When Misty was a silly filly, she gave me all kinds of grief training her. She bucked me off and a couple other people who were professional trainers. One trainer told me I should sell her as I was ruining her and she was dangerous for me to ride. I told my father, tearfully, that we might have to sell Misty and it was breaking my heart.
He said, "How can you consider selling her? You gave your mother and me all kinds of grief and we didn't sell you?"
Why would this make my brain hurt? Because I had an older foster sister who did not get along with my mother. They "gave her back." Dad must think I forgot that, or maybe he's blocked it out. It is unsettling to have an older sister for years, then all of a sudden she is gone. Add to that, my parent just said, "She didn't follow our rules." I was an insecure child and this did not make me feel more secure. If I didn't follow their rules, would they ditch me, too?