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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #5565 on: November 08, 2012, 12:48:02 PM »
This made my brain hurt the other day, and I wish I knew the answer to why it happened, but I was so flummoxed I just walked away...

I went to have some sushi at a stand in a food court. I ordered soup, a scallop roll and two servings of maki.

The soup and the roll came, no problem, they were great. Then I waited. And waited and waited. No maki. Then the waitress came with my bill. I wasn't charged for the maki, but you could see where I had checked it off on the menu.

I told her that I didn't get my maki, and she said, "Yes, we didn't make it for you."

 :o

I was so baffled that I said ok and left.  I have no idea what that was about. I was still hungry and had to go get something else to eat!

That is BIZARRE.  It actually crosses into rudeness, despite the waitress' politeness.  (I'm assuming she was polite about it, anyway.)

Question 1: Did you ask why?

Question 2: Is that one of the few 'no tip' times? It probably would have been for me.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #5566 on: November 08, 2012, 12:56:01 PM »
You simply must call and ask a manager whether they are in the habit of cutting customer orders in half, and if that's their way of helping the local economy.
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #5567 on: November 08, 2012, 01:16:24 PM »
This made my brain hurt the other day, and I wish I knew the answer to why it happened, but I was so flummoxed I just walked away...

I went to have some sushi at a stand in a food court. I ordered soup, a scallop roll and two servings of maki.

The soup and the roll came, no problem, they were great. Then I waited. And waited and waited. No maki. Then the waitress came with my bill. I wasn't charged for the maki, but you could see where I had checked it off on the menu.

I told her that I didn't get my maki, and she said, "Yes, we didn't make it for you."

 :o

I was so baffled that I said ok and left.  I have no idea what that was about. I was still hungry and had to go get something else to eat!

That is BIZARRE.  It actually crosses into rudeness, despite the waitress' politeness.  (I'm assuming she was polite about it, anyway.)

Yes, she was very polite. I really wish I could give an answer as to why...I was so completely gobsmacked that I just left...I kind of shuffled out like a zombie!

If nothing else, it gave my office a good laugh for the rest of the day. I think it may have to go down in history as one of those unsolved mysteries.

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« Reply #5568 on: November 08, 2012, 02:13:01 PM »
My guess is that she thought that once you had the soup and the scallop, you wouldn't be hungry enough to eat two servings of maki also.  (nevermind that you might take it home, etc) So to be 'helpful' and to cut waste, she simply didn't make it for you.  That's the logic I'm operating on anyway... I've heard people complain about this before, so that may be what happened here.

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« Reply #5569 on: November 08, 2012, 02:38:51 PM »
I think they forgot it in the kitchen, and she didn't realize.

And then when she went to get the bill for you, she realized that you hadn't gotten it, so she didn't charge you for it.

when you said, "I didn't get my maki" (did you gesture to the bill?) she 'heard' "you didn't charge me for it."

And she answered, "Yes, we didn't make it for you." Meaning, "we already knew that you hadn't gotten it, because we didn't make it, so I'm not charging you."

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #5570 on: November 08, 2012, 02:44:08 PM »
That kind of thing happened to me and DH at a pizza place once. We ordered cheese bread to come before our pizza.  Out comes the pizza, we never saw our bread.  We asked the waitress about it and she said "Someone else took your order, so I canceled it." We asked "Why, how long could it take to make another order?"  She said "Oh, about 5 minutes."
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« Reply #5571 on: November 08, 2012, 04:58:25 PM »
That kind of thing happened to me and DH at a pizza place once. We ordered cheese bread to come before our pizza.  Out comes the pizza, we never saw our bread.  We asked the waitress about it and she said "Someone else took your order, so I canceled it." We asked "Why, how long could it take to make another order?"  She said "Oh, about 5 minutes."
 ???

That's a good way to ensure a lower tip!
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #5572 on: November 08, 2012, 06:19:00 PM »
I think they forgot it in the kitchen, and she didn't realize.

And then when she went to get the bill for you, she realized that you hadn't gotten it, so she didn't charge you for it.

when you said, "I didn't get my maki" (did you gesture to the bill?) she 'heard' "you didn't charge me for it."

And she answered, "Yes, we didn't make it for you." Meaning, "we already knew that you hadn't gotten it, because we didn't make it, so I'm not charging you."

I not only gestured towards the bill, it was one of those places where your check off on a slip what you want, and I showed her where I had checked it!


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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #5573 on: November 08, 2012, 09:24:56 PM »
This happened to my MIL, but it make my brain hurt.

A few years ago, she was scheduled for a hysterectomy.  They live in a very tiny rural town, so for major medical things like this they drive a few hours to the next state, where the closest big hospital is.

So she checks into the hospital, gets prepped, goes to surgery.  When she sees the doctor post op, she's told that they opened her up but then 'couldn't do the surgery'.  Why not?  Well, they just couldn't.  And that's the only answer the doctor would give her.

I can't believe that a) any semi-ethical, semi-competent doctor would do such a thing and b) that MIL didn't start making a huge noisy fuss until she got a real answer.  If that didn't work, I know that my first call would have been to my insurance company's grievance line - nothing irks a health insurer like being billed for services not rendered (aka fraud).  I encouraged her to do this but for some reason she didn't want to make a fuss.   :o

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« Reply #5574 on: November 08, 2012, 09:30:13 PM »
Remember, half of the population is below average.

Half is also above average.  :D

That would be median, not average :)
Those are 'measures of central tendency. Average is the sum of all the measurements, divided by the number of measurements...aka the mean. Median is the exact middle. Mode is rarely used, because it's the most commonly occurring value, and it's rather meaningless when trying to describe central tendency.

The difference between mean and median is illustrated by looking at income. If we take 9 Ehellions of moderate income, and Bill Gates, versus a sample of 10 Ehellions of moderate income, the median for both groups will be roughly the same, whereas the mean for the first group will be much higher, as well as being a number that doesn't correspond to the income of anyone in that group- too low for Bill, too high for the rest of us.

Median is a type of "average", the others being mean and mode.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #5575 on: November 08, 2012, 11:54:46 PM »
This happened to my MIL, but it make my brain hurt.

A few years ago, she was scheduled for a hysterectomy.  They live in a very tiny rural town, so for major medical things like this they drive a few hours to the next state, where the closest big hospital is.

So she checks into the hospital, gets prepped, goes to surgery.  When she sees the doctor post op, she's told that they opened her up but then 'couldn't do the surgery'.  Why not?  Well, they just couldn't.  And that's the only answer the doctor would give her.

I can't believe that a) any semi-ethical, semi-competent doctor would do such a thing and b) that MIL didn't start making a huge noisy fuss until she got a real answer.  If that didn't work, I know that my first call would have been to my insurance company's grievance line - nothing irks a health insurer like being billed for services not rendered (aka fraud).  I encouraged her to do this but for some reason she didn't want to make a fuss.   :o

She didn't want to make a fuss??!! Someone put her under general anaesthetic, cuts open her insides, and then does NOTHING of any benefit to anyone, presumably charging her for the privilege of being sliced open for fun, and then can't even give her a reason???? There's no word to describe how much fuss I would make about that.
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #5576 on: November 09, 2012, 06:57:31 AM »
I think they forgot it in the kitchen, and she didn't realize.

And then when she went to get the bill for you, she realized that you hadn't gotten it, so she didn't charge you for it.

when you said, "I didn't get my maki" (did you gesture to the bill?) she 'heard' "you didn't charge me for it."

And she answered, "Yes, we didn't make it for you." Meaning, "we already knew that you hadn't gotten it, because we didn't make it, so I'm not charging you."

I not only gestured towards the bill, it was one of those places where your check off on a slip what you want, and I showed her where I had checked it!

Yep--so by that point in the meal, she was thinking of that piece of paper as "the thing with the *charges* on it" and not "the thing with the food order on it," so she answered the question she *saw* you ask ("you didn't add this in") instead of the one you did ask ("you didn't bring me this food").

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« Reply #5577 on: November 09, 2012, 07:56:23 AM »
He still doesn't understand why this hurts my brain...

When I started work over three weeks ago, I decided that I would sometimes take lunch to work with me.  I found Mental Boyfriend's old lunchbox atop the fridge and took that to work with me two days in a row.  On the third day, I did not take it but left it in the kitchen.  A few working days later, I went to take lunch to work with me and could not find the lunchbox anywhere in the kitchen/dining room/living room area.  I looked in cupboards and everything.  When I got home, I asked Mental Boyfriend where he had put the lunchbox.  His answer?

"In the closet in the spare room."
"Why?"
"That's where the other one was."
"Wait, you really put it in the closet in the spare room?"
"Yes."
"That doesn't make any sense.  Why would I ever look there for it?"
"That's where the other one was."
"So you really think I would look in the closet in the spare room for the lunchbox I left in the kitchen?"
"Well, that's where the other one was."
"But I left it in the kitchen because I'm using it and that's where I use."
"The other one was in the closet."

I gave up after that.  I realize that he was trying to keep the lunchboxes together (I didn't know there was another one in the closet), but it never occurred to him that I left it in the kitchen for a reason and that putting it somewhere I would never look for it even though I was using it was a bad idea.

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« Reply #5578 on: November 09, 2012, 09:24:45 AM »
This happened to my MIL, but it make my brain hurt.

A few years ago, she was scheduled for a hysterectomy.  They live in a very tiny rural town, so for major medical things like this they drive a few hours to the next state, where the closest big hospital is.

So she checks into the hospital, gets prepped, goes to surgery.  When she sees the doctor post op, she's told that they opened her up but then 'couldn't do the surgery'.  Why not?  Well, they just couldn't.  And that's the only answer the doctor would give her.

I can't believe that a) any semi-ethical, semi-competent doctor would do such a thing and b) that MIL didn't start making a huge noisy fuss until she got a real answer.  If that didn't work, I know that my first call would have been to my insurance company's grievance line - nothing irks a health insurer like being billed for services not rendered (aka fraud).  I encouraged her to do this but for some reason she didn't want to make a fuss.   :o

She didn't want to make a fuss??!! Someone put her under general anaesthetic, cuts open her insides, and then does NOTHING of any benefit to anyone, presumably charging her for the privilege of being sliced open for fun, and then can't even give her a reason???? There's no word to describe how much fuss I would make about that.

Because of surgeons' crazy operating room schedule, many work with two teams: one is with him in one operating room while the second is either prepping the next patient or closing up the previous. Which is all fine and dandy, until things go wrong. A friend told me how they once had someone on the table, under anesthetics and opened up, for 6 hours, waiting for the surgeon (it turned out that there was a good reason for him not to be there and it seems that, in that case, it would be worse to just close the patient up and operate another day). This has led me to declare that I will not go in for surgery prep without having actually greeted the surgeon at the hospital a few minutes earlier (which is not fail proof either).

But, yes, your MIL deserves an explanation, an apology, no charges for the failed attempt and a good discount as good will/compensation.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #5579 on: November 09, 2012, 10:02:44 AM »
This happened to my MIL, but it make my brain hurt.

A few years ago, she was scheduled for a hysterectomy.  They live in a very tiny rural town, so for major medical things like this they drive a few hours to the next state, where the closest big hospital is.

So she checks into the hospital, gets prepped, goes to surgery.  When she sees the doctor post op, she's told that they opened her up but then 'couldn't do the surgery'.  Why not?  Well, they just couldn't.  And that's the only answer the doctor would give her.

I can't believe that a) any semi-ethical, semi-competent doctor would do such a thing and b) that MIL didn't start making a huge noisy fuss until she got a real answer.  If that didn't work, I know that my first call would have been to my insurance company's grievance line - nothing irks a health insurer like being billed for services not rendered (aka fraud).  I encouraged her to do this but for some reason she didn't want to make a fuss.   :o

Didn't want to make a fuss?  I can't believe your MIL just accepted that! 


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