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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #6330 on: January 08, 2013, 11:12:10 PM »
Last month, I had a conversation with a new coworker that was a bit odd.  We were chatting about our kids, and after telling me about how great a mother she is (she literally used that expression) to her sons, we got to talking about my daughter.  She asked if I would ever allow my daughter to date.  I said, um, sure, when she's old enough, like 15 or so.  Coworker was aghast!  See, in her culture, girls don't date, they get married.  In order to even consider being allowed to see a boy, she said girls basically have to be "pre-engaged" to him but regular dating?  Especially casual dating?  Nope, doesn't happen.

It was her reaction that was brain-hurty:  She seemed by turns fascinated and horrified that I thought it would be acceptable to let my daughter go on dates (eventually, years from now).  She's lived in the US for at least a decade though, and I'm guessing has been exposed to enough of our pop culture to know that dating is common here, starting in high (or even junior high) school and continuing, well, indefinitely in some cases, but certainly preceding marriage in most cases.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #6331 on: January 09, 2013, 10:34:46 AM »
The glasses/contacts thing reminded me of this. When I was 16, I switched from glasses (which I had worn most of my life) to contacts. For the next couple of weeks I kept getting variations of this comment. "You look different. Did you get your hair cut?"

This reminds me of when I left school. I switched from glasses to contact lenses over the summer. When I arrived at the School at the end of the summer for the Debs (equivalent of High School Senior Prom) many people didn't recognise me AT ALL, and one girl (it was an all-girls school) was convinced I was an imposter pretending to be me!
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #6332 on: January 09, 2013, 11:40:16 AM »
LazyDaisy wrote:

"They probably both thought that since Natasha obviously doesn't mind the contact that the order just doesn't "count" anymore. But if she gets mad at him again, then it does 'cause that's how it works right?"

I'm willing to bet a dollar that he didn't think it through even that far.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #6333 on: January 09, 2013, 12:37:55 PM »
lilfox, your story reminds me of a friend of mine who stated when her son was born that she wouldn't allow him to date until he was 18.  18 years later, she still has that attitude.  My thoughts?  "If you honestly think you can pull that off, more power to you.  But kids - especially teenagers - are a lot more creative about getting around their parents' rules than you may like to believe."

(Personally, I thought that "18" was way too strict, but that's just my opinion.)

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« Reply #6334 on: January 09, 2013, 12:43:36 PM »
The glasses/contacts thing reminded me of this. When I was 16, I switched from glasses (which I had worn most of my life) to contacts. For the next couple of weeks I kept getting variations of this comment. "You look different. Did you get your hair cut?"

This reminds me of when I left school. I switched from glasses to contact lenses over the summer. When I arrived at the School at the end of the summer for the Debs (equivalent of High School Senior Prom) many people didn't recognise me AT ALL, and one girl (it was an all-girls school) was convinced I was an imposter pretending to be me!

I've learned by many years' experience that I'm unrecognizable to many people if they've only ever known me with my hair up and suddenly I wear it down. It's long and not well-behaved, so in most work situations it's tightly corralled into submission. I've had multiple co-workers fail to recognize me if I did let The Mop loose in their presence.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #6335 on: January 09, 2013, 12:45:20 PM »
The glasses/contacts thing reminded me of this. When I was 16, I switched from glasses (which I had worn most of my life) to contacts. For the next couple of weeks I kept getting variations of this comment. "You look different. Did you get your hair cut?"

This reminds me of when I left school. I switched from glasses to contact lenses over the summer. When I arrived at the School at the end of the summer for the Debs (equivalent of High School Senior Prom) many people didn't recognise me AT ALL, and one girl (it was an all-girls school) was convinced I was an imposter pretending to be me!

I've learned by many years' experience that I'm unrecognizable to many people if they've only ever known me with my hair up and suddenly I wear it down. It's long and not well-behaved, so in most work situations it's tightly corralled into submission. I've had multiple co-workers fail to recognize me if I did let The Mop loose in their presence.

Me too! hair down + glasses made my boss of 4 years have to do a double take to recognize me!

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #6336 on: January 09, 2013, 01:10:05 PM »
The glasses/contacts thing reminded me of this. When I was 16, I switched from glasses (which I had worn most of my life) to contacts. For the next couple of weeks I kept getting variations of this comment. "You look different. Did you get your hair cut?"

This reminds me of when I left school. I switched from glasses to contact lenses over the summer. When I arrived at the School at the end of the summer for the Debs (equivalent of High School Senior Prom) many people didn't recognise me AT ALL, and one girl (it was an all-girls school) was convinced I was an imposter pretending to be me!

Hey, it works for Clark Kent. :)

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #6337 on: January 09, 2013, 01:33:32 PM »
When I forget a password and have to reset it, which means a laundry list of requirements topped off with a partridge in a pair tree, and including "Cannot be the same password as you've had for the last year."

Um, if I could remember I wouldn't be resetting my password, here.
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #6338 on: January 09, 2013, 01:44:57 PM »
The glasses/contacts thing reminded me of this. When I was 16, I switched from glasses (which I had worn most of my life) to contacts. For the next couple of weeks I kept getting variations of this comment. "You look different. Did you get your hair cut?"

This reminds me of when I left school. I switched from glasses to contact lenses over the summer. When I arrived at the School at the end of the summer for the Debs (equivalent of High School Senior Prom) many people didn't recognise me AT ALL, and one girl (it was an all-girls school) was convinced I was an imposter pretending to be me!

I've learned by many years' experience that I'm unrecognizable to many people if they've only ever known me with my hair up and suddenly I wear it down. It's long and not well-behaved, so in most work situations it's tightly corralled into submission. I've had multiple co-workers fail to recognize me if I did let The Mop loose in their presence.

I had the security guard at work question me the one and only time I wore my waist-length hair down.  It was rather amusing.
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #6339 on: January 09, 2013, 02:11:09 PM »
The Darwin fish post reminded me of this (details fudged, name invented):

I have a relative who lives far away from me. We aren't particularly close (she's a perfectly nice person, but we have little in common), but since she's an avid user of Facebook, I'm always seeing what she's up to. 

However, my jaw dropped when she wrote that she was running around getting ready to host a LGBT party for her teenager. You see, she and her whole family are an active and devout members of a faith that considers homosexuality a sin. She would never publicly say or do anything remotely homophobic, but I am pretty sure that she would not knowingly socialize with g@y people in her own home, nor would she permit her children to do so. She also lives in a community where most residents share her faith. If any of her children are g@y, they would be deeply closeted.

So I was very, very puzzled.

Before asking her or another relative who knows her better, I did a bit of Googling. It turned out to be a end of-the-year party for the Lobo Grande Baton Twirlers.
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #6340 on: January 09, 2013, 02:49:42 PM »
The Darwin fish post reminded me of this (details fudged, name invented):

I have a relative who lives far away from me. We aren't particularly close (she's a perfectly nice person, but we have little in common), but since she's an avid user of Facebook, I'm always seeing what she's up to. 

However, my jar dropped when she wrote that she was running around getting ready to host a LGBT party for her teenager. You see, she and her whole family are an active and devout members of a faith that considers homosexuality a sin. She would never publicly say or do anything remotely homophobic, but I am pretty sure that she would not knowingly socialize with g@y people in her own home, nor would she permit her children to do so. She also lives in a community where most residents share her faith. If any of her children are g@y, they would be deeply closeted.

So I was very, very puzzled.

Before asking her or another relative who knows her better, I did a bit of Googling. It turned out to be a end of-the-year party for the Lobo Grande Baton Twirlers.

Thank goodness I wasn't drinking anything when I read that!




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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #6341 on: January 09, 2013, 03:43:31 PM »
LOLOL  ;D 

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #6342 on: January 09, 2013, 03:53:47 PM »
Honestly though, if you think about it, Lobo Grande Baton Twirlers would be a perfect pseudo name for an underground LGBT group!!   :)

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #6343 on: January 09, 2013, 04:16:11 PM »
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When I forget a password and have to reset it.

Gah, our email system at work makes my brain hurt.  I recently had to change my password, and knowing how picky it was, I carefully read all the rules.  Mix of upper and lower case - check.  At least one non-alphabetic character - check.  At least eight characters long - check.  Can't be too similar to your last five passwords - check.

I trumphantly entered it and was promptly told "NOT COMPLEX ENOUGH".  That's it.  No explanation about how to make it more "complex". 

After trying five more times, I finally gave up and used the "generate a new password for me" function - which I promptly forgot.   >:(

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #6344 on: January 09, 2013, 04:35:27 PM »
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When I forget a password and have to reset it.

Gah, our email system at work makes my brain hurt.  I recently had to change my password, and knowing how picky it was, I carefully read all the rules.  Mix of upper and lower case - check.  At least one non-alphabetic character - check.  At least eight characters long - check.  Can't be too similar to your last five passwords - check.

I trumphantly entered it and was promptly told "NOT COMPLEX ENOUGH".  That's it.  No explanation about how to make it more "complex". 

After trying five more times, I finally gave up and used the "generate a new password for me" function - which I promptly forgot.   >:(

I worked at a place that trotted out a very high security, state-of-the-art-secret, database for our very private, private information.  To make sure it was really secure, we had to come up with a non-word password that contained capital letters, numbers and special symbols.  We couldn't reuse and it could tell if we were trying to use numbers to replace letters to make it look like a real word. (So passwords like C00kie$ were out.) So in essence, we had to remember a new 8 letter combination of gibberish  every 30 days.

On 90% of the workstations, there was a sticky note with the password to the very secret database.  Security WIN!


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