Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt

[Jones]

This conversation is making my heart hurt.  Snowflake, you are a stronger person than me; I don't think I could be a foster parent, judgemental and confusing neighbors aside.

[RegionMom]

Bill Cosby-
'I brought you into this world; I can take you out!  And I'll make another one, look just like you."

OK,, I think we need to get back to brain hurty talking...

[Frog24]

Bill Cosby-
'I brought you into this world; I can take you out!  And I'll make another one, look just like you."

OK,, I think we need to get back to brain hurty talking...

Sorry, sorry, sorry... but I had to add this:

I had the opportunity to see Bill Cosby a year or so ago.  He was telling the story of how his teenage daughter threw the line of "Well, I didn't ASK to be BORN!" at him during an argument.  He looked at her and said: "Yes, you did! You're the one that got to the egg first!"

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[kherbert05]

One of my cousins was a foster parent. A child was moved from their house after she had a child. They no longer met the requirements of bedroom sq footage per child.

[Midnight Kitty]

When Misty was a silly filly, she gave me all kinds of grief training her.  She bucked me off and a couple other people who were professional trainers.  One trainer told me I should sell her as I was ruining her and she was dangerous for me to ride.  I told my father, tearfully, that we might have to sell Misty and it was breaking my heart.

He said, "How can you consider selling her?  You gave your mother and me all kinds of grief and we didn't sell you?"

Why would this make my brain hurt?  Because I had an older foster sister who did not get along with my mother.  They "gave her back."  Dad must think I forgot that, or maybe he's blocked it out.  It is unsettling to have an older sister for years, then all of a sudden she is gone.  Add to that, my parent just said, "She didn't follow our rules."  I was an insecure child and this did not make me feel more secure.  If I didn't follow their rules, would they ditch me, too?

[Pippen]

When Misty was a silly filly, she gave me all kinds of grief training her.  She bucked me off and a couple other people who were professional trainers.  One trainer told me I should sell her as I was ruining her and she was dangerous for me to ride.  I told my father, tearfully, that we might have to sell Misty and it was breaking my heart.

He said, "How can you consider selling her?  You gave your mother and me all kinds of grief and we didn't sell you?"

Why would this make my brain hurt?  Because I had an older foster sister who did not get along with my mother.  They "gave her back."  Dad must think I forgot that, or maybe he's blocked it out.  It is unsettling to have an older sister for years, then all of a sudden she is gone.  Add to that, my parent just said, "She didn't follow our rules."  I was an insecure child and this did not make me feel more secure.  If I didn't follow their rules, would they ditch me, too?

Oh I can definitely see how upsetting and difficult to reconcile that would be.

[violinp]

When Misty was a silly filly, she gave me all kinds of grief training her.  She bucked me off and a couple other people who were professional trainers.  One trainer told me I should sell her as I was ruining her and she was dangerous for me to ride.  I told my father, tearfully, that we might have to sell Misty and it was breaking my heart.

He said, "How can you consider selling her? You gave your mother and me all kinds of grief and we didn't sell you?"

Why would this make my brain hurt?  Because I had an older foster sister who did not get along with my mother.  They "gave her back."  Dad must think I forgot that, or maybe he's blocked it out.  It is unsettling to have an older sister for years, then all of a sudden she is gone.  Add to that, my parent just said, "She didn't follow our rules."  I was an insecure child and this did not make me feel more secure.  If I didn't follow their rules, would they ditch me, too?

as;ldfkjhg What?!? Having to sell a horse because she's dangerous to your health is not the same as giving up a child because they're annoying. That was amazingly cruel and horrible to say, as well as being brain - hurty.

I made my Dad's brain hurt today. We had to buy stuff for Thanksgiving today (it'll be too crazy this next week to try to get any shopping done), and Dad told me to turn the kitchen light off (we were in the kitchen and Dad was by the door. I went into the dining room because I thought I saw the shopping list on the table.

Dad: Violinp, what are you doing? I wanted you to turn off the kitchen light, not the dining room light!
Me: I wasn't going in there for that!
Dad: What did you need?
Me: We need the list!
Dad: *looks on the table* Violinp, that's my recipe for oyster chowder. I have the list in my pocket.
Me: ...Oh.

The thing is, my mom handwrote the shopping list, and my dad handwrote the recipe. Their handwriting looks about as alike as a goldfish and a squid. I can't blame it on sleep deprivation, because I got 8 hours of sleep. 

[Bijou]

We've had our car for more than 15 years (it's a 90 Toyota Corolla).  For all that time I have been using the same seat belt buckle.  I can't even think how many times.  Anyway, over the past couple of months it has started to stick and I have trouble unbuckling it.  Just intermittently.  I mention it every time to my husband and every time he says he has no trouble with it.  "Hmm....I don't have that problem.". which translates to "It must be you and not the belt."
Today I had trouble again and when he tried it he fiddled and fiddled with it, then told me that he figured out  'if you press on the side bar and the button at the same time it won't work."  HUH!?  Suddenly I have started to do some weird maneuver intermittently causing the problem?  Why, I ask, would I suddenly, after all these years, not know how to use the seat belt?  Aye cadathe!  (means:  "Oh, good grief!"  "Oh, for crying out loud!" "Yahhh!  I'm going to tear my hair out any minute now!!!!")
That hissing you heard this afternoon was steam coming out my ears!
At least he's looking at it, trying to figure it out. Stop complaining and count my blessings, and he surely is one of them after nearly 40 years of marriage!

[WillyNilly]

We've had our car for more than 15 years (it's a 90 Toyota Corolla).  For all that time I have been using the same seat belt buckle.  I can't even think how many times.  Anyway, over the past couple of months it has started to stick and I have trouble unbuckling it.  Just intermittently.  I mention it every time to my husband and every time he says he has no trouble with it.  "Hmm....I don't have that problem.". which translates to "It must be you and not the belt."
Today I had trouble again and when he tried it he fiddled and fiddled with it, then told me that he figured out  'if you press on the side bar and the button at the same time it won't work."  HUH!?  Suddenly I have started to do some weird maneuver intermittently causing the problem?  Why, I ask, would I suddenly, after all these years, not know how to use the seat belt?  Aye cadathe!  (means:  "Oh, good grief!"  "Oh, for crying out loud!" "Yahhh!  I'm going to tear my hair out any minute now!!!!")
That hissing you heard this afternoon was steam coming out my ears!

Its seems much more logical to assume after 15 years the mechanism has simply worn down.  There's got to be considerable wear & tear on a button after 15 years of use! Your DH probably always pushed the button the way he's pushing now, and you pushed the way you pushed.  Its just luck of the drawer that the way you do it no longer works now that its worn down.

[Bijou]

We've had our car for more than 15 years (it's a 90 Toyota Corolla).  For all that time I have been using the same seat belt buckle.  I can't even think how many times.  Anyway, over the past couple of months it has started to stick and I have trouble unbuckling it.  Just intermittently.  I mention it every time to my husband and every time he says he has no trouble with it.  "Hmm....I don't have that problem.". which translates to "It must be you and not the belt."
Today I had trouble again and when he tried it he fiddled and fiddled with it, then told me that he figured out  'if you press on the side bar and the button at the same time it won't work."  HUH!?  Suddenly I have started to do some weird maneuver intermittently causing the problem?  Why, I ask, would I suddenly, after all these years, not know how to use the seat belt?  Aye cadathe!  (means:  "Oh, good grief!"  "Oh, for crying out loud!" "Yahhh!  I'm going to tear my hair out any minute now!!!!")
That hissing you heard this afternoon was steam coming out my ears!

Its seems much more logical to assume after 15 years the mechanism has simply worn down.  There's got to be considerable wear & tear on a button after 15 years of use! Your DH probably always pushed the button the way he's pushing now, and you pushed the way you pushed.  Its just luck of the drawer that the way you do it no longer works now that its worn down.

That's what I think.  What a guy!  I probably make his brain hurt, too, sometimes, though, so I guess we're even.

[sunnygirl]

That reminds me, I was on the tube recently coming back from a trip, and my wheeled suitcase's handle was broken so it no longer retracted. So many people approached me to try to teach me how to retract the handle, and insisted on saying, "oh no, all you have to do is press the button on top and push the handle down!" even after I explained it was broken. I mean, really. Which is more likely, a cheap supermarket case breaking, or someone going through an entire foreign trip without figuring out how to do something as basic as use a suitcase? For some reason they just couldn't get their heads around a simple a concept as 'it is broken.'

[Hazmat]

We've had our car for more than 15 years (it's a 90 Toyota Corolla).  For all that time I have been using the same seat belt buckle.  I can't even think how many times.  Anyway, over the past couple of months it has started to stick and I have trouble unbuckling it.  Just intermittently.  I mention it every time to my husband and every time he says he has no trouble with it.  "Hmm....I don't have that problem.". which translates to "It must be you and not the belt."
Today I had trouble again and when he tried it he fiddled and fiddled with it, then told me that he figured out  'if you press on the side bar and the button at the same time it won't work."  HUH!?  Suddenly I have started to do some weird maneuver intermittently causing the problem?  Why, I ask, would I suddenly, after all these years, not know how to use the seat belt?  Aye cadathe!  (means:  "Oh, good grief!"  "Oh, for crying out loud!" "Yahhh!  I'm going to tear my hair out any minute now!!!!")
That hissing you heard this afternoon was steam coming out my ears!

Its seems much more logical to assume after 15 years the mechanism has simply worn down.  There's got to be considerable wear & tear on a button after 15 years of use! Your DH probably always pushed the button the way he's pushing now, and you pushed the way you pushed.  Its just luck of the drawer that the way you do it no longer works now that its worn down.

That's what I think.  What a guy!  I probably make his brain hurt, too, sometimes, though, so I guess we're even.

My old Ford diesel pickup is the same way, I finally figured out the trick to it (push down on the "male" part as you're pressing the button.)  Anybody else that drives it has to wiggle out from under or have me do it for them. 

You could go to a junkyard to get one similar to it.  That's what I had to do when Bruiser, my boxer, chewed through my seatbelt because he didn't  like waiting in the truck. 

[Shalamar]

That reminds me of when my electronic bathroom scale stopped working.  "Did you try changing the battery?".  GEE NO THAT NEVER OCCURRED TO ME.   

[Yvaine]

You could go to a junkyard to get one similar to it.  That's what I had to do when Bruiser, my boxer, chewed through my seatbelt because he didn't  like waiting in the truck. 

Brief AWWWjack: Your dog is so cute!

[Jocelyn]

That reminds me of when my electronic bathroom scale stopped working.  "Did you try changing the battery?".  GEE NO THAT NEVER OCCURRED TO ME.   

That's like when I have to deal with IT people...and even though I give them a history of the problem and the efforts I have made to rectify it, they'll ask, 'Have you tried rebooting?' or something basic like that, which I have already told them I tried! It's not just that they assume I don't know anything, but that they assume that whatever I have to say is so irrelevant that they don't bother to listen.
Someday I'm going to say, 'I was trouble-shooting my computer back when you were still in diapers. Please listen.'