Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt

[Midnight Kitty]

So, about two weeks after DS3 was born, I was out shopping with my older two.  Of course I was an emotional mess.  DS3 was still in NICU, barely hanging on to life.  DS2 was 11 months old.  At some point, he wanted a bottle and I gave him one.  That's when the SS verbally attacked me and told me "it was obvious that I didn't love my child, since I'd never feed him that poison if I cared at all for him."

Um, yeah.  You can imagine how well that went over.

How long was the SS in the hospital?  Or did they live that long?

[Midnight Kitty]

Could we please move the breastfeeding talk to another thread?

Oops! Sorry.  I know I'm supposed to read to the end before posting.

[JenJay]

I had insomnia last night and ended up coming down to the couch to sleep, finally falling asleep at about 4:30am. At 7am the kids started getting up for school and DH got up as well, everyone moving around the house woke me and I got up to help the kids with a few things. At 7:30 DH told me to go up to bed and he'd come wake me in a few hours. I had just drifted off at about 7:45 when I heard someone crossing our very creaky bedroom floor. I looked up to find DH there who said "Did I wake you? I was just checking to make sure you were asleep." I said "Well, I was..." and thought "When I'm coherent again this is going in the brain hurt thread!"

I know he was just being concerned, and I love him for taking care of me, but yeah. 

[Lynn2000]

I had insomnia last night and ended up coming down to the couch to sleep, finally falling asleep at about 4:30am. At 7am the kids started getting up for school and DH got up as well, everyone moving around the house woke me and I got up to help the kids with a few things. At 7:30 DH told me to go up to bed and he'd come wake me in a few hours. I had just drifted off at about 7:45 when I heard someone crossing our very creaky bedroom floor. I looked up to find DH there who said "Did I wake you? I was just checking to make sure you were asleep." I said "Well, I was..." and thought "When I'm coherent again this is going in the brain hurt thread!"

I know he was just being concerned, and I love him for taking care of me, but yeah. 

A co-worker was telling me how when her son was an infant, she would poke at him and wake him up while he was sleeping, to make sure he was still alive--she was a very nervous first-time parent. I will admit to having stared at certain people to make sure they were still breathing in their sleep, but actually waking someone up seems a little counterintuitive to me.

[LB]

I had insomnia last night and ended up coming down to the couch to sleep, finally falling asleep at about 4:30am. At 7am the kids started getting up for school and DH got up as well, everyone moving around the house woke me and I got up to help the kids with a few things. At 7:30 DH told me to go up to bed and he'd come wake me in a few hours. I had just drifted off at about 7:45 when I heard someone crossing our very creaky bedroom floor. I looked up to find DH there who said "Did I wake you? I was just checking to make sure you were asleep." I said "Well, I was..." and thought "When I'm coherent again this is going in the brain hurt thread!"

I know he was just being concerned, and I love him for taking care of me, but yeah. 

A co-worker was telling me how when her son was an infant, she would poke at him and wake him up while he was sleeping, to make sure he was still alive--she was a very nervous first-time parent. I will admit to having stared at certain people to make sure they were still breathing in their sleep, but actually waking someone up seems a little counterintuitive to me.

I was also a very nervous first time parent when my son was a baby. He slept in a Rock and Play next to our bed for the first few months. A couple of times, when I would lean over to check on him, my eyes would not focus well enough to concentrate on if his chest or tummy was moving up and down. So, I would gently stroke his cheek to see if he would twitch. 

Yeah, it was a risk it would wake him. But it never did and I was reassured.

It did make my DH's brain hurt the couple of times he saw me do it though.

[nuit93]

I had insomnia last night and ended up coming down to the couch to sleep, finally falling asleep at about 4:30am. At 7am the kids started getting up for school and DH got up as well, everyone moving around the house woke me and I got up to help the kids with a few things. At 7:30 DH told me to go up to bed and he'd come wake me in a few hours. I had just drifted off at about 7:45 when I heard someone crossing our very creaky bedroom floor. I looked up to find DH there who said "Did I wake you? I was just checking to make sure you were asleep." I said "Well, I was..." and thought "When I'm coherent again this is going in the brain hurt thread!"

I know he was just being concerned, and I love him for taking care of me, but yeah. 

A co-worker was telling me how when her son was an infant, she would poke at him and wake him up while he was sleeping, to make sure he was still alive--she was a very nervous first-time parent. I will admit to having stared at certain people to make sure they were still breathing in their sleep, but actually waking someone up seems a little counterintuitive to me.

I do this with one of our cats--she's nearly 16 and gave me a scare once by lying on her side and not moving or showing any signs of breathing.  I couldn't yell at her since she's deaf.  I shook her a little--nothing.  Panicked phone call to boyfriend.  Shook her some more, harder.

She woke up...and boy, was she mad!

[Luci45]

A co-worker was telling me how when her son was an infant, she would poke at him and wake him up while he was sleeping, to make sure he was still alive--she was a very nervous first-time parent. I will admit to having stared at certain people to make sure they were still breathing in their sleep, but actually waking someone up seems a little counterintuitive to me.

I just touched them enough to make them react slightly. (I did it before they were born, too.)

And, yes, it really irritates me when someone asks me if I'm asleep. Well, I was halfway there and your voice woke me up. It better be important!.

[Barney girl]

I can't think why I did this, but when I was small I used to go up to my brother's bedroom and lift his eyelids to see what he was like asleep.   He never woke up. I think I only did it a couple of times, but why I started and why I stopped I can't think.

I also once made the mistake of bending over our dog when he was asleep. He woke up startled. I jumped back, with the dog hanging off the end of my nose ( he was a Jack Russell terrier). I ended up with a wonderful black eye and can still feel a bit of a bump there.

[Kimblee]

Several years ago I was in a Education Service Center class for teachers about computers. You were supposed to be an advanced computer user to take the class. We were given our laptops. The people at my table opened them - and raised their hands to announce their computers were broken. I explained several times that you had to press the power button and was told no laptops turn on when you open them.


We came back for our Saturday class - and several explained they couldn't get their homework done because they couldn't get on line. The teachers went around to trouble shoot. For the lady nearest me it turned out that she expected to get on the Region IV wifi from her house.


Region IV ESC is in Houston off 290 between the tollway and 290. The lady lived in either Pasadena (30 miles away)  or Beaumont (90 Miles away)


About that point I resigned myself to spending Wednesday evenings and Saturdays a couple times a month for 6 months pounding my head on the table. The class went from an advanced class to a basic class very quickly.




On a similar vein an election year during a primary. My school was a polling place. I got called out of my classroom and asked how do we hook the D and R parties laptops to our wifi. (These were not voting machines but a way for them to redirect people to the correct polling places and make reports of problems)


I said What wifi? We don't have wifi.


Principal - but you got on wifi to find me x information. (Something blocked by our filters but he needed it)


Me - that was my personal  AT&T USB stick and the connection requires me to stand on my head with my fingers in my ears. (maybe 3G - I still had a flip phone got my first Iphone the next generation) I don't have enough minutes for them to stay on line all day and I'm not going to stay till after 7 pm.


Principal - OK we will unplug councilor's computer and plug them into her drop.
My answer Wouldn't it be easier to just have them use her computer, besides I don't have a cord long enough (would have needed about 50 feet). Besides I got yelled at for plugging a non district laptop into the network last month (not much because a tech told me to). Why don't you call (Head of IT )and have them fix this. I don't have the authority to do any of this. (I'm classroom teacher not even Campus Instructional Technology Specialist)


One party said forget it we will just use our phones to call in. The other huffed and puffed that we were disrupting the election process. IT ended up stringing a ethernet cable along the ceiling to the Councilor's office and turning on an extra drop in there.


For the general elections that year - I sent an e-mail to our principal, AP, and the councilor reminding them to call IT and make arrangements.


We now have 3 wifi networks 1 for laptops, 1 for District IOS devices, and 1 for guests. The same guy still throws fits because the guest network kicks you off every 30 minutes.  We also aren't a polling place as often. Not since they scheduled a run off the same day as the TAKS (kiss the ring) Test and couldn't understand why TEA didn't want people on campus during the (bow down) almighty test)

Oh man! You just gave me trauma flashbacks. TAAS and TAKS were the nasty words in our house.

Weirdly, I always (except one year) did great on them. But the leading up to them was always brutal. And one year they lost my essay portion to the english test and I failed my grade because of it. (How they lost it is a great mystery. If I remember correctly the thing was attatched to the booklet! But seven kids' essays disappeared.)

[Kimblee]

I had insomnia last night and ended up coming down to the couch to sleep, finally falling asleep at about 4:30am. At 7am the kids started getting up for school and DH got up as well, everyone moving around the house woke me and I got up to help the kids with a few things. At 7:30 DH told me to go up to bed and he'd come wake me in a few hours. I had just drifted off at about 7:45 when I heard someone crossing our very creaky bedroom floor. I looked up to find DH there who said "Did I wake you? I was just checking to make sure you were asleep." I said "Well, I was..." and thought "When I'm coherent again this is going in the brain hurt thread!"

I know he was just being concerned, and I love him for taking care of me, but yeah. 

A co-worker was telling me how when her son was an infant, she would poke at him and wake him up while he was sleeping, to make sure he was still alive--she was a very nervous first-time parent. I will admit to having stared at certain people to make sure they were still breathing in their sleep, but actually waking someone up seems a little counterintuitive to me.

Hand mirror. Seriously.

When we first got my baby cousins living with us, Girl!Cousin was kinda sickly and my mom would wake her up to make sure she was still alive.

So I got my makeup mirror, held it beside her nose and mouth and showed mom the steam. Until that poor kid was four, a compact sat on the table beside her bed. Then when I tried to put it back in my purse she cried because it was "hers" so I give it to her.

[Snooks]

My bank, again.  The claim they tried to phone me (but didn't leave a message), then wrote to me to say they needed me to call this person between 9-5 Monday-Friday or I could email them.  As 9-5 is also when I work I can't call them so I emailed asking what needed to discuss with me, their response "It's best you come into branch as we can't deal with this over the phone".  Why didn't they just send me a letter asking me to go into branch?!

[goldilocks]

Recently, I bought a new set of luggage - 1 very large bag, a smaller one, and an overnighter.   I've used the smaller bags since then, but I haven't had the need for the larger bag.

So, I'm now going out of town for business for over a week.  Last night I went into the attic to get the large bag down, and couldn't find it.  The smaller ones were there, but not the large.

ME:  I can't find that bag anywhere.
DH:  Did you look in the attic (as I'm descending the attic ladder for the 2nd time)
ME:  Yes, and I looked in the shed.
DH:  Did you look in our closet?
ME:  Yes
DH:  The spare closet?
ME:  Yes, and the garage.
DH:  Are you sure the set came with a large bag?

Now, he nearly had me there, as I hadn't yet used the large bag, but I was sure I did have one = but at this point I start questioning my sanity.

I looked in all locations again.

As I'm heading up the attic for the 3rd time:

DH:  Did anyone borrow it?
ME:  Well, no one has been anywhere, and I just bought this right before Christmas.
DH:  What about daughter #2?
ME:  She has her own luggage.
DH - dials phone for #2.  I hear this side of the conversation:

Hey.   You didn't happen to borrow some luggage from us did you?  Oh, you did?  Is it black?  It is?   Oh, I loaned it to you?  Ok, can you bring it back?

After an hour of watching me search the house - he finally remembers that he loaned it to her over a month ago.

[Shalamar]

Speaking of waking people up, when our first daughter was a newborn, she would sleep for several hours at a stretch in the night.  We thought this was great.  Our doctor, not so much.  "Infants shouldn't sleep that long between feedings.  You have to wake her up and feed her."  That seemed brain-hurty to me, but we did it - ONCE.   The poor wee thing cried so hard, we couldn't feed her, so we just rocked her back to sleep.   Then we looked at each other and said "That was dumb.  Let's never do that again."

[Outdoor Girl]

Then we looked at each other and said "That was dumb.  Let's never do that again."

OK, I just laughed.  My mother, who was a nurse, said that although establishing a schedule was important, you never wake a sleeping baby!

[kherbert05]

Oh man! You just gave me trauma flashbacks. TAAS and TAKS were the nasty words in our house.

Weirdly, I always (except one year) did great on them. But the leading up to them was always brutal. And one year they lost my essay portion to the english test and I failed my grade because of it. (How they lost it is a great mystery. If I remember correctly the thing was attatched to the booklet! But seven kids' essays disappeared.)

Yikes I bet heads rolled over that.


A few years ago a troubled student burned down a historic HS near me. The TAKS tests had been counted and locked up the principals' office to be shipped back to TEA. They burned. The kids had to retake that round of tests - there were death threats against the boy and his family.