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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7725 on: March 20, 2013, 10:04:16 AM »
HA!  Reminds me of a children's book with a scene of a church supper.  The girl wondered if it was right to bring devil's food cake to church.

I remember that one too...and there was something else about her making custard pies and adding a generous pinch of baking powder to the crust, because she had overheard that this would make the crust better, and then because the custard wasn't heavy enough to hold down the crust, it floated to the top, so she had upside down pies-which everyone ended up liking, after an initial reluctance to try them, because crust on the bottom would have gotten soggy, but the crust on top stayed crisp and flaky.

Now, what was the name of that book???? I'm trying so hard to remember.  But I do know that such a book exists.

I have no idea, but I read it too!
Emily's Runaway Imagination, by Beverly Cleary.
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7726 on: March 20, 2013, 10:19:15 AM »
One tangent about silverware, and then I'll cease threadjacking  :D

My cutlery and plates/bowls cannot have patterns on them.  I hate patterning, and the closer to simple I can get the better.  I've got some great glass bowls that are just bowls.  No flowers, no decorations, just bowls.  And I found some great cutlery at Target that's just a plain metal handle on each piece, with design.  They are beautiful.  :)
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7727 on: March 20, 2013, 10:23:48 AM »
I don't care about socks, but my strong feelings on silverware hurt my family's brains en mass.

They have to be organized just right. If they aren't organized the way I like them it kills me. And I know when they're off. Once, I walked into the kitchen during a party and could not drag my eyes from the silverware drawer. After about five minutes I finally opened it to find that someone had put a knife in the wrong way round. A few weeks ago I spent a week on edge before I found that someone had put our smallest, wimpiest fork(which has its own spot, thank you) had been placed with the good forks. It's like I have a psychic link with the cutlery.

My family enjoys screwing with me over it. Of course, given the number of instructional rants I go on about it...

Love it! I am pretty laissez-faire about a lot of things now, less so when I was younger. I love the Miss Matched non-matching socks and my silverware and dishes are all random because I got most of them as hand-me-downs.

I do keep my cereal boxes in the fridge, though. This freaks people out sometimes. I started doing it years ago because I literally did not have any other place to store an open cereal box in my tiny kitchen. Now I find it convenient because they're right next to the milk, and the cereal is cold. I don't like room-temperature cereal anymore. This leads to brain-hurting exchanges like, "No, we can't detour, we have to go straight home from the grocery store so I can put my cereal in the fridge!" Oh wait...

My friend and her family make my brain hurt with their domestic preferences. My friend was complaining once about her DH doing the laundry wrong--he'd put the towels in the washer, but he wasn't going to put the hand towels in then because he said they hadn't been used. She agreed they hadn't been used, but pointed out that if he washed the (matching) bath towels and hand towels a different number of times, eventually the color of the more-washed ones would fade, and then the two groups wouldn't match anymore. She explained this to a group of us like it was the most natural thing in the world, and we all just stared at her, because none of the rest of us had ever considered such a thing. Frankly I was thinking how awesome it was that her DH had, voluntarily, done everything else about the laundry correctly, and she had to nitpick on this one thing.

But then I went to visit her parents, and they're the same way. They have two different colors of dishes--think Fiestaware in dark and light--and they stack them in alternating colors in the cabinet, so they can easily lay them out in alternating colors on the table. And when dirty they put them in alternating colors in the dishwasher. At one meal they handed me a plate of one color, realized where I planned to sit, and took the plate away and gave me one of the other color. I was like  :o.

They are all really nice people, though, they just have their funny quirks as do we all. :) My dad is really persnickety about how dishes go in the dishwasher, he'll come along after my mom has loaded it and rearrange things before running it.
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7728 on: March 20, 2013, 10:36:47 AM »
My friend and her family make my brain hurt with their domestic preferences. My friend was complaining once about her DH doing the laundry wrong--he'd put the towels in the washer, but he wasn't going to put the hand towels in then because he said they hadn't been used. She agreed they hadn't been used, but pointed out that if he washed the (matching) bath towels and hand towels a different number of times, eventually the color of the more-washed ones would fade, and then the two groups wouldn't match anymore. She explained this to a group of us like it was the most natural thing in the world, and we all just stared at her, because none of the rest of us had ever considered such a thing. Frankly I was thinking how awesome it was that her DH had, voluntarily, done everything else about the laundry correctly, and she had to nitpick on this one thing.

I'm kind of with her.  If I had a set of hand towels I cared about, I'd probably want the whole set to match, and if there's any color to them at all, it makes sense that they'd fade eventually.  The other alternative is to replace them every couple of years... much easier to put it all in together.  Mind you, I wouldn't complain about it, I'd just point it out to M and that would probably be it.  But it does make sense.
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« Reply #7729 on: March 20, 2013, 10:37:13 AM »
For the longest time the stories that a friend of mine told about her parents' kitchen eccentricies made my brain hurt, then, after years of story telling she finally told me that her parents are Hasidic Jews, so all of of the stories about two separate sets of dishes and when they built a new house, two separate kitchens.  None of it is brain hurty once you realize that these people kept the strictest of Kosher. 
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7730 on: March 20, 2013, 10:43:57 AM »
Little Miss Matched socks?  I'd have called them "Dobby Socks"....

I prefer matched socks - but if I were in Orlando, getting ready to go to Universal Islands of Adventure, I'd be looking for two DIFFERENT socks to wear.......just for fun.

I would wear mismatched socks with you, we could have some butterbeer.

I love butterbeer - especially the frozen butterbeer on a hot July afternoon.
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7731 on: March 20, 2013, 10:49:52 AM »
  My friend and her family make my brain hurt with their domestic preferences. My friend was complaining once about her DH doing the laundry wrong--he'd put the towels in the washer, but he wasn't going to put the hand towels in then because he said they hadn't been used. She agreed they hadn't been used, but pointed out that if he washed the (matching) bath towels and hand towels a different number of times, eventually the color of the more-washed ones would fade, and then the two groups wouldn't match anymore. She explained this to a group of us like it was the most natural thing in the world, and we all just stared at her, because none of the rest of us had ever considered such a thing. Frankly I was thinking how awesome it was that her DH had, voluntarily, done everything else about the laundry correctly, and she had to nitpick on this one thing.

I was taught this by my mother, re: sweater sets. If you wash the shell and don't wash the cardigan, they will end up different colors.  Ditto for sheet sets, or any other matching set.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7732 on: March 20, 2013, 10:53:53 AM »
  My friend and her family make my brain hurt with their domestic preferences. My friend was complaining once about her DH doing the laundry wrong--he'd put the towels in the washer, but he wasn't going to put the hand towels in then because he said they hadn't been used. She agreed they hadn't been used, but pointed out that if he washed the (matching) bath towels and hand towels a different number of times, eventually the color of the more-washed ones would fade, and then the two groups wouldn't match anymore. She explained this to a group of us like it was the most natural thing in the world, and we all just stared at her, because none of the rest of us had ever considered such a thing. Frankly I was thinking how awesome it was that her DH had, voluntarily, done everything else about the laundry correctly, and she had to nitpick on this one thing.

I was taught this by my mother, re: sweater sets. If you wash the shell and don't wash the cardigan, they will end up different colors.  Ditto for sheet sets, or any other matching set.

Same here.  I don't think the towel/hand towel thing is strange at all.  In fact, I think hand towels need to be washed with the other towels even if they don't get used, not only so the colors always match, but because they DO get dirty just sitting there.  Think of all the germs that have coated those hand towels since the last time they were washed. (yuck!)

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7733 on: March 20, 2013, 11:09:22 AM »
Oh, I know some people are in total agreement about the towel washing thing, I didn't imagine my friend's family had made it up on their own--it was just somewhat alien to my own existence, so it made my brain hurt. :) Coupled with the fact that she assumed her DH, who grew up very differently from her in general, would just automatically know to do it, and that the group she was telling the story to would know what she was talking about and of course agree with her. I think she had to spend more time explaining to us what the problem was than she did her DH.
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7734 on: March 20, 2013, 02:59:41 PM »
This one happened just a few minutes ago.
A co-worker came flying into my office just as I was stepping out of the restroom.
She first questioned me in a hostile tone as to where I had been because she was in my room a minute ago and I wasn't there.  I told her I had stepped out, but, I'm here now and how can I help her?  She showed me a paper cut on her finger and asked for a bandaid.  Ok.  There is a basket of bandaids on my desk but perhaps she didn't see them?  So, I hand her one and point to bathroom if she'd like to wash up.
As she is exiting she says again, "so, where were you before?"
Me(feeling slightly irritated):  Sorry, I was in the bathroom.
Her:  Doing what?
Me:   ???
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7735 on: March 20, 2013, 03:06:12 PM »
This one happened just a few minutes ago.
A co-worker came flying into my office just as I was stepping out of the restroom.
She first questioned me in a hostile tone as to where I had been because she was in my room a minute ago and I wasn't there.  I told her I had stepped out, but, I'm here now and how can I help her?  She showed me a paper cut on her finger and asked for a bandaid.  Ok.  There is a basket of bandaids on my desk but perhaps she didn't see them?  So, I hand her one and point to bathroom if she'd like to wash up.
As she is exiting she says again, "so, where were you before?"
Me(feeling slightly irritated):  Sorry, I was in the bathroom.
Her:  Doing what?
Me:   ???
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7736 on: March 20, 2013, 03:08:40 PM »

....   EvilTraska votes on being graphically descriptive.  Don't forget to call her at home as you remember details you accidentally left out.

During dinner.   >:D

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7737 on: March 20, 2013, 03:47:48 PM »
These are two kitchen-related brain-hurts:

1) I roomed with a guy once after college.  He was really unhappy if I left papers scattered around the apartment, even if they were somewhat piled.  He much preferred they be in very neat piles if they had to be out, otherwise filed away out of sight was the best option.  Yet he allowed food to spoil in the fridge and the kitchen and bathroom were plague zones if I didn't clean stuff.  How can moldy food not bother someone but unaligned papers could?   :P

2) Based on that experience, I developed a strict sponge usage protocol which in turn hurts others' brains.  It's simple, really.  The sponge to the left of the faucet, scrubby side down, is for dishes only.  The sponge to the right of the faucet, scrubby side up, is for counters/floor only.  Anyone not abiding by the protocol gets a mild gasp of dismay, and the corrupted sponge is either downgraded (dish sponge used on the counter becomes the counter-only sponge) or removed altogether (counter sponge used on the dishes *shudder* means dish gets rewashed with a clean new sponge).  Go figure, DH prefers to use a completely separate third sponge when he does dishes by hand, and I choose to ignore the fact that he uses that same sponge to scrub down the sink too.  (Yes, I will frequently rewash those dishes after he leaves the area but I swear it's because his sponge doesn't clean as well!)

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7738 on: March 20, 2013, 04:34:26 PM »
I, too, have sponge rules which DH has fortunately adopted.

I let sponges used on dishes be used on the counters, but not the floors.  I figure dishes and counters where food is prepared have to be "food clean".   Once a sponge is used on the floor, it's put under the sink where it won't be used accidentally on dishes or counters.  Plus, it is closer to the floor. >:D

The dish sponge gets demoted to shower/bathroom sink duty when/if it gets old enough.  Floor sponges end up cleaning tack or the litter box or get tossed when they get old enough.  A sponge used on the litter box is thrown away.
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7739 on: March 20, 2013, 05:26:59 PM »
From my friend the college professor--today he graded an essay that stated, for those too ignorant to understand, that racism has been around for almost a decade. I wonder what the turning point was that sparked the onslaught of racism ~10 years ago.


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