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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #6765 on: January 30, 2013, 10:34:11 AM »
Still on topic, but related to birthdays - my older daughter's birthday is December 21.  It's amazing how many people assume that she gets cheated out of presents, or that we consider her birthday to be less "special" because it's so close to Christmas.
My birthday is also 21st and some of my friends and family do give me one present a year.

I had a brain hurty argument with someone about my birthdate versus my age. They insisted that becuase I was born in 1979 I must be 34 this year (the entire year). But they could not grasp that that only applies on the last 10 days of the year, you know, AFTER my 34th birthday at the end of this year. They resolutely insisted I was counting my birthdays wrong.

I thought I was the only one who had that conversation! My birthday is at the end of November and several people have argued with me about how old I am.

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« Reply #6766 on: January 30, 2013, 11:10:28 AM »
Still on topic, but related to birthdays - my older daughter's birthday is December 21.  It's amazing how many people assume that she gets cheated out of presents, or that we consider her birthday to be less "special" because it's so close to Christmas.
My birthday is also 21st and some of my friends and family do give me one present a year.

I had a brain hurty argument with someone about my birthdate versus my age. They insisted that becuase I was born in 1979 I must be 34 this year (the entire year). But they could not grasp that that only applies on the last 10 days of the year, you know, AFTER my 34th birthday at the end of this year. They resolutely insisted I was counting my birthdays wrong.

I thought I was the only one who had that conversation! My birthday is at the end of November and several people have argued with me about how old I am.

So it's not just me?  I'm a late October birthday and my school district's cut-off for Kindy was October 31st.  Right after that they realized that some of the kids starting were just Too Young and changed it to September 1st (which was in line with other schools in the area.)  So I was always the youngest one in the class and spent all of school with people telling me I didn't know my own age on my birthday.  I had a prolonged argument when I turedn 14 with a boy telling me that I was too stupid to know my own age which was 15.  (And he later wondered why I was not wanting to go out with him.)

Not to mention, I once had to write a 20 page autobiography for a writing class in college.  I wrote a series of stories about how specific events in my life marked new eras of thinking.  I referenced these with ages and grades.  My professor changed my ages with a red pen.  (She was an over-excited grad student who was determined to whip us into shape.)  For instance, when I said I was 10 and in 5th grade, she said I was 11 because 5th graders turn 11.  Even if I hadn't had that odd loophole in starting school, there are at least a quarter of kids who are born in the summer and who will never ever be 11 in 5th grade.

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« Reply #6767 on: January 30, 2013, 11:12:29 AM »
And to add, there was one time when my roommate asked my mother, "Did you know that Snowflake is turning 20 tomorrow?"

My mother's response was, "It took me 36 hours to get her out.  How could I forget it?"

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #6768 on: January 30, 2013, 11:15:03 AM »
And to add, there was one time when my roommate asked my mother, "Did you know that Snowflake is turning 20 tomorrow?"

My mother's response was, "It took me 36 hours to get her out.  How could I forget it?"

My mom forgot my birthday once so yeah - I can see it happening. The best part was that we were discussing what to do for my birthday and the phone rang and my mom says "Wolfie's bday? no we don't have any plans for that day"

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« Reply #6769 on: January 30, 2013, 11:55:27 AM »
And to add, there was one time when my roommate asked my mother, "Did you know that Snowflake is turning 20 tomorrow?"

My mother's response was, "It took me 36 hours to get her out.  How could I forget it?"

My mom forgot my birthday once so yeah - I can see it happening. The best part was that we were discussing what to do for my birthday and the phone rang and my mom says "Wolfie's bday? no we don't have any plans for that day"

My mother always forgot my birthday. She would confuse it with my cousin's, a day earlier. I'd always tease her, "Mom, weren't you THERE?"

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« Reply #6770 on: January 30, 2013, 12:27:33 PM »
And to add, there was one time when my roommate asked my mother, "Did you know that Snowflake is turning 20 tomorrow?"

My mother's response was, "It took me 36 hours to get her out.  How could I forget it?"

My mom forgot my birthday once so yeah - I can see it happening. The best part was that we were discussing what to do for my birthday and the phone rang and my mom says "Wolfie's bday? no we don't have any plans for that day"

My mother always forgot my birthday. She would confuse it with my cousin's, a day earlier. I'd always tease her, "Mom, weren't you THERE?"

My dad once forgot my birthday until he turned on the news and realized that it was the anniversary of the 9/11 attacks (yep, my birthday is 9/11).

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #6771 on: January 30, 2013, 01:15:41 PM »
And to add, there was one time when my roommate asked my mother, "Did you know that Snowflake is turning 20 tomorrow?"

My mother's response was, "It took me 36 hours to get her out.  How could I forget it?"

My mom forgot my birthday once so yeah - I can see it happening. The best part was that we were discussing what to do for my birthday and the phone rang and my mom says "Wolfie's bday? no we don't have any plans for that day"

My mother always forgot my birthday. She would confuse it with my cousin's, a day earlier. I'd always tease her, "Mom, weren't you THERE?"

My dad once forgot my birthday until he turned on the news and realized that it was the anniversary of the 9/11 attacks (yep, my birthday is 9/11).

Age 14.  I delibrately didn't mention to anyone that my birthday was coming up.  Not a single person remembered.  :(  I forgave my friends; to be honest, I couldn't remember the exact day of their birthdays either.  My sister was forgiven since the birthday card was mailed before my birthday, it just didn't arrive in time.  I was very upset that my mother forgot, though.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #6772 on: January 30, 2013, 01:15:45 PM »
Babybartfast was born on my parents' anniversary.  She arrived while they were on a two-week vacation to Germany to celebrate said anniversary.  When I called to tell them the news, I included a "Happy Anniversary!" and my dad's first reaction was "Wait, it's our anniversary?"

He tried to backpedal and say he was just confused by the time change and wasn't sure of the date (yeah, right) but since Babybartfast is the first grandchild and he can remember her birthday easily, he now remembers his anniversary too!  The kicker: it's three days before his own birthday, and the day before my sister's, so you'd think that whole week would kind of stick in his brain!

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #6773 on: January 30, 2013, 02:06:54 PM »
I have a friend whose birthday and wedding anniversary are both on February 14.   You would think that her husband would never, ever forget that date.  You'd be wrong.

One time, my husband and I were invited out to dinner by friends of ours, who had gotten married on June 6 1993.  The date they chose for the dinner was June 6 2003.  "Aw, how nice - they planned an anniversary dinner and included us," we thought.  Nope.  When we offered a toast to their 10th anniversary, they both stared at us blankly.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #6774 on: January 30, 2013, 02:26:56 PM »
Regarding the stories about not knowing your own age, I had a similar discussion with my oldest daughter one year, but in reverse. She was going to turn 18 at the end of the year (December birthday) but somehow got confused.  She kept insisting that since the year was 2010 she was already 18. It took a lot of explaining to get her to see her error. I'm still not sure what happened as she had never made that kind of mistake before.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #6775 on: January 30, 2013, 02:37:33 PM »
I cut people slack if it's near their birthdays. I was answering screening questions recently, and one of them was "how old are you?" and I said "48. No, wait, forty-nine" and then told her "but I know my birthday is thus-and-such." The annoying thing is that this wasn't a couple of days after my birthday, but a couple of months.

This may be because these aren't ages that are socially or legally significant, like being old enough to vote or drink or collect social security or the round numbers that are a big deal to some people.
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #6776 on: January 30, 2013, 04:07:31 PM »
I was at work having a casual conversation with some co-workers, one of whom was the same age  I was.

For some reason during the conversation, I mentioned that I was 32.  Other co-worker looked at me and said - Excuse me?  we are both 34.

I was quite upset to find that I was 2 years old than I thought I was.


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« Reply #6777 on: January 30, 2013, 04:20:10 PM »
My bff will round up her age if she's within 4 months of her birthday.   I think it's kind of funny as she's possibly the only woman I know who makes herself older than she is.   

Friend: That's what happens when you're 57.
Me: Hon, you're 56. 
Friend: Well I will be 57 soon
Me: laughing Yeah, in March.  It's October, m'dear. 

She always does that.  Come Halloween this year she'll be saying she's 58.  I'm not one to lie about my age but I'm not going to claim I'm 35 until my birthday.  Why rush?  Though I'll admit this past year I couldn't remember if I was turning 34 or already was 34. I had to do the math to check. 

One office I worked in, some girls were playing "let's guess how old we each are!"  The office manager, knowing I had kids in elementary school, said "You're 29." I said she was close as I'd be turning 29 that November. 

Another girl in her early 20's said "I wouldn't have guessed you were that old!" I blinked at her and she blushed and laughed, saying "I just mean you look younger!"  I'm still in touch with her on fbook and can't wait till she turns 29.  >:D
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #6778 on: January 30, 2013, 04:27:45 PM »
I do like your friend.  Once I get close to my birthday, I just add one year.  That makes the transition easier.  Plus, after a certain age, what's one more year? :P

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #6779 on: January 30, 2013, 04:29:42 PM »
MIL started telling people she was 65 when she was in her early 50s, so they'd all tell her she looked good for her age and she'd "be ready for it."  Then when she turned 65, she started telling people she was 75.  (She's turning 70 this summer, so we'll see how long the trend continues!)  It is hard to guess her age - her hair went all white in her 30s (which corresponds to when DH was little, but I digress) and she has good skin, so she looks like she could be anywhere from 50 to 80.


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