalds made a big deal out of the fact that you got change back after buying their food.   I was only a kid, but even I was like " ... So?   If you give them a big enough bill, of course you're going to get change back!"

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7355 on: March 06, 2013, 06:42:28 PM »
A place I worked was entirely about litigation - yet most of the lawyers had only been in a trial a few times over their entire career.  A lot of litigation is just motion practice now.  You might appear before a judge, but the who examination that you see on tv is not something everyone gets or has to do even if you are interested in litigation.

That reminds me of Tom Cruise's character in A Few Good Men.  The joke was he'd never seen the inside of a courtroom until he got that case because every previous case was settled out of court.
One more plea bargain and he would win a set of of steak knives.

Yep, that was it. That is really the only movie I really like that has Tom Cruise in it.  Mostly cause I like the other actors so much and he is admittedly quite funny in that one.

I liked him in Tropic Thunder.  That was really about it, though...
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7356 on: March 06, 2013, 07:43:47 PM »
The "pennies a day" thing reminds me of when McDonalds made a big deal out of the fact that you got change back after buying their food.   I was only a kid, but even I was like " ... So?   If you give them a big enough bill, of course you're going to get change back!"

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« Reply #7357 on: March 06, 2013, 07:46:03 PM »

My sister swears one of her friends put a velvet rope across the entrance to her living room.  No one ever went in there.   :)

Did your sister happen to live in Illinois?  We knew a family like that too.  They really did have one of those velvet ropes on poles strung across the entrance into their living room.  No one in the family was permitted in there.  To the best of my knowledge, no guest ever crossed that barrier either.  No one ever went near the living room, the dining room or the real family room on the ground floor.  The mother vacuumed and dusted those rooms once a week, but otherwise they were untouched by human hands or feet.

They used the kitchen, and they used their bedrooms and upstairs baths, but otherwise all activities took place in the basement. 

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7358 on: March 06, 2013, 10:02:22 PM »
The "pennies a day" thing reminds me of when McDonalds made a big deal out of the fact that you got change back after buying their food.   I was only a kid, but even I was like " ... So?   If you give them a big enough bill, of course you're going to get change back!"

Not brain-hurty, but I am of the generation who heard McDonald's commercials that sang "Just 47 cents for a three-course meal!", meaning a small burger, small fries (I don't believe they had large fries back then) and small soda.
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7359 on: March 07, 2013, 01:06:43 AM »
This topic is bumming me out, because I would love to replace our worn-out carpet, but right now we can't afford it - doing our entire house would cost roughly $20,000.  Sigh.

Topic - and also related to carpet - my in-laws replaced their carpet about 15 years ago when all of their grandchildren were babies or toddlers, and they chose WHITE.  Not even off-white, but pure snowy white.  When my husband said "Um, you either have a lot of faith in kids' abilities to not be messy, or you don't mind", MIL said airily "Oh, you and your siblings will just have to keep an eye on your kids and make sure they don't mess it up."  Riiiight.

(For the record, we always did keep an eye on our kids, but no-one's perfect.  My in-laws' home was an absolute nightmare to visit with small children - not only because of the white carpet, but because of the small breakable figurines everywhere and the unprotected power outlets.  And they wondered why we didn't visit more often.)

They're not exchanges but overheard conversations, or those conversations where you're not in it but the person doing most of the talking keeps looking at you to see if you're agreeing. I've heard a few people make the comment that "oh, when my grandkids come over, they're just going to have to be careful! I'm not changing anything! Why, when I was young, my grandma would say 'those are my things and you don't touch them' and by golly, we didn't touch them! Kids these days just aren't made to mind!"  ::) Yes, children should understand that some things are not toys and to follow directions, but that's not an instantaneous process and accidents happen. Wouldn't it be easier to put your collection of extremely delicate figurines up instead of making your guests uncomfortable and constantly on the edge of their seats, tensed to jump up and grab the baby if he so much as looks in that direction?

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7360 on: March 07, 2013, 04:18:17 AM »
This topic is bumming me out, because I would love to replace our worn-out carpet, but right now we can't afford it - doing our entire house would cost roughly $20,000.  Sigh.

Topic - and also related to carpet - my in-laws replaced their carpet about 15 years ago when all of their grandchildren were babies or toddlers, and they chose WHITE.  Not even off-white, but pure snowy white.  When my husband said "Um, you either have a lot of faith in kids' abilities to not be messy, or you don't mind", MIL said airily "Oh, you and your siblings will just have to keep an eye on your kids and make sure they don't mess it up."  Riiiight.

(For the record, we always did keep an eye on our kids, but no-one's perfect.  My in-laws' home was an absolute nightmare to visit with small children - not only because of the white carpet, but because of the small breakable figurines everywhere and the unprotected power outlets.  And they wondered why we didn't visit more often.)

They're not exchanges but overheard conversations, or those conversations where you're not in it but the person doing most of the talking keeps looking at you to see if you're agreeing. I've heard a few people make the comment that "oh, when my grandkids come over, they're just going to have to be careful! I'm not changing anything! Why, when I was young, my grandma would say 'those are my things and you don't touch them' and by golly, we didn't touch them! Kids these days just aren't made to mind!"  ::) Yes, children should understand that some things are not toys and to follow directions, but that's not an instantaneous process and accidents happen. Wouldn't it be easier to put your collection of extremely delicate figurines up instead of making your guests uncomfortable and constantly on the edge of their seats, tensed to jump up and grab the baby if he so much as looks in that direction?
Mom had a good deal of breakable items on low tables, once sis and I were old enough to not touch. Dad never had a problem with her moving them when family came over. It really bugged him when she moved them because friends or business associates brought their kids over.

He felt like she was insulting their parenting. (Family you can be more honest - besides it was obvious she adored my younger cousins). Now Mom moved things so that they looked natural in their new place.

Then one year before the company (family invited) Christmas party Dad heard two parents talking. One was worried about bringing his toddler. He had been by the house and seen it with the breakable things on the low tables. The other employee said basically no (Mom and Dad) are fantastic hosts - those things are moved each year - but you wouldn't even know they had been there orginally. You do have to watch your kids, but just because they are kids. The house is very kid friendly. Dad appologized to mom.
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7361 on: March 07, 2013, 07:30:27 AM »
We are years away from my parents having grandchildren but right now I would never think of bringing a toddler in their living room. It's been years since they've had little kids visiting so I don't remember what they used to do but baby proofing the room now would take most of a day and the ability to create a new room to to put all the stuff in.
Unless it's made with snide remarks, kid-proofing a room is a 100% good host doing, that way you are allowing your guest to talk to you while watching his kid with one eye, and not trying to talk to your guest while he's restling his toddler near him and half trying to engage him to avoid tantrums.

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« Reply #7362 on: March 07, 2013, 07:34:05 AM »
We are years away from my parents having grandchildren but right now I would never think of bringing a toddler in their living room. It's been years since they've had little kids visiting so I don't remember what they used to do but baby proofing the room now would take most of a day and the ability to create a new room to to put all the stuff in.
Unless it's made with snide remarks, kid-proofing a room is a 100% good host doing, that way you are allowing your guest to talk to you while watching his kid with one eye, and not trying to talk to your guest while he's restling his toddler near him and half trying to engage him to avoid tantrums.


(so many sharp corners! so many small small stuff they could put in their mouth or break, so many pointy things (my mom quilts), there's even a step near another bunch of sharp corners, and huge books easily reachables near plenty of fragiles or heavy dodads, it's baby hell!! it's a good thing no little kids visit here  :o )

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« Reply #7363 on: March 07, 2013, 07:37:22 AM »
This is making me grateful for my ILs, who always do what they can to baby proof their house when we bring Piratebabe over there.  And sometimes they'll miss a few things, likely because he wasn't quite that tall the last time they saw him, but they're good at swooping in to move something.  Usually while laughing and saying "Well I didn't think he'd be able to get to THAT already!" as they move it higher.
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7364 on: March 07, 2013, 07:54:31 AM »
We are years away from my parents having grandchildren but right now I would never think of bringing a toddler in their living room. It's been years since they've had little kids visiting so I don't remember what they used to do but baby proofing the room now would take most of a day and the ability to create a new room to to put all the stuff in.
Unless it's made with snide remarks, kid-proofing a room is a 100% good host doing, that way you are allowing your guest to talk to you while watching his kid with one eye, and not trying to talk to your guest while he's restling his toddler near him and half trying to engage him to avoid tantrums.


(so many sharp corners! so many small small stuff they could put in their mouth or break, so many pointy things (my mom quilts), there's even a step near another bunch of sharp corners, and huge books easily reachables near plenty of fragiles or heavy dodads, it's baby hell!! it's a good thing no little kids visit here  :o )

I don't see how that's a brainhurt.  It's their house - if they don't have children visiting, why does it matter that their house isn't baby proofed?


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